Is it normal that I feel a bit sad after I got over a girl?

[Anonymous]

She rejected me. It took me long time to get over it. And i finally did. When i see her i feel nothing, when i see her talking to a guy I dont care. But i feel both happy and a bit sad at the same time. I dont why. Is this normal?

[Oliverlogan263]

Yeah man, I think what you're feeling is totally normal. Even when you've fully moved on from a girl, sometimes little things can still trigger some mixed emotions.

On one hand, you're probably feeling proud of yourself and relieved that you've gotten to the point where she doesn't bother you anymore. Getting over a rejection is tough, so it's good you've come out the other side.

But at the same time, part of you may still have some lingering sadness or wish things had worked out differently deep down, you know? Like even if logically you don't care, there might be some small bit of yourself that feels a tiny bit bummed thinking about "what could have been."

I wouldn't read too much into it. You've clearly made a lot of progress getting over her if you don't feel jealous seeing her with other guys. An occasional twinge of mixed feelings is normal, since she was still someone you used to have feelings for.

As long as it doesn't start interfering with you moving on and putting yourself out there again, I wouldn't stress. Just shows you're human. Give it more time and those leftover feelings will probably fade away completely. You should be proud of yourself for handling the rejection well - not many guys bounce back that fast. Keep taking care of yourself man!

[melnc]

Because you still not accepting that you have been rejected. You should understand that rejection is not your fault! The other person rejected something specific that didn't work for them. It may have happened for your own good. So, don't confine yourself!
Quit dwelling in the past, move on, and in time you'll be laughing at what happened.

[avery58]

It's normal to be a little sad to see the illusion or feelings that once brought you some type of joy or hope die

[Walksbehindtherows]

Nope