Why are so many guys bitter towards single moms?

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Steelbonds · Accepted Answer

First of all a lot of guys see a single Mon especially a very young one as having to live with the choise of both the man she went with and the consequences of unprotected sex.
You wouldn't want to simply take responsibility for a child that is not their own. If you wanted that you would of adopted to begin with. (adoption is a blessing for certain just speaking realistically here.)
Also a lot of guys have been hurt deeply during late teens by girls choosing the 'bad guy' or 'the preety boy'. Doing what they are doing and often bullying them (alongside the other boy because we were all once stupid teens).
So between a combo of accountability for actions (for the younger single mothers) and hatred or distain for them because they come out searching the same person they often ridiculed and denied, only to get screwed over. It is expected to have some animosity there.
It doesn't help how everyone keeps saying to guys that it is a woman's body and choise and they have no say in it, only to then be asked to take responsibility for them, or because some other guy left them pregnant.
This doesn't even take into acount how expensive a child is this days, you need minimum a million to get it out of high school and close to 1.5 million just to finish college assuming they don't use college time to make the same stupid decisions of unprotected sex and other activities.
Going on a road that is both hard and expensive knowing what is to come, is not easy for anyone. My hat off to anyone who does so, but we are all adults. It is the choise of someone to accept something, not an obligation.

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

I don't I dated single moms when I got a divorce because they had kids I had kids and within a heartbeat they would show me how responsible they were who they were by the way they treated their kids I like women single moms because they have it together

There's a lot of guys out there that just use single moms and that's b******* but the woman has to be able to read a man because in the first week that she meets him he will tell her exactly what he is going to do if she just listens to him whether it's positive or negative and if he's lying her he will tell the truth in the same sentence you have the same breath and she needs to be able to read that

DishLady · Accepted Answer

Some are raised by single moms and had a bad experience...

Some are in baby-daddy situations and paying alimony and child support and dealing with unpleasantness of seeing their kids around "the new guy (s)" in their ex's life...

Some have dated single moms and don't like the fact that even the MOST RESPECTABLE single mom has to follow a strict schedule with her kids as the primary priority in their lives... so the guy is always playing second fiddle to soccer practice, PTA meetings, etc. etc. etc.

Some guys are actively dating (or with) a single mom and still have to deal with the woman's baby-daddy, which is also typically unpleasant.

There's more, but you get the idea. When the kids are younger the guy's hopes of a "Brady Bunch" situation are unrealistic and most likely fucked from the start.

The exceptions are if the woman is a widow... if she has kids who are college age... and other situations where she doesn't have to deal with juggling other guys, other priorities or any negatives from HER family, her ex's family, her kids, etc.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It seems to be a loud small group of men online who are bitter about this. Usually some red pill incels who haven't touched grass in a long time. I've had so many friends who were a single mom that eventually got married to good guys so it's common for single moms to find love and these guys are just mad that a kid didn't destroy her life. I have my husband and even sometimes these men judge me for being happy with my life. Like they litterally just wanna see moms and babies be broken down and hurting instead of happy because of how fucked up their own life is

Summeroflove · Answer

Most men aren’t it depends on her situation all situations regarding single moms are different. As well as some people do make stupid choices and take responsibility.

Many single moms are great people doing the best for their kid. Some were in abusive relationship, some got cheated on, some got divorced at no fault or their own, some are widowed at no fault of their own, and some are even rape victims.

Not every single mom is just a whore fucking tons of men. I feel bad for the babies of women who are like that but that’s not all of them. Sometimes a few bad examples spoil a whole bunch. People need to look at human beings on a case by case basis.

Avicenna · Answer

I think what you're seeing is that women are used to having lots of men slobbering over them these days (due in large part to social media), so anything short of that must be explained by "bitterness" and/or "insecurity" on the part of men. Truth is, what's really being reflected is that a single mom is much less desirable than a childless woman.

Account · Answer

It makes no logical sense to me the fact that people are usually bitter towards the parent who stayed, instead of the parent who left.

Zack-Bann · Answer

Bitter? In what way?
No guy blames a woman for having kids before she met them. (At least not sane guys)

Yes many are unwilling to step up as a step father but isn’t that their choice too?

I don’t get how you’re just expecting guys to be A-OK with you having kids and treat it like it’s nothing

It’s not nothing.
It’s a life changing commitment.

I saw a woman say “immature men” that’s blaming a man for simply turning you down and THAT is being immature.

Just let people make their own choices the same way you made yours

There are men who would love to raise and love a child even if it’s not theirs. Good on them
Find one of those.

But you’re not guilting anyone into settling for a surrogate fatherhood if they never asked for it

overlord337645 · Answer

so i fell like guys get one of two ideas the first is and i apologize for my bluntness your a slut you got pregnant and the father ran off or number two you had a past marrige and got divorced after the father found out your pregnant now the second one is not a bad thing in terms of my opinion however i will say this either way it sounds like your not capeable of a family why might you ask simple you cannot make good choices when chooseing a life partner and or you really just love sex and nothing wrong with likeing sex but haveing sex with just anyone is an issue and red flag at least for me so in short to awnser your question if you can't choose a guy wisely and are now a single mom it can show you are a slut or you just are not good at makeing decitions that are able to sustain a family long term

OneViewpoint · Answer

I don't think many guys are bitter towards single moms. It's more like we look at that situation and ask ourselves if we want to get involved in raising some other man's children with a woman who may have some emotional baggage from a bad marriage that didn't last. A woman who will put her kids first as she should and have no time left for her man. What's in it at that point for the man?

Let me flip that question around on you. Why do you think men should sign up to use their life and financial resources to rescue a single mom and kids who are not his own and accept a role where he is an afterthought? No honeymoon. No time where there are not kids and you can explore each other, travel, etc. Just straight into raising kids that aren't his.

Anonymous · Answer

This is out of context… I don’t know in what way.
I believe single mothers can be great moms, though I will say if you are struggling financially, mentally, and don’t want to give your child a good normal public education then that could hinder their childhood upbringing especially without a father figure in the household.

Just understand the limitations, build yourself to be the best you that you can be, make sure you made all the right decisions, get aide from family & friends also guidance from role models, have the determination & drive & finances and raise that child to be the best person they can be. Thank you!

Ladsin2 · Answer

They're not, just not interested. Women have a vested interest in their children. Makes sense. They're sure that their children are theirs. Men don't have that luxury and why would I care about your kids? Just means you have less time, energy, and ability to spend time with me and rear my kids. Plus, I have to pay for some other man's kids that he didn't even care enough about to stick around for even though they're his own flesh and blood. In what world does that make sense to a man to take on the obligation and have to pay costs financially, emotionally, and relationally?

HighValue · Answer

They're not. Good quality men know that single mothers are low quality people to be avoided because they would only make their life worse. If a potential partner would not improve someone's quality of life, there is no point in being with them.

Single mothers can go with single fathers. They have no relationship value to others.

beenherebefore · Answer

I wouldn't say they are bitter but if they have the chance to choose between a single mom and a childless woman majority will choose a childless woman. Dating a woman with kids is a challenge, she won't be as available as someone who doesn't have kids, she'll be in touch with her ex until the kids are 18+ and a lot of men do not want to deal with that. Can you blame men for not wanting to date a single mom? I don't think so.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't think it's all that common, but when it comes to some of the not-so-lucky guys regarding dating, they (like most men) have a fairly decent insight as to how bad other men are or can be (even with specific men), so when they see these 'bad' men doing well in the dating scene, they think it's a lose-lose situation, because they're not considered for dates, and those women likely will end up in a troubled situation or in a fatherless family dynamic. So when that happens, it's kind of like a "told you so " type thing. It's probably a form of venting.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Immaturity. They are the type that can barely look after themselves, let alone a woman.

Anonymous · Answer

Exactly what do you mean by bitter toward single mom’s? Or do you mean won’t date single mom’s? If it’s the latter of the two than it’s a preference. It’s not about being bitter. Men just realize there’s way too much to deal w when dating single moms. It’s a preference just the same as women having preferences.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Some were probably raised by one of those who used the kids as weapons against the dad and/or refused to allow visitation even when court ordered - yes, it happens frequently.

But for the most part I think guys might not want to date a single mom because of the potential for time limitations, additional expenses, and the possibility of a crazy ex.

MrTaboo · Answer

because they come with far to much emotional baggage, they prioritize their kids over finding a father for their kids. just like a relationship from scratch, husband and wife come first before kids. which is far better for kids than putting kids first.

nawtee_me · Answer

As a single father who raised two kids, my hats off to you. It is not easy being both mom and dad to the kids. I know it wasn’t for me anyway. More power to you…. Guys who have issues with single parents should try to be a single parent before complaining about them.

lightbulb27 · Answer

They assume its womans fault and dont see the flaws or lack of trainkng in themselves or others. Women can make dumb choices esp when young and they hold a grudge towards the eoman for her bad judgement.

Kelley1 · Answer

Men are not bitter toward single mothers. They don't want them. I don't doubt that single mothers can be good fucks; but then have no relationship value. Single mothers have too much undesirable baggage.

Anonymous · Answer

Not sure about bitter but I think there is a common consensus that the value proposition involved in such a relationship with a single mom is not great.
I'm sure some of these ladies are lovely. But they have a lot going on before they try to make space for a new man and a single man can probably find an easier, cleaner path forward with someone unencumbered.

Manuelwe · Answer

It is they spend their money on a dead beat dad. And the kids treat him as an hero and you as the villain.
Also the mum has to give more adventurous sex though, but it is not as good as sharing her with her children father and his kids and the stories they tell him causing fights. Even going to jail if his daughter claim sex acts she done on him, Tell her dad in hoping he will come back.

Miristheiss · Answer

Why do you say that? I think all the smart guys just eliminate them as any dating option. Why do single moms worry about dating? Go be a mom. They have more pressing things than dating.

Purpleronnie · Answer

Are they? .. You really know about SO many guys? Bitter how? You need to qualify your question and give us a little context or understand of the thread your pulling at?

RavVid · Answer

We aren't. We just think - at worst - a single mom is not someone to be interested in. Probably most men are unwilling to take on another man's child. Is that what you mean by bitter?

slatyb · Answer

Bitter? Not wanting to date single mothers is not due to bitterness, it's just a choice.

AnonAndrew · Answer

I don't think it's really that many. It just seems that way because for some reason they come out in force on some forums.

Valdemort · Answer

Cause they missed the opportunity to fuck a pregnant pussy. 🤡🤡🤡 truthfully I don't know, though. lol.

xkildy · Answer

Im not bitter at all, I love a single mom, She is hopefully mature enough that we can have a decent talk and share laughs.

Phoenix98 · Answer

I'm not bitter towards single moms I'm just not interested in dating one I'm sure they are really nice women, who do a good job at raising their kids they just aren't my cup of tea.

Oncewildtwiceburned · Answer

They owe them child support for kids they may not even get to see in some states and countries for no good reason whatsoever.

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

This is mostly activity from people online, I don't think people in person care too much about strangers lives

genericname85 · Answer

they aren't. but why are so many women trying to twist and spin " them being unattractive" into something about men being bad? you're litterally gaslighting people.

Truthatanycost · Answer

Swap the word 'bitter' with 'uninterested' and it might be a more truthful question.

itsannalee · Answer

Maybe they aren’t bitter, they just don’t want to take responsibility for someone else’s kids

Joshydavid25 · Answer

They aren't, they just generally don't wanna date them, and make it loud and clear.. Since there's so many on the market..

Berethor · Answer

Who want to raise another guy's child? single moms are never an first choice.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

I don't know it's almost like they think single mom's are damaged goods. It's really sad cause no single mom set out to be that way. The funny thing is most guys that think that way have a child or multiple children with other women. Smh

Anonymous · Answer

I don’t think they are. A lot of guys aren’t interested in dating a woman with a kid, but it’s not because they’re bitter.

Anonymous · Answer

No self respecting man commits to someone that has a kid from another guy.

KittygosMeoWW · Answer

It’s the immature ones with Peter Pan syndrome

JamesRandiDebates · Answer

We aren't bitter. We just know they are someone else's problem. For us, we will pump and dump.

Anonymous · Answer

It's not bitterness buttercup. It's just a choice. If it really bothers you there's real simple solution to this. Don't become a single mom.

GODBODY954 · Answer

I like single moms I don't see any problems with that

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

Same reason why many girls are bitter towards single dads.

Anonymous · Answer

Probably cause so many try to guilt/shame men into dating them.

Anonymous · Answer

Because they obviously date effing douchebags.  He got me pregnant and left me. Who could have imagined this would happen? 🤦‍♂️🤷‍♂️

Gwendoline · Answer

Raised by single mothers maybe

tzdc21 · Answer

Bitter or just don't want to date them?

ColHathi · Answer

😮‍💨 Yeah, all this hate is tiring.

dudeinohio · Answer

I'm not. Dated a few.

Vegasrunner · Answer

What makes you feel as if they are bitter?

IHateBeingaMan · Answer

probably how they were raised

Crazzyyworld · Answer

Face off.. men = asshole

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Have nothing better to do but be bitter in life.

seeyounexttuesday · Answer

lol, no one's bitter.

MikeRJ · Answer

I don't believe most are.

Smegskull · Answer

becausethey were raised by one.

dustybiker2 · Answer

Insecurities.

PrincessC16 · Answer

Explain how please.

zombiewoof · Answer

No reason to be

Professor-college · Answer

I'm not at all.

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