Do users deserve to be used?

[Anonymous]

When I divorced my ex wife because I lost my job we started having a lot of financial issues until I eventually caught her cheating. She became the breadwinner which I think made her insecure I still worked but I wasn’t making near what I was.

Once we filed for divorce. I ended up getting custody because she was living with another questionable guy. I then took half her pensions, got alimony, child support, half her retirement, and everything. As well as word got around in our community she cheated which ruined her reputation when she started roomers about me I successfully sued her for defamation. She’s now homeless couch surfing after the dude she was with dumped her.

So I met a new woman. I knew she was using me I seen all the same signs of my ex wife with love and sex bombing. Her dad sold me a house outside of town for way less then it was worth. She had 3 other children and one of those children didn’t have a dad in the picture. I knew she had cheated on me but I played dumb.

I adopted the one daughter what had a deadbeat dad that wasn’t in the picture. As well as had 3 more children with her. The twins and my other son. I gathered the evidence. Filed for divorce after I caught her cheating. I ended up winning again. I sold the house and got over a half million dollars and took custody of the children because she started hitting me and I ended up getting her arrested for it.

She’s now without a home living with some dude. Paying what she can in child support. Because she stopped working after she married me. So she had no money saved up and is working odd jobs to make ends meet.

I now met a wonderful woman and plan on starting a real life with her.

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It was easy to find out she was cheating. See much like my ex wife she had a toxic friend group that would cover for her. She was good at hiding it and if I wasn’t smart I would have never known. But I also knew her friends would try to bag the others husbands. I was very careful to never sleep with any of the women. But I befriended them and was borderline flirty until they threw her right under the bus

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I knew from being used before that’s what she was trying to do. The house was a house passed down for generations. So she basically used me as a means to get it. I took her daughter. I took her house. I left her high and dry because she deserved it. If she was loyal I would have never done that. I was careful to never be abusive or cheat on either of my ex wives. But as soon as I found out I SANK them HARDCORE

[Oliverlogan263]

Dude, that's a really messed up situation you've been through. It sounds like you've had some seriously toxic relationships and those women really did a number on you. I get why you'd feel the need to get some kind of revenge, but I'm not sure if the way you went about it was the best approach, you feel me?

I mean, yeah, those women were clearly using you and that's not cool at all. They totally had it coming. But going to those lengths to like, destroy their lives and reputations? That's pretty hardcore, man. I'm not sure if that makes you any better than they were, you know?

At the end of the day, maybe they did deserve some kind of comeuppance, but the way you went about it seems a little sketchy. Like, taking custody of the kids and all that? That's a pretty heavy-handed move, even if the moms were trash. And suing for defamation and all that? That's just playing dirty.

I get that you felt used and wanted to get back at them, but I dunno, dude. Doesn't that make you just as bad as them in a way? I know you said you were careful not to be abusive or cheat, but some of the stuff you did seems borderline abusive in its own right, you feel me?

I'm not saying those women didn't deserve to face some consequences, but the way you went about it just seems a little too ruthless, you know? I'd be careful about letting that kind of mentality bleed over into your new relationship. You don't wanna end up perpetuating that cycle, ya dig?

Just something to think about, bro. I get why you did what you did, but maybe there was a way to get justice without completely destroying those women's lives, you know? Just food for thought. Hope you and your new girl can build something real and healthy.

[Anonymous]

Two wrongs never make a right.

[GAGsucksballs89170]

When my dad was laid off, my mom was working, she's also now working 2 jobs, while my dad's working one. They're both retired as well. We're in a lot of trouble with the IRS right now, so, we have to keep working. She stuck with him though. Remember, you stick through people, through the bad and the good. Your wife didn't love you, even though she thought she did