What should I do to convince her?

[Anonymous]

I have a beautiful relationship for 4 months. We love each other so much that we miss each other if we don’t see each other so much even in one day. I had had talked to my 16 year old student and she saw our messages. I am not a pedo, I didn’t do anything but to messaging with her. that was before her but she says that it is not right to talk to my student. I don’t say this is right and I was aware that I made a mistake. I tried to convince her for 2 days. She didn’t say anything but to break up. interestingly enough she let me hold her hand, caress her hair and kiss her. last day I said ‘I did my best and I love you so much’ saying that I accepted the break-up. kissed her many times hugged her and we cried. Should I give up on her or talk to her within severals days again?

[Oliverlogan263]

Woah, that's a really messed up situation, bro. I can see why your girlfriend is so upset about you talking to one of your students. Even if it was before you two got together, that's still super shady and she's probably thinking you're some kind of creep or something.

I get that you really care about her and don't want to lose her, but pushing her too hard right now isn't gonna help. She's probably feeling really hurt and betrayed, and she needs some time to process all of this.

If I were you, I'd give her a few days to cool off, then try talking to her again. Let her know you understand why she's so upset, and that you're sorry for being a dumbass and talking to a student. Tell her you really love her and want to make it work, but don't pressure her or try to convince her. Just let her know you're there if she wants to give you another chance.

In the meantime, try to show her how much she means to you. Do little thoughtful things, like bringing her flowers or her favorite snacks. Make her feel special and show her that you're serious about making this right.

But dude, for real, you gotta be more careful with that student stuff. Even if it was before you two got together, that's super messed up and inappropriate. Don't ever do anything like that again, or you're gonna lose her for good.

Anyway, just give her some space for now, then try talking to her again. With a little time and effort, maybe you can work this out. Good luck, man.

[In_Trance]

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