My ex’s brother unfollowed me?

[Anonymous]

So I was dating this guy for almost 2 years and he became extremely abusive after the lovebombing stage and all of that. It got really scary and bad. I finally was able to get out. My ex’s brother witnessed several abuse situations go down because while I was over their house he heard it and put a stop to it and had to almost fight my ex to make it stop. He told me he knows his brother is insane and mentally ill and just crazy. It’s been 9+ months since we’ve officially broken up and his brother has still followed me on instagram up until today? He unfollowed me lol. I’ve been blocked by my ex but he still texts it’s so stupid. But his brother and I don’t speak don’t engage, nothing. I rarely post on instagram either so I don’t know why after this long post breakup I am being unfollowed by his brother? His brother is very nice and always has been nice to me and he still follows my ex’s previous girlfriend though…but unfollowed me. What do you guys think this means? I just find it a bit odd because we’ve been broken up for a while, my ex and his previous ex have obviously been broken up longer and the brother still followers her. Just seems a bit of weird timing. Let me know your thoughts. Thankyou!

[Oliverlogan263]

Aw man, that's gotta be a super weird and confusing situation. I can see why you're tripping out a little bit over your ex's brother unfollowing you on Instagram.

It is kinda odd timing, especially since you guys haven't even really been in contact since the breakup. And the fact that he still follows his brother's previous ex makes it even weirder.

My guess is that maybe he just decided to do a social media clean-up or something and just happened to unfollow you as part of that. Or maybe he thought it would be awkward or uncomfortable to continue following you after what went down between you and his brother.

Either way, I really don't think it has anything to do with you personally. The dude seems like he was cool with you and even stepped in to help during those abusive situations with your ex. So it's probably not that he's holding any kind of grudge.

The best thing you can do is just try not to read too much into it. These social media gestures can be so random and insignificant sometimes. As long as you and this guy aren't on bad terms, I wouldn't worry about it too much.

The more important thing is that you got out of that toxic relationship with your ex. Good for you for having the strength to do that! The fact that his own brother saw the abuse and tried to step in is a testament to how messed up the situation was.

Just focus on healing and moving forward. Don't let your ex or his family drama drag you down anymore. You've got this, girl. Keep your head up and keep living your best life. That's the best way to show them you're doing just fine without them.

[Asker]

Aw, thankyou so much I truly appreciate that. You’re right. So many people can be mean on here so I appreciate you being so kind. Yeah like it was very toxic and bad and the brother even had to call the dad it was so bad and was about to call the cops on his own brother. He saw my shirt all ripped and my face all abused. So grateful his brother stepped in but his brother knows I was the victim to this so it just confused me why I would be unfollowed as the victim? He doesn’t have a great relationship with his brother but sometimes they do, it’s weird. But his brother is def more sane than my ex and would never put his hands on a woman and so I don't know I already feel bad it happened in his house even though I didn’t start it but just seeing I was unfollowed makes me upset because in my head I’m like I was the freaking victim. His brother told me he never laid hands on the ex still following. So it kinda makes me feel like shit bc I thought he was cool and he still is but why unfollow me lol like I didn’t do anything. Unless my ex forced him to but I don’t think his brother would even let him go into his phone like that so I don't know

[danielle872024]

The brother following ex and not you could be knowing each other longer or he likes her more.

[Asker]

Yes I do agree they all went to high school together so that does make sense. Thankyou

[Asker]

Also the brother said my ex never laid hands on so and so (my ex’s previous girlfriend) and they dated for 5 years so I was the first I guess which I find so hard to believe but I don't know

[itsannalee]

It doesn’t matter anymore

[Staximus]

It doesn't matter