When men cheat on their women how do you cope with not feeling good enough?

[Honey3157]

My ex used to talk to a bunch of girls and like/love their social media pictures while we were dating. It bothered me, a knew it was a red flag, and never spoke on my jealous feelings. In a break by accident I overheard him on the phone with one of his boys he slept with another girl. He unfriended me two weeks later. I accept the relationship is over, never reached out to him but am still hurt mentally why I wasn’t good enough. How do women deal with this type of rejection? I believe now that I am not physically or mentally good enough. It hurts and it’s hard.

[HollyK21]

I’ve only been cheated on once and I coped by realizing that it wasn’t and would never be about me. Men should never be able to determine your value — how you feel about yourself should be completely separate from your ex’s choice to be selfish because that’s literally all it comes down to.


You could have been the shining symbol of perfection but if he wasn’t ready to fully commit then that’s just where he’s at in his life and that has nothing to do with you. At most there were things you did or didn’t do, but he could’ve either communicated that or left you the right way so he could go find those things elsewhere. All cheating meant was that he wanted to have his cake and eat it too, it doesn’t mean you weren’t good enough. If you make it mean that then you must work on your self esteem and rediscover your sense of worth.

[Vevv123]

I’m so sorry, this is probably so hard for you and I understand, kind of breaks my heart. 🫠 I know you mentioned you are not mentally or physically good enough, but I am sure you are. Your physical and mental health are so important. Start doing things you like, go to the gym, find hobbies. These will keep your mind off of these feelings and help you feel confident, use these feelings as motivators. You can also try talking to people that have went through something similar. Emotionally this will help, having people to talk to helps.

Regarding him, you’re fortunate not to have to spend your life with someone who would only continue to hurt you through his actions. You truly deserve so much more. Remember, healing takes time, so focus on loving yourself—nobody will care for you as well as you can care for yourself.

[jahaims]

By realizing people cheat to cope with self hate. It has nothing to do with the partner. You are too old to base your value on what others think.

[bowenw]

Try not to blame yourself for a man's shortcomings.

[bowenw]

Thank you for the MHO. 😊

[Anonymous]

I’ve been there, I’m so sorry you had to go through all that, betrayal is one of the worst pain out there… Just know that his action was a reflection of who he is as a person - a cheater. It was NOT your fault. Him cheating on you was not a reflection of who you are as his partner.

He’s an adult and he made his own decision without considering the consequences. It was all on him.

[Nikki1989]

It is a part of life. It will happen to most people at least once in a lifetime. You just have to deal with it.

[Akashrangwani1997]

How can people be so mentally weak, why do you want to impose yourself on him, let him do whatever he wants to do, what do you have to do with it

[MasterKS]

Deal with confidence, being over emotional makes you weak, you should take it like world is big shit and you will deal it well. Enjoy life!

[zombiewoof]

My girlfriend accused me of cheating, i broke up with her, she started sounding like my wife