Is it true that women are not attracted to average looking men?

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RavVid · Accepted Answer

I got some insight whilst on hols.

It has been a constant frustration to me at my local cafe that women spend so goddamned long choosing what meal they want, oblivious to a queue forming behind them and thirsty men wanting to order jugs of beer before happy hour finishes. No consideration at all. All about them.

When on hols we hadn't booked accommodation for the second week because my traveling companion didn't want to plan in even the most rudimentary way. The day before we had to check out she finally considered having somewhere to stay next day was advantageous. I was 10 minutes - this is on budget and has what we need.

She insisted on looking for other airbnb's. It was painful. She was looking at arbnb's that didn't meet budget or missed on the minimum reqs.

Then I realized what she was doing. She was goddamned berry picking. She was looking for the brightness red, most lustrous berry and she wasn't going to be content till she turned up every leaf to check if the perfect berry was behind it. Eventually she conceded to the first on budget on amenities airbnb I found.

It took all day for her to berry pick. 7% of a very expensive holiday went on her berry picking because we didn't do anything else the entire day.

Same as those annoying women at the cafe agonizing over which dish will be the most delectable berry to choose.

Gentlemen, I ask you how often does a women make her decision on the menu before you? It does sometimes happen but not often. Even though she knows she is going to order lasagna, as she always does, she is still going to agonize over her choice.

It is in their genes to agonize over finding the best berry.

They are gong to do that in mate selection too. An average looking man is gong to look like a tart green berry. Highly undesirable.

And so it is on dating apps. A better looking man will cause the girl to discard all the others as tart green sour berries. Apart from this it is in their interests to get knocked up to the best genes - all that standard evolutionary stuff.

lightbulb27 · Accepted Answer

false. very false.

they are attracted to an emotional connection. that connection may include "good looking". Average looking... is sufficient. Everyone likes "good looking". But that alone, will not convince them and maybe less so, than men attracted to womens looks.

this of course will. depend upon the woman and how she sees herself image and value. A "high end" woman may not go for average looking and hold out for what she wants. However, if she's been burned and hurt, she may not care as much about this attribute and rather go for other aspects of quality of the person.

wiltingrosepetal · Accepted Answer

This belief that all men have to be super buff otherwise no women will give them a shot just proves men have no IDEA what we think is hot. I mean, I can guarantee men don't think of Bill Skarsgard, Tom Hiddleston or Timothee Chalamet as attractive. But we sure as hell do. If you're average looking, style your hair pretty and dress like you're from the 1800s. We will drool.

bobalife · Accepted Answer

I’ve definitely seen beautiful women with guys who aren’t good looking to me or what people may find as “average”
I think I’ve also found “average” looking men attractive previously as well
Everyone has their own preferences and what they find as attractive. Hope you feel better if you’re feeling down on yourself~

worldscolide · Answer

If you believe the dating apps and social media, yes..

But let me tell you something, those women that push this idea that all women don't want average guys, are pieces of shit them selves. They bring nothing to the table other than attractiveness and sex.

Real women are better than that.. I should know, I married a small town conservative girl who is WAY out of my league. I've been with her for 11 years and I'm constantly wondering how in hell I have her. But I'm not complaining, the fact that she is with me drives me to be a better man every single day.

So I would say your premise is bullshit, save for on social media and dating app, and you definitely don't want women from either of those two.

jshm2 · Answer

No. Don't be silly.

The "secret" to attraction is getting into the head. It's how advertising works too.

People will take on debt to buy shit average cars, then months later complain about "quality". Bitch YOU put down the money to buy it, they told you what they were about and you ignored it.

With women, it's similar. Most of those "pretty" chicks are either fucking psycho, or have the personality and mental strength of a 10 year old. Ever wonder why celebrities and rich men cheat so much? It's because their partners are too much hard work and not worth it.

So it's meaningless to go by "attraction" as most of the time it's puffery and fake anyway. But you as an average guy need to make clever decisions if you want a better life.

sage2021 · Answer

Nothing wrong with an average looking guy.
In fact, I have worked with many men from telephone installers to scientist's and it was the average guys that were solid in their relationships and married more than good looking guys.

And they seem to be more family oriented and good breadwinners too.

TycheKairos · Answer

Not true. In such a case, apart from the handsome men, the other men would be completely alone, and since men would do the same, there would be beauty queens. You know that's not true. Every seller has a buyer.

Lliam · Answer

Of course it's not true. What is "average" anyway?

Have you ever looked around when you are outside? Do you only see exceptional-looking guys with girlfriends?

Besides, there's more to attraction than looks, especially when it comes to what women are after.

Only douche bags like Andrew Tate promote the idea that looks and money are all that's important. People like him peddle insecurity for a living, just like the makeup, fashion and glamor industries.

Madlc · Answer

They are attracted to average looking men, who make up most of the male population.

I assume you asked this question because you feel like women aren’t attracted to you, all I can say is that most of my life I thought I was average looking until someday I looked in the mirror in an honest way and realized that I was under average.

I don’t mean to be rude but have you tried to look in the mirror and being honest with yourself?

Biancam13 · Answer

Not at all. Plenty of average-looking people are paired up. Perhaps not with beauty queens if that's what you're asking, but average-looking people commonly get into relationships.

Dinklex3 · Answer

… If you go outside have conversations with people you work with or go to school with, you can easily see plenty of your “average Joes” married and in relationships.

madewithingredients · Answer

if you have good looks that's just one box checked. you need other things to qualify. if you have enough of those other things in sufficient amounts, you might not even need good looks.

HawkPerception · Answer

Not true at all. If you don't live under a rock you'd see there are plenty of average looking men with many different types of girls.

Caroline91 · Answer

Not true for me. I am insanely attracted to authentic confidence. Give me that and suddenly average doesn’t look average at all.

4ngelic · Answer

average looking women are, pretty ones aren't

OtterMan68 · Answer

Depends. If you watch the How do I look polls, the same person can be rated a 10/10 by one person and a 5/10 by another, so who says who is average or not?

nawtee_me · Answer

This is just an assumption but it is probably the same for girls as for me. If I am attracted to a girl she is not average or ugly. She is absolutely gorgeous to me. Maybe not to others but to me she is not average.

Kelley1 · Answer

Why would they be when top 10% men will f**k them?

boggboss · Answer

I'm avrage looking and had a few women I would say are attractive show intrest in myself

thisAppIsGarbage · Answer

Absolutely not. I'm short, ugly, with a shitty personality and I've had way more pretty, cool girlfriends then I should have

Krista1224 · Answer

Depends on what is your “average”  A lot ugly guys out there who are 3 think they’re a 6 lol

Zbrody1997 · Answer

Some are just gotta find your demographic and show confidence. Plus the older a man becomes the more value he holds, so keep your head up king.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

The average man is average looking and the average man is dating, in a relationship or marriage so it's false.

CrabCakes11 · Answer

No. There is plenty of normal looking men in relationships

JacobJordan · Answer

Shitty women aren't saves you the trouble of having to filter out the trash.

genericname85 · Answer

not physically, no. but i would argue most men aren't attracted to the average looking woman either.

handsomelad70 · Answer

Then why are so many Joe Averages with hot chicks?

Unit1 · Answer

The average man is an ugly loser.

elaphe · Answer

Of course not. How many "average" looking men are married. Sometimes a person's looks "grow" on you, because you are attracted to the personality.

Anonymous · Answer

Absolutely, they'd sooner have 1 night a week with a perfect guy than 7 nights with a less perfect one

RedInnocent69 · Answer

No, attraction is less physical for women than men.

DextroShade · Answer

They are if they have money and status, otherwise no.

_piotr · Answer

Women are not attracted physically to men at all. No matter how he looks like.

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

No, it’s not true. Only men who like to play the victim card assert such things.

Pohjolan · Answer

Not if they are above average in some other way.

msc545 · Answer

It's true to some extent. A very rich man is the exception to this. Money trumps everything.

Sirenboobzilla · Answer

You can't honestly believe that this is true

Reem12345reem · Answer

only  superficial  ones

Anonymous · Answer

Everyone is someone's type.

KittygosMeoWW · Answer

I’m attracted to average and am average

LiamJHayden · Answer

I'm average and have few problems.

DishLady · Answer

Nope.

Mediterraneansoul · Answer

Remove the makeup. Everyone is average

robocop666 · Answer

yup they seem to hate them

Dan_5001 · Answer

True I'm an e. g of it

Agape93 · Answer

Nope, stop asking

Cheerguy · Answer

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