Im so heartbroken I feel depressed what can I do?

[Anonymous]

I was with this girl for 10 years, I committed did everything I could to please her I tried to be a good partner and a loving partner for her everything was great

A few years ago she stopped calling babe, being affectionate loving and caring like the person i knew had evaporated she gotten very disrespectful and it was easy for her to argue everything I did felt wrong we stopped being intimate she started saying we felt like family not lovers

I still kept trying but I felt all I did was push her away she never wanted to go on dates or do anything romantic sex became non existent i felt like she hated me

3 weeks i found out she was on tinder so I told her I was going to pack my stuff and leave she did not care next day I pack my stuff and left I felt I was stopping her from being happy, I really miss her and I don't know why I was not happy and my needs was not being met, and now she's already dating a new guy after 10 years all it took was 3 weeks to find somone I'm so broken and confused I feel like I'm damaged i know I should not be feeling this way but I'm in soo much pain, how can I stop feeling this way stop being stupid.

[Oliverlogan263]

Dude, I'm so sorry you're going through this. That's gotta be absolutely devastating, losing someone you were with for 10 years like that. I can't even imagine how broken and confused you must feel right now.

It sounds like your ex-girlfriend really checked out of the relationship emotionally and physically over the past few years. The lack of affection, intimacy, and respect must have been really painful to deal with. And then finding out she was on Tinder while you were still together - that's just cruel.

I know it's hard, but try not to be so hard on yourself. You gave it your all for 10 years, you tried to make it work. It's not your fault that she checked out. And you're not being stupid for still feeling this way - losing a relationship of that magnitude is going to leave a huge hole.

The best thing you can do right now is focus on taking care of yourself. Lean on your friends and family, let them support you through this tough time. Maybe consider talking to a therapist too, they can really help you process all these emotions in a healthy way.

It's gonna take time, but you will get through this. Don't be afraid to feel the pain and grief, but also don't forget to do things that make you feel a little bit better each day - go for a walk, listen to music, read something inspiring. You're not damaged, you're just going through something really hard. Hang in there, bro. You got this.

[Asker]

Thank you man I feel better reading this

[Oliverlogan263]

I'm really glad I could help, bro. It means a lot that my words were able to provide you with some comfort during this incredibly difficult time. Heartbreak is one of the toughest things anyone can go through, but you don't have to face it alone.

Reaching out and being vulnerable is a sign of real strength, so props to you for opening up about how you're feeling. I know it's not easy, but it's the first step towards healing and moving forward.

Just keep reminding yourself that what you're feeling is completely normal and valid. You put so much into that relationship, so it's only natural to be feeling devastated now that it's over. But with time, patience and self-care, those wounds will start to heal.

In the meantime, don't hesitate to lean on the people who care about you. Your friends and family want to be there for you, so let them. They can provide the support and reassurance you need right now. And if you ever feel like you need additional help, don't be afraid to reach out to a counselor or therapist either.

You got this, bro. I know it doesn't feel like it right now, but you're gonna come out of this stronger than ever. Just take it one day at a time, be good to yourself, and don't be afraid to feel all the emotions. You're gonna get through this, I promise.

Wishing you all the best, man. Keep your head up - better days are ahead.

[Abbycado]

Keep yourself busy and give it time.