What causes people to get used to being angry?

[Anonymous]

dark past life: include trauma, being bullied, etc.

something that triggers

I don't know, bcs it depends on people

maybe the person itself has a bad temper

too sensitive

other reason (feel free to give your opinion)

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[ohshee]

I didn't meet my dad until I was 37 years old well actually it was when I was 27 for about an hour and then when I was 37 always wondering who I was in this world I took a two-week vacation and went to see him I ended up working for him because he owned his own business and had to work and in that 2 weeks. We talk about a lot of things and I also got to see who he was and I walked away knowing who I didn't want to be
Every day at work his guys would come up to me and say please talk to him he would yell and scream at his employees it was just a real prick I told them his employees did they knew him better than I did but I did say something to him about it and I look at it as being a choice you have a moment where you can explode or you have a moment where you can use common sense become clarity and say it in the right way whatever it is you have to say there's no reason to be a dick about it and he told me people make you do that and I told him no it's a choice you have a choice on how to go about the things you say lazy people we'll snap and just spit out all kinds of words because they're angry that's a choice people on the outside of you cannot make you angry they can try but the person on the inside of you is the one that either acknowledge is it and follow through with it or they acknowledge it and say wait a minute I don't need to go this direction just like disciplining your kids people smack and yell and scream at their kids fuck that you can do 10 times better in the teaching Department if you sit them down and say hey this is why we don't do this blah blah blah blah blah keep it short to the point and walk away otherwise the kids going to follow in your footsteps and start yelling and screaming every time they got a problem. Everybody on this planet has been through some kind of hell and I'm sorry that a lot of people have had to go through with what they've had to go through but I still make the choice for myself to be calm and collect not blame anybody for my past or what has happened in my life it's happened it's done it's over with today's a brand new day this is a moment in time and this moment will pass too to another moment.
I have always said when we are born we were given the gift of choice that gift of choice is more powerful than the words love because we get to choose who we want to be by the things we say and do it's a choice

[PoopyPoop]

I think I was born like that. Even in kindergarten, I was scolded for my temper, then bursting out at teachers. I think it's a stubborn desire for independence. I don't like people telling me what to do, not even my own parents or teachers.

It might also be physical. I don't think I have more testosterone than usual but I got an early case of it with facial hair to the point where my father had to teach me how to shave at 10-years old because I was getting way more than peach fuzz already by that time. And people in school at the time were constantly asking me to flex my muscles while looking in awe.

But then by high school, it's like people around me got bigger and hairier and caught up. But I was still left with my tendencies towards anger and rebellion against authority figures since I didn't have that gentle transition growing up without the testosterone. I started with testosterone.

Nowadays I'm much more mellow. I don't get into fights and don't punch walls or anything like that. But I developed that through studying Stoicism mostly. I just learned how to challenge my angry thoughts. But they're still there. They want to show up any time something is really annoying. But I don't feed into them unless it's fun and not of any heavy consequence, like on this site where I can unleash my anger since I don't give a shit.

[PoopyPoop]

It might also be because I'm the first-born and oldest child. I think we tend to become very independent. I looked out about my little sister a lot, and my parents divorced when I was very young. Also, I watched them fighting all day long, including my mother holding a knife to my father's throat. So I thought adults were very stupid and I didn't think they were any better than children. I still don't think we are now that I'm one of them. So I didn't see the point in listening to them because they are as stupid as we are. That's not to say I thought I was smarter than adults. I just thought adults were as dumb as I was.

[Flower7]

I don’t think people ever get used to anger. It’s always a horrible feeling.

[dustybiker]

Trauma. From what I have seen in others around me. I’m no expert though.

[Joshua_L_Blackmon]

one of 3 things , and I have a really rough past, but I am neither an angry person or a depressed person , and I use to be guilty of both.. I didn't seek therapy and I think that therapy isn't for everyone.. I did get counseling. First and foremost is the person living their values.. second does the person believe that these values that they are not living taint their soul.. either as a Buddhist or a Christian.. if they aren't living their values or the ones they believe they ought to live.. even as an atheist its going to effect them.. finally.. reasonable thinking, reasonable thinking , reasonable thinking.. behaviors are the cause of anger and depression usually and anyone can know this... however the other parts of this.. go down into reasonable thinking.. Like Fuck , no one wants to associate with me or something of that matter.. well are you even saying HI? lots of simple actions can solve these thoughts... very attractive people dip into anger and depression , because they fool themselves thinking the worlds unfair that this random ugly fat stranger some how gets more attention then them.. not sexual attention.. but attention... and thats easy to reconcile.. that person has already lived hatred and depression.. so they forced themselves to be socially acceptable and nice and lovable.. that actually answers many questions then.. which is if He/she can do it.. certainly I could do it.. and its up to you if you want to do it.. you don't need friends to be happy... I would say you don't need anyone.. but the buddhist is wrong... in this case.. some of you don't need anyone and thats because you accepted suicide and live a life without killing your body , but you did actually kill yourself by making yourself not relevant to the world in convincing yourself you don't need anyone.. so yep.. dead people don't need anyone. You don't need anyone to be at peace or be stable.. if you want kids you do need someone to be happy.. that's heterosexually proven. more importantly a minor bit of happiness you ought to be content with yourself , before bringing your baggage to someone else.. but some people like baggage.. they will fix people all day long.. and that could be good for some and bad for most, and you don't do all these things to be happy, you do them to live a better life which in turn makes you happy... thats the consequences way to happiness inner peace is the other way to happiness.. and lastly they have drugs.. anti bitch drugs, anti asshole drugs, anti party pooper drugs.. drugs is the easy way out.. but its off putting to others to do drugs.. but do them if you really do medically need them.

[sensible27]

Constantly being angry, the root cause in a lack of patience and possibly an almost intutive emotional outburst that prevents them from understanding things at times..

It could've worked when we were more primitive and being angry gave advantages against other animals, not really super super useful now possibly.

[NathanDavis]

time... time gets you used to pretty much everything

[exitseven]

I used anger as a way to get through the harder aspects of life. I did this for years. I am trying a different path.

[Diodoro]

Practice

Any emotional state you have over and over becomes a habit and you get used to it.

[Cubus]

I believe it's a mixture of different things. Sometimes trauma, sometimes sth that triggers and sometimes bad temper. But I think in most cases it's a bad temper.

[Bdsmaster]

I think the first option and the second option are connected luv, something from the past that haunts someone might work as a trigger in the anger that the person feels currently.

[Still-alive]

broken dreams, failing to achieve anything in life. working in dead end jobs. that stuff can make you bitter af

[Joshua_L_Blackmon]

its your fault if you keep working dead end jobs, I got out of that and it took 5 years of grinding.

[Joshua_L_Blackmon]

to be more precise. I Live in the 3rd worst economy in the united states. if your working a dead end job still... you fucked yourself.. be mad at yourself

[Still-alive]

@Joshua_L_Blackmon im not talkiing about myself.

regardless its still a reasonably human thing to react to this lot in life negatively.

[Joshua_L_Blackmon]

well thats why buddhism.. shit happens.. be at peace with who you are.. well im sorta a hypo. I am a sub Buddhist , sub Christian. I disagree with a lot of things, biblically and i diagree with buddhists.. Budda is cool , Budda didn't worship anyone to become budda.. this idea you should worship a man.. to become something.. yeah no.. not me never.. i worship nothing and no one.. Jesus is my savior and I don't worship him. Jesus worshiped only the father to be where he was. SO I am Anti Human worship of all kids and pro inner peace, and my worship is my communion with God. There is also a lot of wasted time.. in Christianity and Buddhism. A prayer should be brief and a meditation can be done laying on your back , or sitting in a chair. tradition is the bain of human existence.. many traditions fuck humanity.. including the human silence towards tyrants. I say this, but I also allow people to be people. I suppose I am speaking for myself.. I don't think I am greater than anyone, but rather in some ways smarter than some. . and wiser than many.

[AaronKrieger]

It's a habit generally

[Jacadia]

Living in a liberal city.

[msc545]

violation of physical or psychological boundaries.

[Dinosaursandanime65]

Acceptance, Dominion, 24

[Jude_Wills]

I vote A