Why are guys surprised I'm single but never ask me out?

[Anonymous]

[SimpleGuy95]

Because they look for a conversation opener to have a conversation with you in general because in day and age where many young people are dating some think it's a good way to start a conversation.
But they aren't looking for a relationship in general or with you.

[OlderAndWiser]

I've never seen you and never interacted with you so anything I suggest would be pure conjecture. Why do you think this happens?

[ronaldo75]

They're curious but dont want to go out with you for some other reason. At my school and job there are plenty of women I think are insanely beautiful and Im shocked they're single but I have no interest in going out with them. The most beautiful woman at my job looks like a barbie doll but she's a total weirdo that I can tell would be a horrible girlfriend.

What are some of your red flags? And be honest.

[Asker]

Sometimes shy and passive

[Anonymous]

Why don't you ask them out then? Maybe they are nervous. Or maybe what is the most common reasons. Nervous. Aren't into you. Or are in a relationship already.

They can't read your mind and know you want someone to ask you out. Yea.. If they like you and don't make a move then... I don't know what to tell them.

But it is also your loss if you never make a move.

[Opinion Owner]

HEY razelove I am not insulting your wife. YOU insult her every time you cheat on her. You are the piece of shit you aren't even shit you are diarrhea shit. You made it up I was insulting your wife. I am insulting you for cheating. I feel horrible for your wife because she is married to such SCUM as yourself

[Opinion Owner]

you are a real piece of shit dude nobody likes you!!!

[razelove]

Who knows, why are women surprised I'm married with kids when I ask them out? Especially if my wife is with me. People are mysterious creatures. Have you tried asking any guys out?

[Asker]

I am bit I'm so scared even if the hint a little

[razelove]

So you're more introverted and a bit subby? That's workable, but it is easy for you to fall into the background, which may be the reason.

My wife was the same, took years to get her out of her shell, and in any crises she turtles back up. She blended into the background for me. I didn't even notice her following me (she told me that years later) then she asked me out and I was like where did this cute girl teleport from? lol

[razelove]

Try to break the pattern of just being blown around like a leaf and make your own path, start with little things and work your way up, you can do it :)

[Asker]

aw thanks this is so nice! well in my early 20s i asked some guy out and he ghosted me so its just me being an idiot thinking of the past

[razelove]

It's not stupid, or idiotic, if it's already tough to put yourself out there, and you got hurt the first time you did so, of course it would be harder... maybe my wife was onto something with the low-key stalking lol

Try a guy with more ties to the community, like church, volunteer groups, what have you. It's tougher to sell a relationship and have a ONS if your social circle frowns on that. Granted ONS and NSA as they are, are, well, as they are. I at least break up face to face with women, even if I've worn a sports cup sometimes or carried a gun as a precaution...

[Whatever2929292]

Why are you asking them out if you are married?

[razelove]

@Whatever2929292 Because I can and want to, why does anyone do anything?

[Asker]

So I added the guy I liked to make a start ge accosted me quickly

[razelove]

In a good or bad way? I mean, how you know each other, and what your ideal is are unknown to me. On my end I'm slow to build trust, but once it's established tend to move fast.

[Whatever2929292]

Well I am sure when your wife figures it out (unless you are in one of those weird open relationships or worse a swinger) I hope she divorces you and takes EVERYTHING!!!

[Whatever2929292]

Now how will that feel? YEAAAAAAAAAA YOU ARE GONNA GET BURNED REAL BAD

[razelove]

@Whatever2929292 Man, mind your own lane, I've been seeing other women with my wife knowing for over a decade now. I don't care what you do in your free time, what's your problem?

[Whatever2929292]

You wife is going to find out. I feel horrible for your poor wife who has been cheated on now for over a decade

[razelove]

@Whatever2929292 Don't insult my wife you piece of shit. Push your failure of a life somewhere else. Your opinions are all trolling and 100% negative except creeping on "how do I look" threads. Keep in that lane and be a good little doggy.

[jshm2]

Because they assume either you've got herpes or some personal problems which are stopping your ex getting back with you, or you're lesbian.

[serious]

May be you are beautiful and attractive but are still single so they find it hard to believe.

[one1wild00]

You may be unintentionally sending an I'm taken or aloof vibe out that guys read as get lost I'm not available. Hard to tell over a computer and written only.

[KrakenAttackin]

Because approaching a woman is borderline illegal these days.

[Anonymous]

Guys are sick of asking girls out and getting rejected or being thought of as a creep.

[FunkyMonkee]

Wanna go out with me?

[RHK36]

You must have tons of red flags or they lying.

[Anonymous]

Real simple. You're emotionally unavailable

[Anonymous]

You must be very pretty.

[JoyGirl]

Fear of rejection.

[Sam_25]

Ohk let's go out