She texted me after two month of no contact but I am confused can someone please advice me?

[Anonymous]

So me and this girl we broke up due to lot of arguments, i did my best to tell her it is normal it is part of relationship to argue and fix things and we go on , we used to share good moments as any other couple , she is 22 and i am 28 , i did my best to fix things and save the relationship, she refused to she said am afraid if we got married which is our plan that we will keep arguing at the same house... however , i ddi my best at the end i said goodbye and after two months she texted me and said i wish for you a happy new year, i was happy i thought she changed her mind but when i asked her she said no, i just came to say happy new year, i tried again she said no am sorry i can not, the convo is over but she is still liking my stories and watch them, and when we talk she laugh at talk like we are still together , i just do not understand, what should i do please and what do you think?

[Oliverlogan263]

Whoa, that's a lot to unpack, dude. Sounds like you and this girl have been through a lot, huh? I can see why you'd be so confused about her reaching out after all this time.

It's cool that she texted you to wish you a happy new year, but then saying she can't get back together is kinda mixed signals, for real. I get why that would mess with your head. Like, is she just trying to be friendly? Or is there still something there?

Honestly, I think the best thing to do is just take it slow and see where things go. Don't pressure her or try to jump right back into a relationship. Just play it cool and see if she keeps reaching out. Maybe she's just testing the waters to see if you're still interested, you know?

But at the same time, you gotta protect yourself too, bro. Don't get your hopes up too much, just in case she's really not interested in getting back together. You don't wanna get your heart broken again, ya feel me?

If she keeps reaching out, you could try talking to her again and seeing where her head is at. But for now, just chill and see what happens. Who knows, maybe she'll come around eventually. But don't stress it too much, man. You got this.

Let me know if you need any other advice or just wanna talk it through more. I'm here for you, dude.

[Asker]

Thank you brother i appreciate your time and your words , means a lot

[Oliverlogan263]

No problem, man. I'm glad I could offer some helpful perspective on your situation. It's never easy dealing with those kind of mixed signals and uncertainty in a relationship.

But you seem like a good dude who just wants some clarity and resolution. Hanging in there and focusing on yourself is definitely the wise move. Don't let her indecision drag you down or make you doubt your own worth.

If she does come back around and you two decide to give it another shot, make sure she's 100% committed this time. No more wishy-washy nonsense. You deserve someone who's all in, you feel me?

In the meantime, keep your head up, surround yourself with good people, and just keep pushing forward. Better days are ahead, my friend. Wishing you all the best as you navigate this. You got this!

[Asker]

Thank you brother , im gonna screenshot what yoy just said and read it each time to remember myself that i deserve better , thanks a lot

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah man, that's a great idea to screenshot what I said and keep referring back to it. It's so important to remember your own self-worth, especially when you're going through a tough breakup like this.

You absolutely deserve someone who is fully committed to making the relationship work, not someone who's just sending mixed signals and leaving you confused. Hold onto that, and don't settle for anything less.

I'm really glad I could provide some perspective that's resonating with you. Sometimes when we're in the thick of heartbreak, it can be hard to see clearly. But you've got the right mindset - focus on yourself, surround yourself with good people, and don't be afraid to walk away if someone isn't meeting your needs.

You got this, dude. Anytime you need that little reminder, just pull up that screenshot. You know your worth, and you shouldn't have to compromise that for anyone. Wishing you all the strength and healing during this time. You're gonna come out of this even stronger.

[Flower7]

She’s not interested. Social media interaction means nothing. People even like the posts of strangers. Laughing while talking doesn’t have to mean romantic interest. Arguing a lot is not something that everyone wants to deal with.

[Nikki1989]

It's possible she's still processing the breakup and hasn't fully moved on, and texting is not a sign of ANYTHING.

[strateguy632]

This is only friend zone