Why are men quick to judge single moms?

[Akam93]

[Staximus]

It's called poor life decisions. Women need to be more selective about who gets them pregnant and not have kids with random bums who are not committed to them. No woman should let a guy get them pregnant if that guy is not at least living with her and paying half the bills.

[EmpressAJ]

And in the same breath you men will tell women who don’t have kids that there’s something wrong with them if they don’t want to pro create and their standards are too high if they are celibate so pls✋😂 stop it. It’s not as simple as what you’re saying sweetheart

[Staximus]

@EmpressAJ yeah it's pretty simple. Don't let bums who aren't willing to be there for you and a child get you pregnant.

[EmpressAJ]

It’s not tho. You men will do and say anything to get laid. Even mess with much younger women u know don’t know any better to mess their lives up and impregnate them for fun and validation from your friends. How about u tell ur bitch ass friends to leave women alone they don’t actually want. You’re too old to be this ignorant 😂 you’re coming towards the middle of your life thinking this densely ….🤦‍♀️ those single moms weren’t in those rooms by themselves. If you’re gonna hold the women accountable , hold the men accountable too

[Staximus]

@EmpressAJ You're the ignorant one. Welcome to real life. Don't fuck irresponsible bums and your child will have a father in their life.

[EmpressAJ]

You don’t know what I have 😂 your old ass needs to get a life. You’ve lived half of it and you’re only excitement & fulfillment is reduced to judging women you don’t know on a keyboard.

[EmpressAJ]

And u still haven’t said a thing about the role men play in creating single moms 😂 that tells me everything I need to know.

[Staximus]

@EmpressAJ you're making all these idiotic assumptions about my character and know nothing about me. You sound like you've have sex with too many irresponsible fuck boys and bums because you thought they were "hot" "cute" or "had game" and didn't learn your lesson the first, second, or third time. Good luck with your poor life decisions.

[EmpressAJ]

Lmao you’re make this dumb ass assumptions about me too and single moms and only blaming them 😂 like it’s all their fault. Your mom is a single mom and you don’t talk to her the way u are typing about her life decision with ur dad so stfu 🤣

[EmpressAJ]

*Like it’s only their fault*

[EmpressAJ]

You don’t know who I slept with 🤣 so stop with the hypocrisy of assuming ppls character 😂

[EmpressAJ]

Good luck on living part 2 of your life in a better more mature mindset😂

[Staximus]

@EmpressAJ I Guess you have never heard of telling a guy he has to wear a condom

[EmpressAJ]

Yes but your mother clearly hasn’t tho 😂😂

[Staximus]

@EmpressAJ you probably have 3 different "babies daddies"

[Staximus]

@EmpressAJ my parents were married when I was born

[Staximus]

For 10 years

[EmpressAJ]

🥱🥱🥱

[Pohjolan]

Because agency equals accountability. Men are no longer making decisions for their women relatives which is good but refraining from making bad decisions is now up to yourself.

[XXTruthfulOgrexx]

The entire dynamic is a huge risk. I've tried dating single mothers and it always devolves into a shit show of drama and trauma.

First there is almost always issues with the children's fathers. This always brings in the mothers bad choices in dating. It can really put into perspective who your dating.

Second the children. They can really cause issues within the relationship, especially if you do not agree with hiw they are being raised or if they do not like their mother dating. As an example, one of the daughters got angry at her mother, completely unrelated to me, but chose to joyride in one of my resto modded muscle cars. She was 14 and not only totalled my car which took me 5 years to build and thousands of hours and dollars poured into it, but hit someone else's car which I had to replace.

Further, the mothers and the children will generally give you " your not the dad, you have no say" in any issues.

Then there is the emotional investment. If you do build a bond, if the relationship fails, the men have zero ability to seek any type of visitation or continued contact if the mother chooses.

Third, because of the mothers single status, you generally see relationships being pusher into overdrive because the mothers want that security. Men get pushed into marriages that were not a good decision to make her happy and they just end up divorcing and staying on the merry go round of drama.

Then the elephant in the room, finances. Overall men are expected to jump up and start taking care of the kids he had no hand in making. They are expected to step up, take over the financial responsibility but have zero input to raising or dealing with any issues and ultimately the real father, who is most likely never invested is the one who gets congratulated on the kids graduations, marriages or any other life milestones even though they invested nothing but a big goose egg in finances, emotional or real support for the same child.

All this is just a very small example of the huge risk men take. Can you find examples of healthy and balanced relationships? Absolutely, but as usual those are generally exceptions to the normal dynamic you see.

Personally, I will avoid any relationship with single mothers unless her children are of age, out on their own and living their life. My experience is that there is zero benefit and huge risk both financially and emotionally I just do not want to take again.

[CalmUntilAbused]

I believe it's due to the trend of divorce rapists and lazy bums living off social security becoming the majority of single mothers recently instead of widows and hardworking, desperate women left by scumbag husbands. Almost everyone would root for the struggling underdogs of the society, but few would support scammers, right? This is due to divorce being much more convenient to women than a lasting marriage. This leads to women taking the initiative with divorce, so that there are few desperate women left by scumbag husbands (no sane man having no connections to those in power would ever willingly ruin his life with a divorce in the first place, not even if his wife was a sadist) and much, much more divorce rapists.

[Flatmanlewis]

I don’t think that’s true at all. Many, many, men have been raised by hard working, single moms.


There certainly is a dynamic in which some men (even those not judgmental of single moms) don’t really want to date a single mom, but that’s a fair and reasonable personal choice, not really a judgement.

[madewithingredients]

Is the woman a single mom because the father is gone? Is he dead? Is he alive but around? Alive but not around?
Is she a single mom because she adopted a kid or something?
Until I knew why she has a kid, I'd refrain from assuming anything.

[liggang]

I don't judge until I see they have 3-4 baby daddies.

[blackgaletiger]

Judge them in what senses? People can be judged in all different manners. The question seem very vague

[ManInChains]

Because single moms claim their life is so much harder even though they get aid from the government while single fathers do not

[RHK36]

How it is today with women is why most single moms aren't good. Sure it varies as why, but more often than not they're single because they're the problem.

[LazerBean]

Because people are quick to judge. It's not just single moms

[boggboss]

We live in a age of judgment just another thing no?

[OtterMan68]

which men?

I'd judge a woman who was a man's third wife after he had cheated on the first two more.

[Anonymous]

1. I would be worried about ending up loving the kid, breaking up and never seeing the kid again.

2. I don't want to come second to a kid that isn't mine.

[Anonymous]

I dont want single mom because I would like to go through that with my partner together for the first time. And I dont want to be taking care of some other guys kid.

[thisAppIsGarbage]

Because they were raised by single moms

[Luckycharms12]

People judge anyway. I guess don't know

[browndog]

I dont judge any one