Been reading some info on this topic some say 1 month of healing per 1 year of relationship others say more. How long was it for you?
Everyone has their own timing to fully healed from their past trauma relationship..
It's not about whose take shorter time/ whose take longer time..
But, what's matter is what lesson we can learn from every pain that we hv to go through in our life not just in relationship stuff..
N be wiser.. fix ourself be better in our next step
Make mistake it's normal , everyone did.. but don't take that as a excuse for us to keep repeating the same mistake on n on / even do it worse than before..
Obviously take the time you need but to me… if there is zero chance of getting back together all that time you take, is wasted time. Go enjoy life, and don’t marry the first girl you sleep with.
I think it depends on the situation.
If you've made the decision I think there's an initial relief. But then after some time if you had and care/love there may be a little guilt, or a tendency to find things that remind you of them.
That could really set you back. And start the grieving process.
I personally would say 6 months to a year to accept They're gone. And anytime after that is based upon whether you get stuck in a rut or have other good things going on in your life.
That's tough. But I get it.
Thank you for picking my answer. Best of luck to you through this difficult time
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I think it's up to the person that has gone through it. It depends on how long it take the person to except it and the reasons behind it all. If your at fault I'm sure it's going yo take
Longer if day in and day out you were miserable and it was destroying who you are as a person but you stuck it out to try and figure it out . you have ti understand you started out as friends then you can end it as friends not unless you have one that won't allow it it makes it tougher but if the day you leave or walk aways and say I will always love you im sorry I couldn't make it work I wish you the best .
You will carry it for along time but like I've always said it's not that we fell down. It's how we get back up and start again
If you separate the odds of getting back together are less.
If you both want it to work you sit down face to face push your knees in-between each other's hold each other's hands
Look in to each other's eyes and say I really love you in order to make this work we have to change at least 50% of what we are doing. She might say like what. And you say LIKE WHAT? Athen say like I need sex 500 times a day then smile. And of course she to will smile but after you both laugh
You will both relax and you will know it doesn't matter.\nHow off the wall something might sound that you're getting a chance to say it. It might be ridiculous 2 one person , but it's not to the other person but your there to communicate and grow make things work and that's better than just walking
Thanks she does want to try its a weird situation we have to split for living reasons we were in a house of familys and now they want to up and sell and we just aren't financially ready yet to buy there is a lot of history in this relationship this is just one of the things thats going on i could text for days
We will still be seeing each other and we have a daughter we just both kinda just need a reset and just step back for a bit and see i agree on that i just dont want to drift apart further its not like we are toxic for each other kid plays 3 sports a year has straight a's we still laugh talk have sex its just different after 25 years
There really isn’t a set time , it comes down to how you handle things , no one else can decide that for you some people move on to someone else immediately after a break up and some people take time for themselves after a break up and don’t want to date anyone. When my ex and I separated , I wasn’t looking to date anyone but after a month I ended up meeting a girl that came on to me and I dated her for 6 months and told her I didn’t want to rush into another relationship , so we were FWB’s with some strings attached for 6 months until her husband knocked on my door. So after her I stayed single for quite sometime , but now I feel ready to meet someone
Ya just dont know how to feel yet she's just confused on what she wants with us she just wants to go back to school and get her life back on track by herself and if them feelings come back then we can work it out but i told her iam not gonna wait forever i need companionship and someone to talk to but she just can't say no or yes
Like most females’ tend to do when they want to keep their options opened and be open to dating other guys’ , she doesn’t want to hurt your feelings so she is just sugarcoating it , so you don’t go ballistic on her she doesn’t hate you , she just doesn’t want to be committed to you anymore , she pretty much wants to spread her legs to other guys’ , if I was you man , just move on and dump her , when a girl really loves a guy, she doesn’t need space from him period
Bottomline man is she wants to be free to do whatever her little heart desires , she wants her cake and wants to eat it to , she will stay your friend but not a loyal friend once she meets another dude. , if she didn’t want another dude then she wouldn’t need space from you period
It's been a year and it's still a process. I'm over it for the most part, but I can't lie to say that I sometimes still miss him, but I'm starting to reach acceptance.
How long were you together with him? My wife and i were together since end of high-school its been 25years and iam lost now its tough dont know how long its going to take but we have a 14 yr old daughter so i just can't avoid my ex i dont know yesterday wasn't bad but waking up this morning and today is not starting off well
We were together for over a year. Like a year and 3 months. And I'm sorry. I hope it gets better.
See it’s v true that it varies how much time it takes to heal but I’ve read few places that acc to studies it takes properly 1 yr nd 3 months to properly emotionally detach from that person nd im going through a heartbreak after dating him for 3 years so I believe it’ll take me that much around time. As a woman yes starting months of breakup were really hard. I used to write down my thoughts and emotions in a diary of anything related to my ex in order to let out my feelings nd that used to help. If u wanna move on then just understand time will heal and keep urself busy that actually helps believe me and ik it’s v hard to move on so gradually fill ur time with new things, go on dates to realign ur mind onto someone else. U can even take therapy nd vent out ur thoughts and emotions anything like that to ur therapist. Learn what went wrong while being with ur ex and grow from that. Try to understand y it ended.
also forgive me for my poor grammar.
nd how long was ur relationship? Did u breakup or she broke up?
Communicate with ur partner that helps. What she’s wanting nd what ur wanting nd all ….
See since that’s a really long time so i think u should try consulting a professional cauz I personally don’t have any more suggestions to help u out im sorry. I hope things go well for u
I’ve had people say that crap to me as well , 1 month per 1 year , it’s just garbage.
It takes as long as it takes and nobody should be made to think they are somehow abnormal for the fact it was longer or shorter than the other person
What’s important is that you’re ready to move on and start inviting others into your life when you do.
Everyone has emotional baggage from previous relationships but it’s just not fair to expect a new partner to deal with yours when your still reeling from your breakup and or more likely when you just want to sleep with someone else to fill a void.
I don't think it takes any specific amount of time? I've had this happen a couple of times. The first time that I got divorced. I really didn't want to and I felt horrible for about a year after. When a couple of years later. I had a really bad breakup after that. I was absolutely relieved to have that person out of my life permanently and I felt happy and free. I think the circumstances of the divorce or breakup and your relationship or lack of relationship with a person before it happens. Have a lot to do with how you feel afterward. You may feel happy and relieved that they are gone or you may feel horrible and regretful that you lost an important relationship that you cared for. It can go either way.
You say half of the time...
For me it was longer...
But it depends the personality. Some can handle id different or better than others.
I stay too long in the past before I am open for the future. So I try to close a chapter when it all is done. When nothing can ever change anything.
Go forward. That is how time flies.
Ya half the time would be 12.5 years god i hope it dont take that long I've really known for like a month and a half and iam actually looking forward now to some time alone and put some time and effort for myself for once in 25 years its all been about life with her and my daughter
Listen look I know this may sound horrible but it's the truth , I rather hear the truth then living in a fantasy comfort with a lie. The truth is you can not obligated someone to love you.
Yes it will be to late, Do not give this woman any chances you are not a door mat you're a human being and you're thoughts matter.
No absolutely not a doormat. Its a very complicated situation with 25years of history together. We have always been there for each other and now she just wants to do things on her own. Weird thing is she still wants us to see each other its like we are going backwards in our relationship. We was married now separated then prob single but at the same time still kinda together? Ya first time in 25 years l can't figure her out
What is going on to her brain? Sounds like she needs to clear her head and make up her mind and stop with these mind games.
I know she is playing them, just when l start to let go and not care that when she starts wanting me around again, so l did for 2 days we acted married again cooking dinner together , sex both nights then l hear we gotta stop getting used to you around again? Its not happening again!!!
It took me a full 10 or 11 minutes. It was a bad marriage and the day she walked out was the best day of my life.
Yes if she leaves you and you are still in love with her than of course it’ll take a lot longer to recover.
Well hope it works out for the best. Whatever way that is.
I never broke up or got divorced. I think it depends on the time and reason behind it. If the relationship was dying or nearly dead, then you may need less time than if you thought it was going good and it just ended.
If you didn't love your wife, you'll forget her immediately, but if you're a man who divorced his wife out of love, you'll forget her hard.
I love her so much but know we need to let go for a while its tough when we have this talk things are great for a while then fall back into the same pattern she and I both have issues expressing feelings i can do it better on here then to her but iam getting better but its time for change
It could be 5 minutes. It could be 5 years.
Not only that, but it all depends on your inner emotional strength.
People are different. Some are fast, but some people can’t even heal it in the entire life.
Ya iam hoping we can work it out but I've been looking into it but I've been with her since I was 19 its my first relationship and been together for 25 years and married for 17 years and if it doesn't work out Iam really scared its gonna take forever to heal from this and never trust close love again
Each Person is different and depending on how the relationship went from start to finish and it's events can help a person process and proceed slow to fast.
Been a great relationship with her we laugh all the time get along great have a wonderful daughter really can't complain about anything once we hit our 40's things started becoming strange I've heard the term "frustrating forties" or "mid life crisis" and never really believed them but i do now since covid things have changed without us even noticing
Completely understand that. Also into 40s give or take a females going through peri/menopause to menopause if they had a hysterectomy, without hormones replacement. This puts a new twist on moods and interactions with men as well.
Mind and physical needs change and it can be better or worse depending on if children are still at home and / or grandchildren are involved.
If you have both found new ways to stay busy that doesn't involve each other.
Communication is important goal but at times one side may not want to change and they are okay with mundane or the non-existent things they seem to get by without.
My complete hopes that you are able to talk through this and move forward. Find things you both enjoy and do at least a few times a month together and then look at one thing from the other side and each try it out once and see about moving forward in new ways to keep the relationship alive.
Sidenote is if there is / are any medical conditions or reasons why things changed may need to discuss that as well in great depth.
No medical issues that we know about its weird I dont want to separate but I understand whats she's going through cause I went through it not sure if life will ever get better unsure if your partner will change all them thoughts and after my little crisis I loved her more then after year or so she's going through it and I dont know if she is going to come around like i did but she's willing to give it a shot so thats all i can do iam not even mad at her its just not like her its weird
me? my 7yrs that full of pain. I'm totally healed after 2months only. Because I choose to focus on my self. Enjoy my life. And especially, I earn haha for financially stable.
That's not a set time, how long it takes someone to heal is a personal thing
Typically, I'm over a breakup in a few minutes. Only exception was my ex wife which took a year.
How long were you 2 married? Iam not over it but iam accepting whatever the outcome may be cause she is still unsure if she wants out or not but iam not going to live in misery waiting iam gonna move on if she wants me back and i still have feelinhs then fine but whoknows til it happens
For women, they are usually fucking someone else the next day. For men, it's usually years..
That's the neat part kiddo, you don't
As long as it takes to get inside another woman
until you meet someone new
maybe a month?
Long time
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