Hey there happy Christmas ! Well it would be a good Christmas if this woman who asked for my number first and then turned into a ghost ! Well I’m absolutely gutted !!! I got the feeling that she wanted something but for some reason she left me feeling completely confused I’m going to text her after Christmas now I need some help I need to win her back ! Would it make her feel special if I told her something like I love her WhatsApp photo and I use it for something else? If you know what I’m saying? I’m really gutted that I can’t text her and make plans to meet would it be a good idea to say how hot she is and iv had dreams about her what would she think if she thought I have sexual dreams about her? How can I make her feel so good? Help !!! What can I say to get her back? Can I say that I’m so gutted that we don’t meet up anymore? I must insist that I say something along these lines of thinking about her sexual? Would saying something like she look incredible wearing some thigh highs stockings? Or is that too much? Please what can I say to get her to text me back? I miss her so badly she originally was texting me to meet up before ! What can I say to her or not about her being sexually? Any advice will be appreciated thank you !
I was seeing a woman but she turned into a ghost I’m trying to get her back need help?
Dude, I would not send her any messages about sexual dreams or what you find hot about her. That will probably just weird her out and push her further away.
Some things to keep in mind:
- She may have lost interest for her own personal reasons, so don't take it too personally.
- Blowing up her phone with lots of intense messages will come across as needy and desperate, which is an turn off.
- Lead with being friendly, keep it casual. Ask how her holidays are going in a low-key, polite way.
- Don't overwhelm her with how much you miss her. Play it cool.
- Suggest meeting up for something fun and low pressure like getting coffee after the holidays. But also say no pressure if she's not up for it.
- If she doesn't respond or says she's not interested, accept it gracefully. Don't beg or get angry.
The key is staying confident and relaxed. Don't come on too strong sexually or emotionally. Give her space but leave the door open if you connect again. Hopefully she'll realize you're a chill dude. But try not to stress too much about 1 girl - her loss if she's not interested. Hang in there!
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Cheers mate thank you for your message I really like it because it’s very detailed the main thing is that when I met this woman she was all I wanted in my favourite type of woman and I couldn’t believe it that after a few weeks of knowing her she asked me for my number ! I could not believe it ! These things never happened a woman that I really like asked me for my number all the stress of asking her for hers was gone ! I won’t say anything about her sexuality I don’t want to be needy happy Christmas
Woah dude that's crazy she actually asked for your number! That almost never happens. You must have really impressed her somehow. I know what you mean about liking a certain type of woman too, it's the best feeling when they actually like you back. Don't wanna jinx it but it seems like you have a real shot here man! Just be cool, don't come on too strong. Happy holidays to you too mate hope it goes well with her!
Yes it is crazy and it’s never really happens when you meet a woman who is just your type and you think how can I get her number when she asked first !!! This is why I’m absolutely gutted and so very sad it really hurts bad I really don’t understand why she ghosted me this was when it was a really hot summer in UK and she texted me saying she loved having cold showers I’m not giving up on her ! I know that she wanted something thank you I’m going to let the new year come in and then I text her
Ah man that sucks, I'm sorry to hear she ghosted you out of nowhere like that! That's the worst when you really start liking a girl and things seem to be going well. I don't get why some girls do that, it's so confusing. But don't lose hope yet mate, the new year is coming up like you said. Maybe give her a little more time and space over the holidays, don't wanna come on too strong. Then do send her a text in January just checking in, see what's up. You never know, she might realize she messed up by not responding. Just play it cool and don't get mad if she doesn't reply right away. Fingers crossed for ya, hopefully she was just busy or something temporary. Don't give up yet!
Yeah is sucks so bad it’s been a year since she ghosted me and I can’t get over it ! I know she was wanting something ! I would feel better if she was at work than at home when I text her Iv researched loads about how to get a woman to text you back from ghosting I have a idea on what to say I really don’t get it why she’s done this
I know it's tough man, but it's been a whole year now - you gotta try to move on from this girl. Constantly dwelling on why she ghosted will only make you miserable. Some things to keep in mind:
- People ghost for all sorts of reasons that have nothing to do with you. Maybe she started seeing someone, had personal issues come up, who knows. Try not to take it personally.
- Texting her again after a year won't change anything. She clearly isn't interested in talking if she hasn't responded by now. Continuing to reach out will only push her further away.
- You deserve to be with someone who wants to be with you too! Don't waste any more time on this girl who doesn't seem to care.
- The best way to get over her is to keep busy - hang with the guys, pick up a new hobby, meet new girls! Stay active and put yourself out there.
- Give it some more time man. Healing takes awhile. In a few months this girl probably won't even cross your mind much anymore.
I know it's easier said than done, but try to accept there's nothing you can do to change her mind now. The healthiest thing is to shut the door on this chapter and start a new one. You've got this dude - keep your head high!
I’m not letting her go easy ! No her WhatsApp photo of her puts my heart in my head ! I haven’t met anyone who looks like her the fact that she asked me for my number these things never happen ! I’m going to try to get her to confess it’s a tactic Iv learned
Look mate, I get it, she was fit and asking for your number gave you a confidence boost. But you've gotta let go of this "tactic" idea, it'll only end badly. Forcing a confession won't change how she feels now. The best thing you can do is have some respect for yourself - don't obsess over a girl who's not giving you the time of day. Believe me, I've been there before. You think one girl is special, but there will be others just as fit who will actually like you back. Don't waste your time chasing after ghosts. Leave the ball in her court and if she doesn't come around, find someone deserving of your energy. You'll drive yourself mad waiting for closure that may never come. Better to close that chapter and keep it moving. Keep busy with the lads, hit the gym, and another catch will come along before you know it. Chin up!
Hey there, I understand you completely I don’t want to force anything it’s not good to be like that I just feel so disappointed and so wish that she never ghosted me
Hey man, don't be so hard on yourself. I know how disappointing it is to put your feelings out there for someone and then get ghosted. It really messes with your head. But beating yourself up over it won't change what happened, you know? The best thing you can do is forgive yourself and try to move forward. Dwelling on the "what ifs" is only gonna hold you back from meeting someone new who deserves your time and energy. You seem like a nice dude, so try focusing on that instead of being so down. Take some you time to do stuff you enjoy and surround yourself with the people who do care about you. You never know, maybe she'll end up realizing what she lost, but you can't wait around for that. Go easy on yourself and keep your head up - your happiness starts from within. You'll get through this!
She's gone, unavailable to you. She's probably blocked you and is not even seeing your messages. That's life. Sometimes we get dumped. We get over it and move on. There's a word for people who don't. They are called stalkers.
Asker... Sure, with the good fight but don't lose your soul. Odds are she has another man (possibly an ex) she rekindled with over Christmas and she is waiting to see what happens there. This sucks for you, but it is also common.
