Guys never ask me out, why?

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I never get approached, ever! And I always wonder why. I don’t have an rbf or anything that would prevent anyone from approaching me.
this is me for reference as well maybe it has something to do with my looks

Qdbrown · Accepted Answer

Since #MeToo became a thing, I no longer approach any woman. Good, bad of ugly. A man can now get into trouble showing too much interest.

In fact, there are now stories of men getting called into the police trying to be helpful. One guy saw a credit card on the ground next to this lady, and she called the cops on him.

A few minutes later he surrounded and being asked what he was doing.

If a woman ever feels threatened in public, but your mere presence, then you're in trouble.

In the extreme some women are able to carry guns concealed and a few have shot a man because she was scared of them. Rare, but approaching a woman in the wild is not smart. It can be career-ending at work.

abc3643 · Accepted Answer

Well, you are definitely a good-looking enough young lady, so there's no problem with that.

... but that may be your problem!

In short, you may have Beautiful Girl Syndrome Type 2. In other words, you are attractive enough that guys will assume that you are not available and so they will not hit on you. Somehow, you need to "get the word out" either through conversation or actions or hints or whatever that you are not with someone. There will definitely be guys who, once they know you are available, will hit on you.

RosieMelts · Accepted Answer

Well in New York they’d definitely make some cat calls.

Any guy who is respectable and polite probably is intimidated by your good looks.

You'd probably have to get to a friendship basis with a guy in a mutual environment like a job or I don't know library book club? Something to cross paths and friend grps, etc.

If you’re already in these things and have make friends etc. probs need to go to a place like a concert or some city place where a guy would be more prone to make the first move.

I don't know tbh this is me spit balling. Hope some part of it will give you an idea. Run it by a friend you trust if, anything.

Best to ya sis ✌️😊

Subarugirl · Accepted Answer

Why don't you ask someone out if you want to go out?

PeteBy · Answer

I am of an age where we're experienced and know the out of your league reason is not true. Albeit I understand why men think it. You're beautiful and it may well simply be down to them thinking you'd probably say no. Nobody likes rejection.

I have no problem with flirting with beautiful women but that comes with age and experience. Maybe approach a guy who seems interested as they may well be thinking you're gorgeous but they don't stand a chance.

Part2603 · Answer

How exactly do you see this playing out? You want like a coworker or a friend to fall in love with you first, and then ask you out?

I suspect that you get hit on all the time in public places. If you shut them all down immediately then of course they're not gonna ask you out on a date.

NottaNatty · Answer

Well tbh your definitely a 10 from the picture, however personality always plays a role and you can't get that from a picture. By looks, I personally would just assume you were either already taken, in high competition or just straight up out of my league so I might not even try. But again personality can make or break attraction, although I can't speak for other dudes so...

Harbringer26 · Answer

One could be justified in assuming this is just you fishing for attention. But I'll give you the benifit of the doubt and assume you're genuine in this question, and I'd say because they might think you look uptight or high maintenance, spoiled, bratty, entitled. A lot of women make the mistake of carrying themselves in such a way that gives off those vibes.

MCheetah · Answer

Plenty of guys probably ask you out, all the time. Especially considering how you look. They're just not the perfect men you want. So I don't believe you. And assuming you are 100% telling the truth... What are you doing this Friday night?

Middleman · Answer

I think you look great! As to your question, I think the same what the other guys said - maybe some felt a bit intimidated and so didn't ask you out. Either that or they just lacked confidence. May I ask, what do you do for a living?

HSalenko · Answer

This isn't an attempt to fish for compliments, is it? Regardless if it bothers you, then why not ask out men?

Lynx122 · Answer

Your looks are not the problem, I can't tell you what it is though ^^

Fromdusktilldawn · Answer

First of all, how do you behave when going out? Are you always in a group, are you loud and being the drunk clown, are you rude and foul mouthed, do you smile?

Keepitreal007 · Answer

Looks don’t have anything to do with it. You look great. I don’t know you personally so not sure on attitude. Or guys assume there. It in your league.

Rockstarrrrr · Answer

Lol really? You're a cutie... Maybe you don't talk much... Maybe you always look busy... I heard that's a thing

MikeTheBartender · Answer

Because your age group doesn't know how to approach. They know how to swipe.

wallflower_fantasy · Answer

I too have the same problem. No one ever asked me out. And I have no clue why.

Anonymous · Answer

Look I and other guys can sit here a say we would want to ask you out but whether we would do it is another story. Try asking them out.

AngelOfLight258 · Answer

Hard to say but if you see a guy you like you can try approaching him.

Zolly99999 · Answer

You might be intimidating to some guys.. like you are out of their league so they don't bother.

Calenderagressive · Answer

If i was going to ask you out i would be too shy to and your definitely very pretty so maybe try asking guys out plus maybe you could be too tall

Lotusinmud · Answer

Your good looking so some guys are probably intimidated 🤷‍♂️

Guardian45 · Answer

Your looks have NOTHING to do with your problem. Consider your attitude. Try smiling.

Jouth · Answer

try approaching guys. You're hot and all

Titlover01 · Answer

I have know idea why they don’t because your HOT

Anonymous · Answer

You look pretty but maybe you look unapproachable and intimidating possibly

Anonymous · Answer

Probably shyness you look to good they think they have no chance

VikingWarLord · Answer

What happened to my response

AsaKyo · Answer

Didn't you already ask this question

genericname85 · Answer

you probably have resting bitch face XD

MikeInHawaii · Answer

Doing anything Saturday?

Waldoe · Answer

you look like a "Player"... put on some clothes

TroyDT · Answer

Impossible to tell from a picture.

maximumpower · Answer

Maybe its bc of your attention-seeking behavior?

TheFlak38 · Answer

Women call that rape today.

nudeNhorny · Answer

maybe they are afraid you might reject them

ComingHere91 · Answer

U look so beautiful Id approach u if i knew u:)

anylolone · Answer

For good reasons.

Guys never ask me out, why?

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