Guys, i’m currently pregnant and married. I caught him micro cheating on me and he keeps lying his way out. it’s messing with my pregnancy. Need help?

[Anonymous]

I don’t understand why men like my husband has a huge blessing of a family, wife and a child on the way and still micro cheats and likes half naked women with onlyfans account. It’s so messed up. Worse is he lies when caught. My husband is doing this to me and it’s bad for my mental health and pregnant. I feel alone and neglected and disrespected. I found out he was doing this because my gut told me to check his phone since he was acting dead around me. And I was right he was chatting with two girls. One we both know and another one he worked with. The one he worked with he lied about her being married and having kids. Reasons i know he made that up because I called the girl on his phone to tell her off and ask if she was and said no. Why is he treating me like I’m a joke especially pregnant? I’m fed up with his gaslighting behaviors and not caring he is affecting me and his baby in the womb stressing me out. I need advice what should I do? He says he wants to change and did delete other social media for the same reasons to find out he still acting up on Snapchat. This all came out after marriage and when i found out i was pregnant and told him. He did eventually delete the girl I confronted but im know afraid he won’t stop his crap. I am trying to not pay much attention so I can focus on my pregnancy but I’m very depressed at the same time how he is making me feel neglected as a whole. I need advice!

[Anonymous]

Your man was like this before you got pregnant the first time. I don’t see how him being attracted to a pic counts as cheating? Talking to other women’s sexually I get that. But you can leave him if you want, the next man is still going to find other women attractive. The issue is women expect men to think and act as they do. But we don’t. We’re not the same. Just cause you express your feelings more doesn’t make you automatically right. A lot of women seem to think that their feelings trump everything g else. I can almost guarantee you you’re not the same as when you two got together. You’ve probably changed as did he, especially after you got married.

[Asker]

I understand that there is many attractive women it’s the list aspect behind it while being married by socializing with them behind my back sending snap streaks to them. He is emotional cheating by talking to random women online. What’s the point of a man marring a women and still liking around and still talking to other women as if their still single. Thats straight up cheating

[Asker]

Also its lack of respect and shows no sign of loyalty if men keep acting single and doing single behaviors while married is wrong. No self control what’s so ever.

[Opinion Owner]

Like I said your man was like this before you two got married, before you had your kids. You just didn’t evaluate him enough to know this. Sexually is everything the same? Probably not. Were the children planned? Maybe he married you because he felt obligated to for knocking you up.
Yes him talking to other women is cheating g if it’s in a sexual nature. But again are things the same sexually? You neglecting him?

[Asker]

Everything was met for both ends and no parts was neglected on both sides since we communicate everything. It’s just behind my back I found out he was still talking to other women and confronted him. Also I got pregnant after Maraige and all this popped up after. Just a side note. It’s like I was being betrayed

[Asker]

Me and him discussed children and life goals together and everything but all this to me is a slap on the face to be real

[Opinion Owner]

I’d really love to hear his side cause I doubt what you’re saying is the same way he sees it. I almost guarantee he has his own version of what the truth is. Yes I’m saying you’re not being completely honest. Like you had no part in all of this. From what I’m getting everything was all sunshine and roses on your end, you did nothing as far as changing, yelling at him, talking down on him, not letting him talk, etc.

[Asker]

Nope we have healthy communication. I saw what I saw on his phone and it was not ok. I don’t lie what I see on actions

[Asker]

All I know is he has been acting off and after getting pregnant after marriage I see his socializing with other women behind my back and that’s cheating. It’s messed up and shouldn’t be happening at all.

[Opinion Owner]

Like I said he’s always been that way. You think you have clear communication but I guarantee you he’s not being honest w you. He just told you what you w dated to hear to keep you off his back. Like I said you have a role in this as well.

[Asker]

That I do agree he had been giving me what I want to hear and I’m not falling for it. I told him straight up I ain’t playing no lie games. What makes you think I have a part to play? What’s your reasons for thinking that way?

[Opinion Owner]

Because everyone tends to twist the story a little.

[Asker]

I’m saying it how it is not twisting stories because I don’t got time for that nonsense

[Opinion Owner]

Ok. Doubt it but we’ll go w what you say.

[Asker]

I refuse to twist stories around and just say it how it is and straight forward seriously. Got no mental energy for that crap.

[Opinion Owner]

Ok so we’ll go w what you say

[jahaims]

He is too immature to be a healthy partner. He will continue this behavior too. Make him go to therapy and look up avoidant attachment.

[Asker]

I agree I’m going to check that out. I already started the Maraige Counsling just going to give it time I guess.

[Abbycado]

Tf is micro cheating? There is cheating or there isn’t. There are no degrees.

[Asker]

Micro cheating is when a partner talks sexually to other women online or liking there post or entertaining them while in a relationship

[Abbycado]

That’s emotional cheating and it is still cheating.

[Asker]

I agree with you it still is

[Anonymous]

What is micro cheating?

[Asker]

It means when a man or woman sexually or talks to random women behind there loved one’s back. It includes liking sexual explicit photos, following only fans accounts, video calling or calling random women behind partners back. It’s cheating having secret relationships

[Opinion Owner]

Still, it's not physical, just virtual, so you shouldn't worry about it.
It's like driving a car in a video game, you might have a car crash, but you won't get hurt, because it's not for real.

[Asker]

Virtually shouldn’t even be entertained because that’s showing there is a loyalty issue and it can cause emotional disconnection in a marriage, sexual intimacy, and not being present to the wife and family. It can lead to more is hurting others they love. It’s ruining the family and relationship they have. That’s what i mean. It is a real person he be talking to and feelings grow. Or it can be attracted to them. Opposites attract. All that energy should be on the family and wife. It’s fake love at the end of the day and it is leading someone on.

[Opinion Owner]

I agree, it's possible that he has loyalty issues.

[Asker]

Yeah it really does and I don’t want that to be an example for my baby growing up looking up to him with that behavior.

[Opinion Owner]

Good thinking.

[In_Trance]

Stop it

[Asker]

What do you mean?