Is it fine if I don't feel bad after leaving my girlfriend?

[Anonymous]

I broke up with my girlfriend after a 4 years relationship, we were classmates in college and our relationship was good until i started studying for a deploma after graduation, she started to ghost me, ignoring my calls, everytime we go out she seems annoyed of something, i talked with her many times, i've asked her if there's anything is bothering her and everytime she told me everything is alright, she stopped texting me, i became the one who text her, she reply with one or two words, i call her and she don't answer, then i started to think about our relationship, i felt shit because i don't recieve any signs of love from her, i feel like she doesn't want me anymore after college, i knew from the beginning that our relationship is unbalanced, i give much more than what i receive, i were always been used by her to do things, so i decided i'll leave her, i sent her a massage with all the things in my chest and blocked her on WhatsApp, i didn't wait for her reply, she didn't even call me, and i don't feel bad about it, but when i sit with myself to think about it i don't know if what i have done was right or not, and of it's fine for me to not feel bad about leaving her.

[sonic_fever]

You’re not wrong. I just through the same thing. My partner of 5 years just ghosted me a few weeks back. We’ve been on and off for a year now so my feelings were slowly fading anyway. I tried to reach out to her and she would ignore my calls and texts but would still snap me daily to keep out streak alive. It was basically a slap to the face. So eventually I just blocked her in social and haven’t reached out since. I don’t feel bad at all she decided to complete disrespect me by ignoring me. Anyone who can’t come out and just say they want to end things is a coward and clearly doesn’t value you or your time. So move on friend. I am. It’s hard I understand after all the years but we need to be valued just as much

[Asker]

I really couldn't understand why, specially because i did a lot to her, maybe without me in her back she could be expelled from the college, i help her a lot, gave her tons of advices, teached her many new thing to help her so she can pass the exams, i did a lot, what i'm sad about is all of my wasted efforts and time, but i learned from this experience and it's not totally a loss, i won by getting rid of her out of my life and not being a coward.

[Exterminatore]

It’s fine. I think she wanted you to do this, hence no reply.


Trade up and get a hotter and nicer girl than her.


Whatever you do don’t feel bad. You did what you should have, dropping her. You reached out to her many times and she basically ignores you.

[Asker]

Actually what makes it better is what i found after breaking up, my classmate in deploma showed up and she acts too friendly and show many signs that she is into me, she is hotter and nicer than my ex, but i will be patient about it and won't rush into a new relationship, i will take my time and relax until i feel that i can do it and see what she think about me.

[Exterminatore]

Good thinking brother. Take your time. If she likes you, she’s not going anywhere.

[Asker]

Wish me good luck brother 🙏🏻

[Exterminatore]

Someone deleted some stuff on here. Yesterday some chick was on here calling you a pussy and me and 2 other people lit her up. But I see the conversation has been deleted. Did you happen to see it?

[Exterminatore]

Will do…best of luck!

[Asker]

I saw it and she commented few seconds after posting my question, she must be a crazy chick, she even didn't read what happened and she called me a pussy, i didn't care about such bitch's opinion.

[Exterminatore]

Good! You shouldn’t. I really gave her hell. It was very mean of her.

[Exterminatore]

Another girl also hammered her for saying that.

[Asker]

I really appreciate what you have done to her, if she was my ex she wouldn't do such a thing 🤣

[Exterminatore]

👍👍

[prensesmishka]

I think I understand you. It’s okay. You don’t have to be perfect at everything, you can’t perfect a breakup. You had your own reasons and as I see you weren’t wrong. If you felt it many times, that she doesn’t give you love, then don’t even question it anymore. Own your senses. You’re right, love has to be felt! Someone once said, if someone's actions and words don't match, believe in their actions, not the words. It doesn’t have to be a sad story. You already gave this relationship your 4 years. It was mutual. You don’t have to feel that you’re the one who ended it. It’s always mutual. She brought you to this point too. Silence is like swearing. She sure can’t blame it all on you.

[Asker]

I just remember how it was at the beginning, she concerned me as her hero and savior, i helped her in many situations, i did a lot to her, i even thought about marriage and i were serious about it, we even talked about it and she felt good that i wanna meet her family and be engaged and marry her, i don't know how it went so bad in the end, that's what makes me feel miserable when i think that i broke up with the first one i think about marring her, but i return and say it's good that i didn't, maybe if i did it we will end up being divorced, there's many feeling inside me and i can't describe it in a good way

[prensesmishka]

But did you tell her that her behaviors hurt you and you don’t see her love?

[Asker]

Yes i told her, she told me that she really loves me but she is bit busy because of her job, most of the time she was online qnd don't reply, most of time she don't answer my calls, i felt that i'm being ghosted

[prensesmishka]

I mean you should maybe unblock her so that she can see you’re not closing yourself to her and she can say what she thinks too

[Asker]

I did it and she blocked me as well 😅

[prensesmishka]

Then I think you should just focus on your reasons and remind yourself that you did it for the best.

[petitedollbabee]

You shouldn’t feel bad. By the sounds of it, she wasn’t invested in the relationship, you were the one carrying it. You were the one making all the effort. She was likely trying to get you to break up with her, and she might’ve been cheating and paying all of her attention on someone else.

[Asker]

TBH i thought about it many times and she got too friendly with some guys and i warned her and she told me ok i will put rules and it's fine, i thought about breaking up many times but i were giving many chances, but i said to myself that's enough, i tried to call her and she didn't respond, told her i wanna meet her and she told me i'm busy, so i sent her that our relationship has ended and i'm not sorry about it and blocked her, after thinking i did what i have done from a while.

[Guy13]

yeah man... rediscovering all those things you once liked can be fun. Do not forget to grieve and it may be different 6 months out but who knows. Good luck with your new life !!

[Asker]

Thank man, i appreciate it 🫡

[bolverk]

If you do not feel bad after breaking it off with your girlfriend then you subconsciously know it was the right thing to do, reading your post it is obvious that she had found someone else and did not have the guts to end it with you, If I were you I'd change my phone number and block her on any social media you are on.

Live your life to the best, and if she tries to get back with you just grey rock her, If you do not know what it is see this site; https://www.healthline.com/health/grey-rock .

[Asker]

I unblocked her to check on her and i found that she blocked me too, TBH i thought anout breaking up many times but i were not courage enough to do it and i gave many chances to her until i felt that what i'm doing is totally wrong and i have to do it, and i did it and at least i don't feel bad at all.

[Fireguy17]

you broke off the relationship for whatever reason.
If you still had feelings for her you might still be together.
since you lost the feelings for her you were ready to move on and that is what you did.
usually the one that initiates the break up has less remores that the one getting dumped.
you moved on, it is a very common thing to do.

[Asker]

I feel to much comfort after doing it, no more non sense, no more requests, no more ghosting, no more headache.

[Fireguy17]

awesome!
Life is short, go out and enjoy yourself

[Ms_Facesitter]

No, it's what I'd prefer honestly, feeling that way. It's a chapter in our lives that's over. And it's nice if you can move on quickly and start the new chapter. It's not easy for most of us, so hats off to you :)

[Asker]

I appreciate your word 😊, actually i moved on so quickly and when i raised my head i saw another classmate who has interest in me, I don't know if she wanna hang or not but she is too friendly and carious about knowing more about me, that's makes me feel bad, thot

[Asker]

Sorry for my mistake, i don't know if what i'm doing is right or not, but i will try to not close my eyes anymore

[exitseven]

It sort of sounds like my relationship when I was in college. I called her one night and broke up with her. I really did not feel bad either. i was really ready to move on and it sounds like you are too.

[Asker]

That's what happened exactly, i were ready and courage enough to end things.

[exitseven]

there you go.

[Glen385]

if things were as you say they were, then you shouldn't feel bad. In my younger years I can recall breaking up with a woman and feeling happy about it. If you tried to talk, and she didn't respond, keep it moving and find someone else.

[Asker]

I feel bad about myself because i wanted to marry her and i were serious, it's good that i didn't rush and wait, and actually i think i found someone else but i don't wanna make feeling so quickly, even if the girl gives me many signs that she is into me.

[Shamalien]

Call me crazy, but breaking up over text then blocking is fucked

[Asker]

She had no time to meet and she don't answer my calls, so that's what i could do.

[NostalgiaSenpi]

Not at all. She practically proved that she didn't give a fuck.

[Anonymous]

wow you really are blind.. she's cheating on you

[Exterminatore]

I suspect this is likely the case.

[Asker]

I saw her acting too friendly with other guys and i warned her and she told me it's fine and i don't do something wrong but i will put rules for this guys, i didn't believe her that much and i wanted to break up at this time but i couldn't, she was sending too much random signs, sometimes she acts too jealous and sometimes she acts like she doesn't care, it was too complicated, but i sat and thought that's enough for her, and i did the right thing i guess.

[Opinion Owner]

why the fuck are you with somebody like that for?

[Opinion Owner]

grow some balls and dump the childish bitch

[Asker]

I did, and i don't regret it.

[Anonymous]

Were you an English major in college?

[Asker]

No, actually i were studying Arabic language and literacy, believe it or not, i'm from the middle east and English is not my mother tounge.

[Opinion Owner]

Okay. I was being critical of your writing, but if English is not your first language. . . your English is much better than any Arabic language that I speak!

[Asker]

I know my English is not perfect, forgive me for my foolish mistakes, i'm still learning and practicing, i actually use this app to train myself as much as i can, i'm pretty sure that English is a must in this era.

[Opinion Owner]

I don't speak any Arabic language; I speak only a few words of Spanish and German. You have my respect!

[Asker]

I'm very honored to have your respect.

[JustinTheGreat]

You’re fine, you did the right thing.

[LimitedBenefits101]

Absolutely fine