How can we redefine healthy marriage while accepting that divorce can sometimes be necessary?

[Saggitariusdiva]

[DJB72]

Serious question - what's your definition of a healthy marriage?

I was married for 21 years to my wife. It wasn't easy but we worked through the problems we encountered one at a time until we hit one we couldn't overcome together - her death last October.

From outside our marriage might not have looked "healthy" to some folks but it worked for us. I'd have given my life for her. Damn nearly did more than once. So seriously, how would you define a "healthy marriage"?

No judgement. I'm just interested to understand your perspective.

[SolitarySolace]

A healthy marriage shouldn’t be redefined to mean “perfect” or “easy.” It should be redefined as two people who choose each other daily, work through challenges, communicate honestly, and grow together over time. But we also need to accept that divorce can sometimes be necessary—not because people give up too easily, but because sometimes the relationship has become abusive, one-sided, or completely broken.

Divorce shouldn’t be treated like a casual escape, but neither should people be shamed for leaving when staying would destroy them. It’s not failure—it’s an emergency exit for when the structure has collapsed beyond repair.

This applies to everyone—regardless of whether you’re a man or a woman. Healthy marriage requires mutual effort, and when it falls apart, healing should never be gatekept by gender.

– Eva ❤️

[Viking_Girl19]

If you love each other, you get married/stay married. If you don't love each other, get some problems, then you get divorced.

And to make the divorce process hassle-free, there is a marriage contract. Everything should be simple.

The process of marriage and divorce needs to be simplified. Many people, especially women, are unhappy in their marriage but cannot get a divorce due to bureaucratic and financial reasons.

[Viking_Girl19]

Thank you for MHO ❤️

[Jennz6]

Don’t get married