Why can't I control myself?

[Anonymous]

Sorry for my English.

I don't know what I want, I can't control my actions and attitudes most of the time.

I'm impulsive decision maker, I have a lack of self-confidence. I feel very inadequate, empty. I get along with people, but can't be sincere. I'm always trying to prove myself. I'm obsessed. I easily get upset and worry about everything. I am unhappy and sometimes aggressive and depressed. I live in a fantasy world. What else will I do? Why am I like this? Is there any way out of this situation?

[caring__1]

Your title is what does you in. When a person says can't their mind shuts down to the possibility of it happening. We either have the ability or have the ability to acquire the ability. Do you find yourself going into every bakery you pass and eat everything in sight? No... you do have the ability to control yourself. You're just saying this to give yourself an excuse when you choose to not control yourself.

You say you're impulsive, yet there's nothing wrong with taking 24 hours to act on anything that comes to your mind. Your lack of confidence and feelings of inadequacy are probably due to depending on others to give you positive strokes or provide for you. Start challenging yourself to meet your own needs rather than expect others to do it for you. As you do this, you'll start believing in yourself, and the negative feelings will be replaced by positive ones.

Once again... you say you can't be sincere. You are no less capable than anyone else. Don't give yourself excuses. What are you trying to prove, and where do you think it will take you? If you feel your choices aren't taking you where you want to go, first identify where you want to go and then discover what you can do to take you there. Whatever direction we face is the direction we'll go. If you focus on what you don't want, you'll get more of what you don't want. If you focus on what you do want, you'll get more of what you do want. If you're critical of the negative, you'll get more negative. If you're appreciative of the positive, you'll get more positive. If you want control, just take control. You're not a puppet... unless you choose to be.

[SAMI_DABBAB]

This is your opinion on yourself or did someone say this about you?

[Asker]

Both. one month ago I texted my ex boyfriend saying that I miss and love him so much. but I actually don't miss him.. i did it just to make him happy.

[SAMI_DABBAB]

This contradicts with the whole thing, you wanted to make him happy

[Bdsmaster]

Is it your opinion luv or someone said this to you and you believe them?

[Asker]

Both. one month ago I texted my ex boyfriend saying that I miss and love him so much. but I actually don't miss him.. i did it just to make him happy.

[Bdsmaster]

So did he tell you all of those things after that?

[Wise4myage]

Have you considered therapy?

[Asker]

No..

[Wise4myage]

You should.

[TheFlak38]

in other words you're a mental nutcase