I am having difficult time sorting feelings I have for a girl I care about.
This girl has a troubled past, she ran away from her house at 16. She experienced abusive boyfriends, drugs (selling and using) , prostitution, and even jail for a short time. Yet she is a wonderful girl when she is in her good days
I knew all this because she told me about it as soon as we met, and I could tell all she was trying to do is running away from her past after losing her mom made her realize that she didn't want this type of life anymore. She said she felt a connection with me on the first time we spoke.
I know this girl for only 3 weeks, she might as well have lied to me about everything but I am convinced she didn't...
on the first week we met, I helped her get her own place because she was forced into living with a guy that she didn't like (he was friend of her family) and she dumped him. I was there for her just because I wanted to, not expecting anything in return, yet she gave me affection, and we started sleeping together only after she officially broke up with him. She didn't cheat on him tho and that made me really like her. But since she got her own place she has started to smoke weed and became really ''cold'' with me. Every time she smokes she just shut down herself. I felt like she doesn't want me as a lover, but at the same time she says she does but want me to be patient because every guy she had were just trying to get in her pants. When I ask her she say she doesn't even know what she wants right now, but she say she does like me and I have to be patient if I really want her.
I'm just so confused and I start to feel like I was just a gateway for her and that she is done with me now. We got into an argument and I told her how I feel about all this. She was really affected because she probably thinking that I am basically abandoning her just because she is not affectionate. She tells me she has no idea how to be like a normal girlfriend and I don't wanna force a change in her. I just don't want to lose her because even tho our relation is recent I think about her a lot, she is always in my head. I don't even know if she will still talk to me after our discussion last night.
What should be my reaction? Should I just give her time and space or should I continue trying to be in her life and be supportive even if it means dealing with her good days, and her bad days? I m I supposed to just trust her feelings even if she doesn't show it to me or should I just realize that I might be just having too much feelings and I should take it easy for now and maybe move on...All I know is I do care about her and I don't want to see her struggling. She doesn't have much people here and she doesn't even know the city that well...
This girl has a troubled past, she ran away from her house at 16. She experienced abusive boyfriends, drugs (selling and using) , prostitution, and even jail for a short time. Yet she is a wonderful girl when she is in her good days
I knew all this because she told me about it as soon as we met, and I could tell all she was trying to do is running away from her past after losing her mom made her realize that she didn't want this type of life anymore. She said she felt a connection with me on the first time we spoke.
I know this girl for only 3 weeks, she might as well have lied to me about everything but I am convinced she didn't...
on the first week we met, I helped her get her own place because she was forced into living with a guy that she didn't like (he was friend of her family) and she dumped him. I was there for her just because I wanted to, not expecting anything in return, yet she gave me affection, and we started sleeping together only after she officially broke up with him. She didn't cheat on him tho and that made me really like her. But since she got her own place she has started to smoke weed and became really ''cold'' with me. Every time she smokes she just shut down herself. I felt like she doesn't want me as a lover, but at the same time she says she does but want me to be patient because every guy she had were just trying to get in her pants. When I ask her she say she doesn't even know what she wants right now, but she say she does like me and I have to be patient if I really want her.
I'm just so confused and I start to feel like I was just a gateway for her and that she is done with me now. We got into an argument and I told her how I feel about all this. She was really affected because she probably thinking that I am basically abandoning her just because she is not affectionate. She tells me she has no idea how to be like a normal girlfriend and I don't wanna force a change in her. I just don't want to lose her because even tho our relation is recent I think about her a lot, she is always in my head. I don't even know if she will still talk to me after our discussion last night.
What should be my reaction? Should I just give her time and space or should I continue trying to be in her life and be supportive even if it means dealing with her good days, and her bad days? I m I supposed to just trust her feelings even if she doesn't show it to me or should I just realize that I might be just having too much feelings and I should take it easy for now and maybe move on...All I know is I do care about her and I don't want to see her struggling. She doesn't have much people here and she doesn't even know the city that well...
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