Are women just not that attracted to men?

[Anonymous]

"Women are really only attracted to men for their personality and rescources because their just not that attracted to men?
I mean they find girls more attractive and aren't turned on by the male physicality so they figure they will at least be with a partner they get along with well or can benefit their lifestyle.
its not even men that turn them on, they are turned on by themselves."
How true is this quote?

[Bandit74]

there's two types of attraction...
1. When they are looking for someone to raise kids with. This one is based mostly on the man's ability to provide and his personality.

2. Pure sexual attraction which is based mostly on looks, excitment and dominance. These are the guys who they have one night stands with and agree to be fwbs with. If you want to know what traits women find sexually attractive, just look at the men who get lots of casual sex.

The type 2 guys are more rare. The number of guys an average woman would be attracted to enough to have casual sex with is significantly smaller than the number of men she finds attractive enough to have sex with in a relationship.

Instinctively they would like to get pregnant by a guy in group 2 and then have a guy from group 1 provide for that kid that isn't his. Well ideally they would want both sperm and commitment from guy 2, but that often isn't an option.

[Proz11]

Then most relationships are prostitution, women are whores that sell their physical self to be provided for.

[Berethor]

What so great about guys personality in the first place? I mean there is many guys who are jerks. Stop asking this bullshit, girls can be attracted to guy's bode, especially if the guy is tall, just look how many girls go only for an tall guys.

[NahidSattar]

On practical notes very true but i won't blame anyone of them.
whether you like it or not women have pretty wide or vivid imaginations when they think about a "Perfect!" partner.
I am being honest with you - they do not exist. I may take a ride to the space if they do and - i am extremely confident about this.
regardless of how sexy you are - i won't get turned on, i may show you I am if i see you are usable. that could be - buying me a drink, giving me a lift or lets just say - companionship.
now, there is nothing wrong about this - the reason is - you are doing something that i - do not like!!!
man are like that! very very selfish! the moment they will get with their means they will move on or move out!
so! they are not worth to be interested in.

[Asker]

So your saying women exploit their sexuality for gain because they aren't that interested in men?

[NahidSattar]

no i am saying we don't get the right men. so we adjust. love doesn't come easy.

[deliriousmistakess]

It's not heterosexuality, it;s demisexuality.

[Anonymous]

Women are more emotionally driven then visually driven a lot of the time. If they are really in love with the guy then the sight of him is a huge turn on but the sight of some rando doesn't generally do a ton for women I know. Body parts are just body parts if your not into the person with the body parts for most of the people I know. Doesn't mean women don't get turned on just means they are not sight driven and attracted to strictly body parts... that the person attracted to the body parts matters just as much as the body parts themselves :D

[Asker]

Basically they just aren't that attracted to men as a whole.
Which as i said is why they guys with strong personalities or wealth/ power.

[Opinion Owner]

So guys are just into what a girl can offer them sexually? Guys aren't attracted to the individual because the body part alone is enough to get them going? So why even pair off if any good set of boobs, ass and vag will do?

The truth is things just aren't that simple.

[Opinion Owner]

For me sex isn't just psychical, it's an emotional connection... one with out the other just isn't going to cut it...

[Asker]

Men are strongly attracted to the female body as well as personality which is why girls expect much more from guys than guys do girls.
Girls want a protector and men want company. Men want women for women not what they offer them.

[Opinion Owner]

Oh so guys don't want women to have sex with them? They could have a perfectly fine relationship without sex or without blowjobs because they don't expect anything from her? Also what do you know about her personality if you are getting turned on by her mere appearence? How much does her personality play a role? Are you saying you have to get to know her too then or her body is just enough and the rest is just extra? Also to turn your logic on it's head: Basically guys aren't turned on by women as individuals just as a whole? They want to have sex based on appearance so basically they want to use you for your looks?

(ie- I don't beleive that but by your logic that must be how it works...)

[Opinion Owner]

I want company as well, a life long companion. I want a very best friend, inside jokes & inside looks, someone that I know inside out and that knows me inside out. Someone who puts me first and someone that I can put first. I have wanted to protect my husband from the world since we met and he said he felt the same for me. Yeah I felt no need to use him for his body when we met but that to me is a good thing because I rather a guy get to know me and fall for me rather then my body parts. I am a whole package and appreciate when the attraction is a package deal like mine

[Asker]

I would never date/ sleep with a girl i didn't care/ have feelings for.
Personality is what defines if I develop feelings, the physical attraction is what draws me in and makes me want to know them better.
Girls aren't that attracted to "men" but rather the personality.
Guys are attracted to whT makes a girl a girl, her femininity and her personality.
Girls see guys as providers and protectors while men see women as something they are strongly attracted and drawn to and as company/ friendship.
Since men are the only who provide and care for the girl nature made men more attracted so they would put up with their lack of effort towards relationships.

[Opinion Owner]

No it's the same as you just said I would never date/sleep with a guy I didn't care about and have feelings for. Same thing Dude. Women are attracted to looks and personality.. just personality usually makes him more pshysically attractive... in my opinion it's a great thing for long term relationships... since it's linked to emotion you find them more and more attractive over time :D Women see men as friendship, a partner ship as well... and having the same values and goals is important as far as long term relationships go. All the relationships I knew the girls always made far more effort and not only put him (and eventually the kids) above herself but was expected to. Yeah he may put more work in in the beginning but she does more so long term... at least in all my friends anyway. I guess it depends on who you know?

[Neverrrmore]

How many times does gag need to go over this? What do you want women to do to prove that we are attracted you all? Do you want us to start dry humping you in the grocery store check out line? Grab you by the crotch and back you up against a wall? Lick your abs? What?

[Cosytoasty]

well if you put it like that...

[Neverrrmore]

@Cosytoasty

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[Asker]

Well judging from gag's comments and the respondes on it is basically proves they just aren't that attracted to men as a whole.
Which as i said is why they guys with strong personalities or wealth/ power.

[BrittBratt2416]

Oh yeah women don't find men attractive at all.. that's why we're having sex with them and making babies. Who is coming up with this crap? Men are damn sexy and attractive..

[Asker]

Well judging from gag's comments and the respondes on it is basically proves they just aren't that attracted to men as a whole.
Which as i said is why they guys with strong personalities or wealth/ power.

[dolemite68]

lol i know right? its not like women are all nuns, they wanna get laid too

[Máiiréad]

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[Asker]

Basically they just aren't that attracted to men as a whole.
Which as i said is why they guys with strong personalities or wealth/ power.

[HappypersonT]

Women are absolutely attracted to men unless they're gay

[Asker]

Well judging from gag's comments and the respondes on it is basically proves they just aren't that attracted to men as a whole.
Which as i said is why they guys with strong personalities or wealth/ power.

[writing_essays]

I am attracted to what a man can offer me personality wise - I have NEVER liked a guy just for his looks.

[Asker]

Basically they just aren't that attracted to men as a whole.
Which as i said is why they guys with strong personalities or wealth/ power.

[writing_essays]

I am VERY attracted to personality but not biology.

[Asker]

So your bisexual?

[writing_essays]

no I'm straight and I care about looks to a certain extent but I only care about the face and body after I fall in love with the personality and the brain.

[Asker]

Can you look at guys and see them sexually and hot without knowing their personality?

[RiYad]

Hi, I have some questions
you said you only care about the face and body after I fall in love with the personality and the brain.
but why it have to be man why not woman? You care about face and body after fall in love... I don't get it. What does it mean? You can fall in love with a super ugly 70 years old guy but after fall in love... what... Actually I don't understand it what do you want to say?

You don't attract to random guys before fall in love with their personality and their brain. Then before fall in love how did you know that you are straight?

[Anonymous]

Female libido is much lower on average than a man's , any fool knows that !!! Even mediocre women have a huge number of male options , Bateman's Principle at work , the female , having the greater reproductive role , is the chooser. Women are the gatekeepers to everything in dating / mating , which is why dating is many orders of magnitude harder for the average man , than his female counterpart , he has to tick a lot of boxes first , before even getting a foot through the door.

[Kitten967]

I don't get turned on by myself. I also only have sex and only feel sexually attracted to people I have a close emotional connection with.

[Asker]

Basically they just aren't that attracted to men as a whole.
Which as i said is why they guys with strong personalities or wealth/ power.

[Kitten967]

What do you mean by strong personality? I don't think my fiancé has a strong personality and he's not wealthy or powerful

[Asker]

By strong personity i mean a personality that appeals to them.

[Kitten967]

Ah okay, well yeah I like his personality

[Asker]

And he's more turned on by u than u are him right?

[Kitten967]

I wouldn't say that, I get just as turned on by him as he does by me

[Asker]

But you wouldn't get turned on by him unless he was turned on by you

[Kitten967]

I get turned on by him without him being turned on by me actually. He doesn't have to be turned on for me to be turned on

[Asker]

May i ask what turns you on seeing as the male body does nothing for you? I mean what does it then?

[Kitten967]

Imagining what he's going to do to me, kissing him, teasing him, having him tease me, being tied up, being blindfolded

[Kitten967]

giving or receiving oral

[Asker]

Imagine what he's fonna do to you, kissing him, teasing him.
That's literally all from the basis he's turned on by you, if he wasn't turned on by any of that you wouldn't be turned on by him at all.

[Kitten967]

He doesn't have to be turned on to kiss me. He also doesn't have to be anywhere near me for me to imagine what he will Do. I can imagine things while he's not here a d get turned on so I don't need him to be with me

[Kitten967]

He also doesn't have to be turned on for me to tease him

[RiYad]

What is you sexual orientation then?
Heterosexual people sexually attracted to people without emotional connection with them. Before close emotional connection with people you never feel sexual attraction here I have a question If it is true then how did you know which gender you are interested to and which gender you are sexually attracted to? It seems like before close emotional connection with people you are asexual. Logically, if a person don't feel sexual attraction before then how does he/she know which gender attract them and which gender they are sexually attracted to and which gender they are interested to...

I don't understand your logic. Can you explain this?

[Kitten967]

Well I used to say I was bisexual since I like both men and women, but I Google it and apparently it's demisexual but I don't understand all these different sexualitys. I can find people attractive without wanting to have sex with them

[Kitten967]

I don't feel sexual attraction until I get to know someone well and if I like their personality.

[Kitten967]

I normally say I'm bisexual since its easier than explaining I only have sex or do anything sexual with someone I'm in a committed relationship with and have a strong emotional connection with them. I only have to explain that when someone asks why I don't have hook ups or one night stands or anything similar.

[RiYad]

Don't you feel attraction when you see attractive guys and attractive girls? What do I want to say... I can't explain :(

Well... What do your subconscious mind think or react when you see an attractive person?

[Kitten967]

I think that they are good looking and I'd like to get to know them

[RiYad]

Before in a committed relationship and a strong emotional connection do you find attractive person arousing and does it turn you on or arouse your thoughts? I am not talking about having actual sex. I am talking about sexual feelings. Seeing attractive person is Neutral or Arousing? and how did you find out that you were straight or gay or whatever?

[RiYad]

For me when I see sexy girls I feel tingle, nervous, sexual tension and rush of feelings hit me...
It's this very primal, very primitive feeling where I can almost feel the blood leaving the brain and rushing... lower. It starts with a slight tingle in the dingle...
Actually I can't explain my feelings :(

[Kitten967]

Before I develop a strong connection I just think they look nice, their looks don't turn me on or anything. After a strong connection I can look at them and think what it would be like to be with them sexually and that sometimes turns me on. If I just see an attractive person in the street I just think they are good looking, I don't get aroused by them. I found out I like both genders when I started thinking about one of my close female friends in a sexual way

[Kitten967]

I understand what you mean, when I see an attractive person I feel like I want to get to know them and be their friend then possibly more

[RiYad]

If you see attractive car in the street and nice roses you also think it's nice. Then what is the difference when you see attractive person and think they are nice and good looking? Obviously we see car and roses neutrally. But what about persons?

If see attractive person don't you physically attract to them or don't you feel physical attraction? When you are on the street and when it is random people your sexual sense become asleep? Did you feel sexual urge when you were single or had no emotional attachment?

What is the thing drive you to make a emotional attachment with other people. You didn't feel urge for persons when you were single?

[Kitten967]

I don't feel the urge to be sexual with people I don't know well. I didn't feel the urge when I was single, the only thing I felt was that I wanted to be friends with people I found attractive or interesting. I don't know how to explain it, I just know I don't feel sexual attraction to people I don't know well and I could never have a hook up/no strings attachted or a one night stand.

[Kitten967]

I feel the same way about a nice care or roses as I do about strangers I find attractive. I like looking at them but I wouldn't have sex with them

[RiYad]

Then you are Demisexual, closer to asexual. Demisexual is a person who does not experience sexual attraction and sexual desire unless they form a strong emotional connection with someone.

When you were single (no emotional attachment) you were asexual?

[Kitten967]

I never classified as asexual but I guess so. I just thought it was normal to not want sex or anything unless I was in a relationship and had a strong connection with someone.

[RiYad]

not want sex and not feeling sexual desire is different thing. when we see someone really sexy and hot we feel warm, we feel excited, sensation and it's a subconscious process, we can't control it. it is attraction and it is independent it's little to do with whether you have strong connection with someone or not. but for wanting sex is totally different issue. we feel desire for food but which food we would like to eat it our decision (want).

after puberty every person feel sexual desire and sexual attraction to their opposite sex whether they have strong connection with someone or not except demisexual and asexual but which person you want to have sex it's all about your conscious decision. desire and want is not same. hope you understand :)

[fueledbythc]

That is completely untrue. Straight women are physically attracted to men and I can tell when a girl finds me attractive. there's a difference between interest and attraction. You see it through their body language.

[pr3ttybr0wn]

This is only true if the guy is ugly. Good looking sexy men do exist.

[Asker]

Well judging from gag's comments and the respondes on it is basically proves they just aren't that attracted to men as a whole.
Which as i said is why they guys with strong personalities or wealth/ power.

[Coconutty]

This is a myth that guys constantly whine about on here. I'm so tired of it.

[Asker]

Well may i ask what you find attractive in men then beyond personality and providor behaviour?

[Coconutty]

Isn't liking a man for his personality... whi he is as a person... enough for you?

[Coconutty]

I don't see why liking personality is negative?

Yes, I want someone who's "a good provider" because it means that they know how to get along in life and they have a job and are reasonably mature and responsible. But men expect the same thing from women, so what's the big deal?

What I'm taking your question is that "women only want men who make a lot of money and lavish attention on them." Which is totally false. Only a small subset of very selfish women are like that. Most of us are pretty reasonable and normal.

[Asker]

Liking a guy for his personality is 100% fine. What i dislike is thats all women appreciate men for.
They are only attracted to personality and provider potential, not the man.
Personality and ability to provide are not gender specific.
I just wish women were attracted to men beyond non gender specific traits to show they really were attracted to men for more than he can do for her.
It makes attraction begween men and women feel unspecial if they are only attracted to men for features they can find in women.

[Coconutty]

How can you separate a man from his personality? Isn't personality what makes the man who he is as a unique person?

[Asker]

Definitely but whats to stop women from seeking female companionship if personality is all they desire?
For guys its because they are attracted and stimulated by the female body.
For girls whats the reason? Men are more generous and protective?

[Coconutty]

It sounds like you're saying "women shouldn't want men because men are traditionally protectors and providers, but should like them for their personality... but just liking us for our personality is overlooking our masculine desire to be protectors and providers so you suck?"

[Asker]

Thats not what im saying.
In short im saying i dont feel women are attracted to men. They are attracted to people but not men in particular, its not males.
They are just simply attracted to personality which makes me question how much females even desire men. Whats to stop them from dating girls if all guys have to offer is personality.

[Coconutty]

Ohhhh... you think that women have no physical attraction?

[Asker]

Yes kinda lol

[Coconutty]

FALSE! I love biceps, and the little flat spot on the back of his neck/shoulders, and calves, and the way your hips are all tiny and square. I'm really attracted to slightly older guys with salt-and-pepper hair. It's not a daddy complex, I just like the look.

I love the expression on a man's face when he leans in for a kiss. So vulnerable. The way erect penises look - it's a very vulnerable thing reaching out towards you. I could go on and on. Relax, hon. We love ya.

[Asker]

But aren't women only like this after establishing an emotional connection?

[Coconutty]

No. I stare at guys in the gym when they're not looking. Where did you get this idea women don't like male bodies?

We don't get instantly horny the way guys do from looking at Sports Illustrated, but we definitely love looking at you.

[Coconutty]

The best is when I'm using a machine behind a guide, so he can't see me but I can see his arm muscles flexing the whole time. Love that! Also a great butt on a treadmill in front of me.

[Coconutty]

"Guy" not "guide"

[Asker]

2 questions
1. Ik many girls find male butts attractive but can they be arousing or just something to admire?
2. By any chance are you attracted to girls?

[Coconutty]

What? I'm done with this.

[Asker]

Im sorry

[mntkp]

Nope. Do you know how many hot guys are out there? A lot.

[Asker]

There are plenty of hot guys yes but that doesn't mean they are attracted to them.
Basically they just aren't that attracted to men as a whole.
Which as i said is why they guys with strong personalities or wealth/ power.

[mntkp]

I don't think the statement is true. If women aren't attracted to men in all ways then they probably aren't straight.

[Asker]

Women aren't sexually around by men unless they established emotional connection

[ADFSDF1996]

That might only be the case for some women but most women are attracted to men. However most women tend to be more subtle when they check out men.

[matheus_mb]

If only you knew some girls I know you'd be sure that this is a lie when you started reading it.

[MissMillionDollarMan]

I think they're libido's just maybe aren't as high as a general rule.

[Asker]

Well judging from gag's comments and the respondes on it is basically proves they just aren't that attracted to men as a whole.
Which as i said is why they guys with strong personalities or wealth/ power.

[MissMillionDollarMan]

I don't know i don't think that quote is true but you'll believe what you want

[Asker]

Well are women attracted to men before knowing their personality? Can they find strangers sexy/ arousing or just observe?

[MissMillionDollarMan]

absolutely they do

[Asker]

So your telling me females can be attracted to a guy on a pure physical level?

[MissMillionDollarMan]

absolutely who is telling you they can't? lol

[Asker]

Its kind of the impression i get when i constantly see girls here and irl saying stuff like "looks dont do anything for me", "im straight but find female more attractive", "looks dont matter, only confidence and power".
After seeing that enough time i assumed it was just men planting the idea women are visual

[MissMillionDollarMan]

women are less visual than men but no looks do matter. It is after all what usually initially attracts people. Male or female. But girls look at guys all the time and just "appreciate" their looks.

[MissMillionDollarMan]

anyone saying otherwise is a liar or lying to themselves.

[ASEXY]

Yes, I know most of them tend to be very attracted to me. They're probably just not attracted to you...

[SlitherySnake]

"A man's desire is for the woman, but the woman's desire is rarely other than for the desire of a man."- Samuel Taylor Coolridge.

[HarryBenton]

Not true at all, unless they are lesbians. Which is absolutely fine too.

[Anonymous]

Don't generalize.
Some men act in a manner they'd disgust a jackal. Some women react against that.

[Bleepasaurus_RexEwww]

I'm attracted to men... just not you.

[CarmelSunshine93]

Not true at all

[BruceTrails]

... .. not again