Girl's Behavior 
Guy's Behavior 
Flirting 
Dating 
Relationships 
Fashion & Beauty 
Health & Fitness 
Marriage & Weddings 
Shopping & Gifts 
Technology & Internet 
Break Up & Divorce 
Education & Career 
Entertainment & Arts 
Family & Friends 
Food & Beverage 
Hobbies & Leisure 
Other 
Religion & Spirituality 
Society & Politics 
Sports 
Travel 
Trending & News 
Man, I know this sucks badly. As a matter of fact, I was in the same situation you are in about a month ago. What you have to do is let her know that you are not comfortable being friends with her right now, because you need time apart to get over the break up. So, delete her phone #, unfriend her on FB and live your life like she doesn't exist. It sucks at first, but trust me, it will get better. This also, gives you time to get your mind together and it helps you get back to normal faster. I know it's hard and I know you just want to hear her voice sometimes, but fight the urge and employ the NO CONTACT rule. You just gotta tell her, "I don't think we can be friends right now. I still have feelings for you and I know you don't want what I want right now, so I gotta move on and find someone new." I know that sounds harsh, but bro, she dumped you. You HAVE TO show her that you don't need her to be happy and you damn sure ain't going to be her doormat. I did this very thing and my ex was calling me about a week later wanting to talk about US again. If she does call you back, just be nice and act civil. Don't go professing your love to her right away. Act normal and calm, if she says something about getting together or if she says she misses you, be nice and KEEP IT SHORT. I know this sounds mean, but bro, this drives them nuts and you will be on her mind 24/7. Play like you're fine with or without her and she'll come crawling back if it's meant to be. But, DO NOT DO the FRIENDS thing. Once you end up in the friend zone, that's all your gonna be to her is a friend.
i was in this situation with my ex and I just got her back after 7 months! its hard but I was patient and there for her like I was when I was her boyfriend. yu can't force anything or buy anything to get them to come back, they have to make that choice on their own, the only thing you can do is show the person you want(ex), the best sides of you. make her remember why she fell for you in the first place
If you are serious then you need to take some time and distance yourself from her and your friendship. I know you want her and I'm telling you the opposite but seriously you need to be sure so that you and her don't get hurt. You might just be missing her and the companionship. Time will tell. In the meantime talk to her and restablish a healty friendship. Do you know why you guys even broke up?Girls like to be listened to her to. Do you have any common interests? If you do then you could plan friendly activities that she likes to do.
When you are sure that she does care for ou. I would plan activites based on what she likes to do. I would ask her to talk about the things she likes to do in life, hope, what she wants in a relationship and dreams,. I would send her a note just telling her that you think she is a great person and that you appreciate her friendship. No texting and actually send a note. Texting has replaced connection and intimacy. People text without any emotion so step it up and personalize it. When you see her responsing and onlyif she responds I would then have the conversation about you two. Let her know that you have changed and tell her why you have changed.don't tell her you changed because of her. That is never a good answer. Yes, she can motivate you to change but she can't be the reason for the change. Seriously, just take it slow you may not want her when some time has passed.
Being in this situation, many times before, I would say, start to be interested in other girls. I know this is hard and I'm not saying to give up on her all together. It seems that, when you're confident and liking other girls, that's when she will come around, believe me!
For example, I started dating my boyfriend and his ex, came running back with her tail between her legs asking things like, do you like her, are you sleeping with her, how serious is it? She's even asked him out to lunch numerous times. The more he turns her away, the more she drives me nuts and won't leave him alone. Be careful not to get other girls feelings involved. Don't hurt anyone in the process. Just date around. Be really confident, and at least, ACT like you're not interested, even if you really are. Girls love confident guys and guys who are needy, drive us nuts! Good Luck! You'll do just fine. Like I said and stress, be nice to her, act like you are busy and don't really have the time; but, DON'T BE NEEDY!
I understand still wanting to be with her. However, this really isn't healthy. Remember, you two broke up for a reason. Trying to get her back like this is the recipe for a two-course meal of heartbreak.
Opinion
4Opinion
I know this is going to be a B*&&^, but you have to wait. She needs to take the time to evaluate herself and you before trying again. She has to know whether risking her heart again is worth it or not. So in the meantime be on your best behavior, do not pressure her, and wait.
I know...love's a pain, but you have to fight for something worth fighting for--and love is that.
That's playing with her heart man, not cool. There's a reason you guys broke up and if she wants to be just friends with you, just be friends with her without using friendship as an excuse to sleep with her and date her again. Plenty of fish in the sea and all that.
yea you should stay friends. Mayb she needs some time to think about stuff. You should be there for her, but not be too pushy. Just always care and then she might realize it was right afterall. Good luck!
it would be good to be friends with her and give her space to think things through. but just in case she wants to be friends and no more, I think you should date around still just incase later on you find out she really had no intention of getting back together. don't hurt anyone just keep your options open and don't try to make her jealous just don't be too available because then she might think you are around forever
Figure out the reason she broke up with you and then change it. Make it known that you've changed in a way that she likes. Don't pressure her into getting back together. She has to be sure, after all.
~Distant
NO NO NO NO NO NO NO! Absolutely NOT! If she didn't want you before, being her friend isn't going to get you there. Chances are nothing will, but nothing will fail quite as spectacularly as trying to ride the friendzone back into her pants.
I feel like every crappy piece of pop culture that has a plot like this should print in tiny letters on the bottom: THIS IS A WORK OF FICTION. DO NOT ATTEMPT.
friends first is the best. you have enough time to get to know each other, and be there for one another. then you will eventually see if being together would be better than just friends.
i am in the EXACT SITUATION WITH MY EX...with him saying he could see us together one day...wnts to be friends...are each others' first etc
SUCKS EY!
You need to let her go. Do your own thing and if she comes back then you have more experiences to compare her to.
Careful, you could get stuck in the friend zone forever. Maybe do no contact for a while and see if she comes looking for you.
You can also add your opinion below!
Most Helpful Opinions