How do you get over a break up?

[lover01__]

I’m going through a break up and for once he didn’t dump me. I still love him but he just hurt me tremendously. He’s been begging me to give him another chance but I just can’t get past the hurt he has caused me. How do I get over him so it doesn’t make me feel bad to tell him I can’t be with him. Any tips?

[Orion84]

There isn't a quick fix for getting over a break up. It takes time.

You just have to tell yourself it's for the best. There will be times when you want to call/text them, because you miss them, and just want to talk. There will be times when you want to get back together. You'll be lonely. You'll make excuses, like, "It will be better this time. They won't do that again."

They will, though. You have to remind yourself why the relationship ended, in the first place, and if you get back together, the same things will happen again. Try to stay strong. Eventually it will hurt less, and you'll be able to move on with your life.

Try to keep your mind occupied, so you don't dwell on the past. Focus on yourself. Spend time with friends, work on hobbies, read some books. The worst thing you can do is sit there and think about it.

[lover01__]

Thank you that helps a lot. I definitely feel like I want to forgive him and get back together but I know deep down nothing will change. I’m going to keep him blocked untill I don’t feel anything anymore

[Orion84]

You're welcome, and I wish you the best getting through this.

I doubt you'll ever reach the point where you don't feel anything, though. I still love my exes, even though it's been many years in some cases.

You will probably always feel something, and that's totally normal. Eventually it won't be so raw & painful, though. It will just be a part of your past, and it won't hurt as much.

You'll find new ways to be happy, and eventually this emotional wound will be filled up with something better. 🙂

[Stevepro68]

I have learned that once a woman is over you there is no going back. He needs to learn that it will be good for him. Be firm be confident. Just lie and tell him you just don't have feeling for him anymore. You don't want to see him.

[Abbycado]

You have to give it time. You won't get over it right away. Different people need different amounts of time.

[LiamS95]

You never completely get over breakup tell him to got to hell before he puts you through that again.

[LiamS95]

You can talk to me about it anytime you want

[lover01__]

Thank you I may take you up on that offer^^

[LiamJHayden]

I am always philosophical about them. If we break up, one of us was unhappy. Maybe both were. It would be unfair to continue. And there is someone more compatible out there.

[BradleyScheff]

Give it time. Tell him you're not interested. Stop getting in touch with him. separate.