i think its just the only thing that happens--guys like me or are attracted to me but NEVER ask me out ever. It's been happening since i was 20. Even my brothers friend used to like me- but he never askedme out. even years later when he was getting married, someone asked him about it and he said he 'wasn't sure yet." he said that b/c i was there but he never has made a move on me. Guys who like me, or are attracted never do. The only man who did was a handyman who used to come and he was married- he and his wife were swingers so he tried to do sexual things with me, but nothing happened.
recently, a handyman guy came over. He was really cool and friendly and seemed like a really nice guy. Instantly I just kind of liked him. I mean I was drawn to him and almost mesmerized by him. I didn't want to say anything b/c I felt so strong. I'm a really pretty girl and i realized this is probably how people feel towards me- theyre really attracted and drawn to me and kind of get frozen and dont know what to say. He seemed to sort of like me too, but he wasn't making any moves on me. He did try to stay and talk about something and i was tryign to get his number. I didn't ask but he mentioned that his number was on his website for something. Before he left, he said "go to my website and sign in" I guess he meant leave my info. Who knows. why dont guys EVER like try something or try to ask you out for anything. I am a really pretty female, but still.. it's frustrating. im a girl and i almost could barely control myself around this guy and these men can control themselves around a really hot female. i dont get it
it seems they want the woman doing everything or chasing them
Most Helpful Guy
This is becoming more and more comm. I can explain it but it takes a little understanding from a woman's point of view but I think you will get it with the strength of feeling and your frustration around this subject.
It's all based in equal rites and feminism. Many women will scream rubbish right now at me but its just such attitudes that cause the very situation your raising.
Masculinity for all its strengths is very brittle and can be a huge weakness if it's challenged by a woman instead of strengthened as a good woman does with her man.
Feminism and equal rites are a good thing I agree and support everything they stand for in modern society. It started in my country and women died to get the vote and be heard. Emily Pankhirst is a hero to all women
However its taken tens of thousands of years for women to achieve it but we expect men to change and except it over night. It's only 3 generations of men that have had to adjust for me only 2. I can still remember my grandparents and my pendants behaving in a very old fashioned way of the man woman rolls being very fixed. Men were the provider and women were subservient.
Ok if your lost and wondering what the shell this has got to do with this question its this simple.
Men used to have to take the lead ask a woman out do the chasing. Now many young men are very confused. Women have asked for equal rites so you have just as much rite to ask them out. In fact that's what a lot of them think you want to do. You choose the guy you want to see.
What's worse in your position this guy was at work and in a professional capacity. It's even more unlikely as it would be deemed unprofessional and inappropriate to hit on a female client. So many guys have got into trouble even lost their jobs due to misreading circumstances just like yours.. The woman complains he looses his job his security and gets a black mark against his name.
If women don't want to believe this then it will take another 100 years before it balances back out.
For you personally this guys down the most he could given the situation.
The point of this is in plain speaking woman want to be chased courted but you want equal rites. Not to be harassed by men , cat called or whistled at. It's very very confusing for men right now.
We even have laws in the UK that you can't harass or cat call women.
Some men are not only afraid of being rejected but criminalized.
Go on his website and make the first move.😃2
Most Helpful Girl
Could be that they feel out of your league, or you won't give them the time of day. You should start making the moves instead, don't wait on a man. These days both sexes are getting too shy to talk to each other. Might as well break that1