Should I send my boyfriend a birthday text?

[Anonymous]

I am on one-month break with my boyfriend. I posted some Facebook stories staying at hospital as my dad is being sick. He saw my stories but didn’t bother even to ask. Even some random friends on Facebook would ask about that. Is it a red flag showing that he doesn’t bother at all and showing his character? Or people are supposed to ignore each other during the break? I told him I wouldn’t contact him during this break but tomorrow is his birthday. Should I send him at least a text or just ignore like what he did to me? I am quite mad about this but wouldn’t want to be so heartless. I don’t want to make assumption on his attention.

[HawkPerception]

You are not together. I don't know what kind of delusions you're having, but you can't expect relationship stuff when you're not even in one. If he has half a brain, he wouldn't be expecting anything from you either.

[Amy10223]

If your boyfriend did not even call you to see how your father is doing, it shows he doesn’t care about you nor your father. That’s not good. I wouldn’t message him or call him to wish him a happy birthday. Not at all. And I’d look for someone else too. Or just leave him and be on your own for a while. Focus on you and your esteem. Put yourself first.

[rienna888]

Honestly if he’s to go as far as ignoring you during a time like this, where your family is sick and in the hospital. I’d ignore him, make him feel like shit. He deserves it. Make his birthday shit lol

[Asker]

Maybe I should call to break up on on his birthday

[rienna888]

Nah I think if you do that it’ll seem like you care enough to hurt him on his bday. So ignore him on his bday it’s like you don’t even remember 😂

[AviatorTom]

There's no such thing as a break in a relationship. You can wish him Happy Birthday if you want, but I doubt he's expecting it.

[ParamountMajestic]

Just follow his lead in this. A break is a silly concept and usually just delays the break up but if he doesn’t pay attention to you then he doesn’t get a happy birthday when he’s not with you. All or nothing.

[SeriouslyNotSerious]

He doesn't care? Then don't give a damn about him either. He asked for it.

Move forward and find someone who does.

[Account]

Nope. But you will do it regardless, because you give a shit about him while based on what you said, he doesn't give a shit about you.

[Blkgrnlntrn]

If you’re asking the question, you already know the answer. Don’t do it. He’s not giving you the respect and attentiveness you want during this “break”. Might as well make it a permanent break and find someone else.

[RavVid]

Perhaps you saying you wouldn't contact him persuaded him he shouldn't. What was the reason for the break? If you initiated then he might take it as a soft breakup. You are sort of wanting a boyfriend and not at the same time.

[quickquesocheese]

No. Move on with your life. Your ex doesn't care about you at all.

[Staximus]

You told him you wouldn't contact him. That may be interpreted as you don't want him contacting you, either. If you want to send him a happy birthday message, do it. If you don't, don't.

[Staximus]

These are dumb games you two are playing

[Asker]

I know but I’m very shocked that he doesn’t bother to ask even knowing my dad is in hospital. Either he doesn’t care or no common sense. Because even people who each each other would ask about it. I wouldn’t do the same if I were him.

[Anonymous]

I've no idea what you mean by break but it sounds like you said there would be no contact and now you're getting mad that he's holding you to it.
Instead of competing with him, why not just live by your own values and do what seems appropriate

[Crazzyyworld]

If he is a gigolo minded or jealous type No.

[LiamJHayden]

To most a "break" is just a less harsh way of saying "break up." Anyway, tell him HB if you want.

[MyBrainsInsaneReign]

Yes, send him a text.

You're on a break, not like banished from each other's lives.

[Asker]

Please read the full context! He ignored me first and that’s why I’m asking this.

[MyBrainsInsaneReign]

It's a two-word text. "Happy" and "Birthday."

He can ignore it or not ignore it. But all you did was tell him happy birthday. And if he complains about you doing it, he'll be the one that looks like an idiot, not you.

[spartan55]

Who asked for this stupid break?

[Asker]

He asked for it! I used to think about it as well about it but didn’t do it.

[boggboss]

Was their bad blood before u started tole break

[Asker]

Yes we are in long distance. And we kinda grew far from each other.

[JosyJosy]

You want to? You do it.

[Anonymous]

Don’t text him

[MisterWack]

Yes!

[Asker]

Your reasoning?

[MisterWack]

Oh….. Ummm I take it back.
Basically I didn’t know 1) you were on break and 2) you stayed at the hospital with your sick father and you feel as though he didn’t even care to ask…. That is a lot to process (as an outsider looking into the window of this)

It is your call, though worth mentioning since you said you wouldn’t message him at all during the break…. Maybe he’ll mention the father being sick thing later? I’m not the person in this relationship so I honestly can’t say, just sounds “off” the whole thing…. Sorry if I typed something wrong or made you upset, I wish your father all the best from one stranger to another.

Whatever your decision, you’ll make a good choice believe in yourself.

[Asker]

Thank you

[MisterWack]

You’re welcome

[Cheerfull009]

Not a good decision as he does not care you

[Open-minded99]

Dahhhhhh

[Iron_Man]

Yes do it

[Asker]

What’s your reasoning?

[Iron_Man]

Because it’s the guy‘s birthday you had a connection

[SunnyGirly]

Of course!