I met this boy a while back and since the beginning we seemed to like each other a month and a half later we got drunk and I took his v card and after that it kind of seemed like we were a thing so almost 2 months into it I asked if he wanted to meet my mom because I started to see him as someone I wanted something serious with and a week later he cut things off with me but kept flirting with me as if nothing happened and then we went into a friends with benefits kind of thing for like 3 weeks and then he demanded exclusivity from me but I said no and got super drunk and convinced him to try something serious but the next day I kissed someone I had history with and he found out. but I also told him, he told me he wanted to just be friends like no more friends with benefits or anything of that sort, he kind of talks to me in person or in a gc we have with friends, but this weekend I tried to show him I stopped drinking and smoking cuz he hates when I do that to show him im changing because I regret kissing the person and I even unfollowed that person everywhere, I sent him a text and had no response and later went to a party where he was at he said hi to me and would jokingly step on me but then he started to flirt with a girl right in my face and I would go upstairs and come back to where he was and he wouldn't be with her but he would see me and go talk to her again and the next day someone in our friend gc asked if someone got with the girl and we kept talking about other things and I said jokingly that he got with her 50+ messages later he replied only to what I said with and I quote "I would have but she left" which isn't true cuz he would only go talk to her when I was there and after the party he just liked the message I had sent him earlier... is there a chance I can get him back or just be realistic and leave him alone?
Should I try to get him back or give up?
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It seems like the situation with this boy is quite complicated and there may be trust issues to work through. It's important to remember that relationships require mutual trust, respect, and communication in order to be successful, and it doesn't seem like these elements are present in your current situation.
It's worth considering whether or not you truly want to be in a relationship with someone who has treated you in this way. It's important to prioritize your own emotional well-being and to be with someone who values and respects you.
If you do decide that you want to pursue a relationship with him again, it may be helpful to have an honest and open conversation about your feelings and what you both want out of the relationship. It's important to communicate clearly and to listen to each other's perspectives in order to move forward in a healthy and positive way.
However, it's also important to be realistic about the situation and to consider whether or not it's worth investing more time and emotional energy into a relationship that may not be healthy or fulfilling for you.
The decision of whether or not to try to get him back is up to you, but it's important to prioritize your own emotional needs and well-being.