Every time I say I'm done trying to date my friends and family tell me, "don't give up because right when you're ready to quit you'll find it". But that's bull to me at this point. I've tried dating apps, I've tried meeting people in public, I have even minded my own business and let people walk up to me while I wasn't even looking for love, and the same thing happens every trip. I just don't know if I should keep chasing something that might not be meant for me, regardless of how much I want it.
I am a handsome young man, I have a good job, in great physical shape, I have a great family, great friends, good hobbies, and am a very wholesome person. It's not just me saying that, my friends say it to me all the time. Now I don't think being who I am means I should be able to get whatever girl I want, I don't believe that at all. But sometimes I just wish I could not be single all the time. I just don't want to go through life alone. Naturally I'm a nice person, but I know that nice guys finish last. I've tried the attentive approach, I've also tried the neglectful approach, both have failed me. My attempt at the former is when I realized that dating just might not be for me because I can't be someone I'm not just to impress someone.
That aside, I am considering just not dating anyone. I've done a lot of work on myself and just think it would be nice to share a special kind of affection with, but it just isn't working out and I don't know if it ever will. I even gave myself a three month pause on dating. What kind of sticks me in the side is how all of my friends are married, or parents, and they keep saying I should try but I don't think it'll work. I know relationships are a lot of work and it isn't as pretty as it looks on the surface with people, but man. I have other good things going for me, but I guess having a person just isn't supposed to be for me.
Is it wrong to think this way or should I put myself back out there?
