My "friend" became so toxic what shall I do about this? Please help me?

[Lollypop24]

So a year ago i met this girl at university we became so close and i was so kind and helpful not like showing off myself but i am friendly with everyone.. i trusted her and we became best friends or that what i thought until we both began dating my boyfriend has a car so we have like double dates it didn't bother me at all until she started complaining how her boyfriend treating her and wished he would treat her the way my boyfriend does and i were always there to advice her even planned to let them both go out together to fix things up between them even tho that day i was planning with my boyfriend to celebrate our anniversary on our own.. She never stopped giving remarks about us why we hold each others hand so much while i didn't mind them making out in back seats and me and my boyfriend watching them and feeling embarrassed.. The thing is she never stopped this behaviour of comparing her relation with mine she even pushes me to doubt about my boyfriend and she feels happy when we fight like she feels comfortable when she knows not only her relation is fucked up.. Then she become even cruel making up fights with me for stupid reasons last one was cause i gently asked her to clean the place after she uses it because she became my roomate and she was Litteraly yelling and saying bad words like "you know what i am the whore that i came here in first place and now you blame me and think that i am a durty person" while she would ve just cleaned it and things woulf be fine that time i let her keep yelling and said you know what i am leaving and not reacting to this... And now I don't know what shall i do about it and how am i supposed to live with her

[JustinTimberlegs]

Sounds like her boyfriend is causing her some psychological trauma, and she doesn't know how to deal with it so she's projecting and taking it out on you. It probably hurts her to see what a healthy relationship should be, right Infront of her, while hers is broken even though she gives everything she has to make it work.

When you feel like a worthless peice of trash you start actually behaving that way to push away people who care about you, you don't believe you deserve any of it.

It's not right for you to shoulder that burden though, but maybe you can encourage her to find the support she needs. Try not to come across as judgmental when you talk to her.

I'm sorry you guys are going through this, and I really hope you can find a solution together. Good luck!

[Lollypop24]

I did my best to make things work with her boyfriend i helped her i considered her as a sister and look how she is paying for it she is so rude and unbearable

[JustinTimberlegs]

What I mean is maybe her boyfriend abused her, calls her name's, beats her, exploits her, controlling and manipulating her. She has trouble dealing with that, maybe can't even talk about it and cause her to behave this way

[Anonymous]

If it’s too much to deal with, and it clearly is, you need to cut her off

[humanearth]

Take a break away from your friend, regain some positive energy

[Lollypop24]

I can't she became my roomate like 24/24 with her.. i really don't get why would she behave in that way i thought we were best friends and i never did something wrong to her

[humanearth]

Too much time together, make time apart

[Lollypop24]

Got you thanks for the advice ❤

[NotTacocaT6969]

Get rid.

[Ryfyle]

just leave

[Lollypop24]

I can't leave i m studyin in foreign state and we re roomates got nowhere else to go to

[Ryfyle]

Wow, that's a fucking big mistake. Hire somebody to break her knees and give her perspective on life.

[Lollypop24]

I want no harm to anyone lets say physically at least do you have any other idea

[Ryfyle]

She needs fucking meds. Like 50 grams of Thorazine and a crazy good power fuck. Hate to say it but you got shacked up with a psycho.

[Lollypop24]

Like taking revange in other way and thanks in advance ^^

[Ryfyle]

No this is not revenge. She has some fucked in the brain issues and probably is Bipolar or some other personality disorder. She needs a Psychological evaluation. Like don't fuck this up, you might be able to organize an intervention. She needs medical help, her brain is deeply fucked and there are treatments. she's dead if this kind of behavior continues.

[Lollypop24]

Yeah she is probably having real mental issues.. might lord be with me :')