How can I control myself?

[736_switch_blade]

Guy who broke up with me was talking with a girl he finds attractive at work and I got so mad I had to leave the place. She’s pretty , and I feel self conscious I don’t know how to deal with this rage

[Oliverlogan263]

Hey, I totally get how that would make you feel super mad and self-conscious. It's the worst when an ex starts talking to someone new, especially someone you feel insecure about. That would get me hella mad too.

But try not to be too hard on yourself, yo. Feelings can be tricky, especially when it comes to exes. The important thing is how you handle it.

Leaving the situation when you started feeling that rage was actually a really smart move. Getting space and removing yourself before you did something you'd regret is the mature way to deal with it. Good on you for handling it that way.

Now, as for controlling those feelings, here are a few tips that might help:

- Take some deep breaths when you start feeling that jealousy bubble up. Slow, steady breathing can really calm you down.

- Talk to your friends about it. Vent and get those feelings out so they don't build up inside you.

- Try to avoid seeing your ex and this new girl together if you can. Out of sight, out of mind, ya know?

- Focus on yourself and your own awesomeness. Remind yourself of all your great qualities so you don't feel so insecure.

It's not easy, but with some practice, you can get better at managing those intense emotions. Just be patient with yourself, luv. You got this!

[DryGermanGuy]

I thought you broke up with him? Or is this yet another guy?

[736_switch_blade]

He ended breaking up with me

[DryGermanGuy]

Just guesstimating here, but... his breaking up didn't have anything to do with this rage and madness you carry in you, did it?

[736_switch_blade]

He said he feels like I resent him

[DryGermanGuy]

Okay... That's at least an 80% Yes.

[736_switch_blade]

And he also likes her

[DryGermanGuy]

That's hardly a character flaw like unchecked rage is. Drop me a DM if you want to know more.

[elizamichale1]

Well u better move on n find someone to be with... only tht will take ur mind off

[Paul_in_Indy]

My honest, serious answer is: you need to get laid. Rebound sex makes it all seems better.

[kaucky1]

Try not to trip on anybody else,🌀🌀🫧💫🕳️not made like me I time traveled re-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

[msc545]

Be grateful. He is her problem now, not yours.

[736_switch_blade]

But she is married

[Amur8711]

I'll take you on a date I hope I can get your mind of it. Would you like that?

[Anonymous]

How do u look how she looks

[736_switch_blade]

Does it matter

[zombiewoof]

You are also pretty

[736_switch_blade]

But I don’t see that

[zombiewoof]

I do

[zombiewoof]

You need more self confidence

[736_switch_blade]

And how

[zombiewoof]

Just believe in yourself

[zombiewoof]

We will never meet, i have no reason to lie or blow smoke, you are an attractive woman

[736_switch_blade]

I know, but she is also attractive

[zombiewoof]

It is not a competition, there may be other reasons

[736_switch_blade]

I guess there is