Boyfriend was in a bad crash after drink driving, I need advice on how to approach this?

[Anonymous]

He was on an electric scooter drunk and crashed and ended up in a hospital with a broken leg and many bruises. He had to undergo surgery as well, and it will all be a hell of a recovery with therapy and medications. It was 4 am, clean road, luckily no one else got hurt. He drove that thing under influence before too. He now got charged DUI and also for destroying rented vehicle. It's gonna be tough, and he doesn't have anybody here except me. Mind you that he doesn't earn much so he won't be able to pay. We don't know the exact sum for a fine, but I bet it will be a lot. He claims that he didn't feel drunk at all, that it was an accident, that he's not an idiot to drive drunk. I don't know, he went out with his friends, I think he was pretty drunk and just plays the victim. I am heart-broken about his accident, but we have argued about his drinking before and this now is too much for me. He's not even taking it seriously, he just tells me to not worry about anything and that everything will be alright. I think I want to break up, but I would feel guilty leaving him alone in this situation. We have been going out for 4 months now.

[Anonymous]

4 months only? That’s no time girl, get out of that. Buzzed driving is drunk driving, and he made the choice to go out and do something stupid. If he’s an alcoholic then whenever you call him out for being drunk he will never take responsibility because he will always be in denial. Now he’s gotten himself into this huge mess, and what I hope is that it will be a learning experience. But it is not your problem. Don’t rope yourself into his poor choices, because it’s just not worth it. It’s unfortunate that he’s alone but these were things to consider before hopping on that scooter.

[JustADudePlayinADude]

If it hasn't even been 6 months and you have an issue with his drinking, and assuming everything you say is right, get out. You have no obligation to a man you barely know. I'm usually a positive person and try to tell people to work it out, but it sounds like you have barely been together and he has already made some relationship altering mistakes. If you really want to be sure about your decision, I would have one more conversation (try not to let it turn into an argument) with him about it and then go with your gut, cause it is probably right.

[Guy13]

15,000 in total costs depending upon what he blew…

[Čiadas]

First time it's an accident. Second tine it's a habit. Third time it's a pattern. Proceed accordingly. Some people need to learn the lesson without others bailing them out.

[In_Trance]

Lmao an electric scooter?
Is he 12?
This is gnarly

[Asker]

This

[In_Trance]

I hope he had a propeller on his helmet

[Anonymous]

He brought it to himself. Better leave him. Doing what he did should teach him that expensive lesson, not you.