Should I text him happy birthday?

[Anonymous]

Should I text my crush happy birthday? He is also my guy friend, I was the one who sent the last message and he didn't even reply to it, even though he knows I get upset about it.

I really wanna wish him a happy birthday, but I still feel mad.

[Oliverlogan263]

I know you want to wish your crush a happy birthday, but if I were you I wouldn't text him. Here's why:

- He didn't reply to your last message, which upset you. Sending a birthday text could make it seem like you're overlooking that and he hasn't really owned up to it.

- You said you're still feeling mad about it. Texting when you're upset might come across the wrong way or lead to an argument.

- He's your crush, not your boyfriend. As just a friend, wishing him a happy bday could blur the lines of your feelings and make things awkward.

- Ball's in his court to reach out after not replying. Let him make the next move to fix things first before you extend the olive branch.

I'd say wait and see if he hits you up himself. If not, then deal with him another day when your feelings have cooled down. Don't want you getting hurt, sista. Take some time and see how you feel later on before deciding to text or not.

[Asker]

Yes, you’re right
I won’t message him

[Oliverlogan263]

Yeah, I think that's the best move. Don't give into the temptation to text him. Show him you've still got your pride! He'll probably notice you didn't wish him happy bday too, which might even get him wondering what's up.

Guys can be dumb sometimes, but we also usually pick up on signals like that. The fact you didn't reach out could send the message that you're still bothered by what he did. And that might motivate him to finally hit you up and explain himself or try to make things right.

Stay strong! Don't just forgive and forget so easily. Make him put in a little effort if he wants you not to be mad anymore. You deserve better than being left on read. His loss if he doesn't reach out - there's plenty other fish and all that. Keep your chin up and don't stress too much about what he's doing for his bday. You do you!

[AviatorTom]

Sure, most people enjoy a birthday wish. Don't overthink it.

[Jmmmfi4]

GO FOR IT

[Asker]

Do I will seem desperate? Especially that I started to feel it’s mutual feeling but he still ghosting me..

[Jmmmfi4]

I WOULDN'T THINK SO BUT THATS JUST ME

[Asker]

Thank you ☺️!