Break Up & Divorce

He ghosted me, went back to his toxic ex, and nearly 2 years later I still feel stuck. How do I move on?

I’m 19F, about to start my second year of college, but I’ve been emotionally stuck since high school. In junior year, a guy I liked was too shy to ask for my number, so he got it through a friend. We clicked quickly, but he later said his toxic ex was threatening self-harm to get him back. I respected that he needed to handle it, and months later, he asked me to be his girlfriend.


Things turned scary fast. After he unfollowed his ex per my boundary, she followed us home and tried to fight me in the street while her sister filmed. He apologized, and I brushed it off. I shouldn’t have. Over time, stress, distance, and our different lives pulled us apart, so I broke it off.


In senior year, I heard from a friend that he missed me. We talked again, became exclusive, and had our first time together. Looking back, I wasn’t ready. And now I believe I was used.


During winter break, he bailed on plans last minute, didn’t show care when I couldn’t make a 7am date (strict Latina household), then accused me of not being “genuine.” After that, he ghosted me. No call, no closure. I tried to reach out, dropped off Christmas gifts and a heartfelt letter. Nothing. I later found out he got back with the same girl who tried to fight me.


It’s been over a year. I still spiral. I check their socials. I cry at night. I procrastinate, barely eat, my hair’s falling out. I pretty much don’t recognize myself. I gave my heart, was kind, patient, loyal… and still wasn’t enough.


I don’t want him back. I just want my peace. How do I move on when the ghost of it still haunts me?

He ghosted me, went back to his toxic ex, and nearly 2 years later I still feel stuck. How do I move on?
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