Why is my first reflex to hit someone whenever I get angry?

[Anonymous]

I apologize for my poor English. This really bothers me. I get angry and my first reflex is to attack someone or break something. I can barely control myself. My whole body gets really hot and my brain just shuts down and my only thoughts are how can I hurt the other person. I’m really scared, because I may not be able to control this urge someday. I sound insane, but I would really appreciate some opinions on this matter. I’m really trying to improve and help myself. What is the reason? Why can’t I control?

[btbc92]

You suffered a form of mental, emotional and psychological abuse, and you lack control because of its your body's way of fight or flight. The best thing that you can do is take ownership and responsibility for your own actions and feelings. You have to look really deep inside yourself and go back as far as you can reach to your past and really look at when it was the first time you felt like that. That's what I had to do to understand myself and my anger. And it took me years to realized that I was domestically abused and abused overall. That was the source of my anger besides immorality because nobody protected me when I needed protection. I deal with the same problem.

[mrman2020]

I’m so sorry to hear this. I think in my teenage years I had the same reflex. After a few embarrassing incidents I realized I was only hurting myself and reputation. Try to do something that brings you peace and teaches self control like yoga.

[hellacray]

You may need to go to anger management.