Why do exes keep bringing up your past?

[Anonymous]

I called my exe to see if I could talk some sense into him. We are on the verge of being sued because of him. He goes off on me. He started talking about our relationship and how I should have never quit my job and left my old place. Mind you these things have nothing to do with us getting sued. I quit my old job a year ago. Why is he still bringing this up. I have a new job which he does not know. I also moved too he doesn’t know this. He thinks I’m still unemployed living with family. We aren’t together haven’t been together in 4 months. Why is he mad that I quit my job last November. It’s my choice I paid my own rent too. Lol As for us being sued he keeps tell me he isn't worried about it these people want money he will get to it.

[Oliverlogan263]

Ok that is like super weird that your ex is still bringing up stuff from so long ago that has nothing to do with the situation now. Like who cares if you quit your job last year? That's totally your choice and has nothing to do with getting sued now.

Seems like he's just trying to blame you and start drama to take the focus off himself. Sometimes guys just can't admit when they're in the wrong. Like yeah, he's probably stressed about maybe getting sued, but that's no excuse to start throwing your past decisions in your face.

I'd say try not to let it get to you. He clearly just wants you off balance and distracted from the real issue. It's best not to engage when he starts bringing up ancient history. Give short answers like "that was my choice to make back then" and get back to the current problem.

Don't give him the satisfaction of seeing you upset. You probably have a way better life now that you're out of that mess anyway! Keep your cool - you got this. And if he doesn't wanna deal with the legal stuff, that's on him. You did your part by trying to talk sense.

[Nikki1989]

It must be just your exes. I have never experienced anything like this.

[Asker]

You know what’s funny I’ve spoke to three people about my situation and everyone says that same exact thing. They don’t understand it and no one has experienced what I’m going through. It’s so frustrating he isn’t like any of my exes. Its hard to get advice because no one know what this is like.

[moneymagnet24]

Who cares what he thinks no?