He is cheating and I’m pregnant and I don’t know what to do?

[Anonymous]

I’m 21 he is 26 and I fell pregnant 3 months ago. I’ve basically been seeing he’s seeing this woman who already has kids of her own which makes it worse as he has a kid coming along. He already is excited for the baby and I am seeing he’s liking this women’s pictures and going out his way to message her. I don’t think he’s physically slept with her. I mentioned it to him and he said it’s just likes and that I’m taking it far. He said we aren’t married and he basically tried to say that no man will want me since I’m carrying his child which is true I get that. I feel vunerable here I don’t want the child to not have a dad. I’m busting my ass off for him to as the baby dad is homeless and living in his van and I’ve literally paid for a flat for us and he does not even care! We had argument yesterday and I don’t know if it’s the hormones but he hasn’t replied since last night and I feel he’s with her. I know this situation isn’t just about me know it’s also about the child and I don’t know what to do. Yes I love the guy but I’m so heartbroken even though he hasn’t physically got with her I know what it’s leading too. He laughed in my face when I asked him about her and said it’s just a couple of likes whatever. He was even leaning reading his phone the other day hiding it from me. I’m so heartbroken and I’m just awake all night stressed out. I want my child to have a dad I don’t want to do this alone it was never my plan. Do I just let him basically cheat and carry on. I feel so vunerable and upset my whole pregnancy I’ve been depressed

Updates

1 y

He hasn’t even removed her even though it’s hurting me this much

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry to hear that you're going through such a difficult and stressful situation. It's important to remember that your well-being and the well-being of your baby should come first, and that you have the right to be treated with respect and honesty in your relationship.

It's not okay for your boyfriend to be cheating on you, even if it's just through messaging and liking pictures. It's important to have open and honest communication with him about your feelings and concerns, and to let him know that his behavior is not acceptable. It's also important to set boundaries and take steps to protect yourself and your baby.

If you feel like you can't trust your boyfriend and that he is not willing to change his behavior, it may be necessary to consider ending the relationship or seeking outside support. This can include talking to a counselor, reaching out to friends and family for support, or seeking legal advice if necessary.

It's understandable to feel scared and uncertain about the future, but it's important to remember that you are not alone and that there are resources available to help you through this difficult time. Don't be afraid to reach out for help and support, and take care of yourself and your baby first and foremost.

[MementoMori777]

I think you should ask your parents for advice, or family in general, he will have to pay the child support, but your child doesn't necessary need his actual father for a father figure, let's be honest, this retard would just influence him incorrectly anyways, you can replace a good father figure with any guy that has the best intentions for the child, like a grandfather or uncle, cousin, long story short the influence doesn't necessarily have to be from his actual father, let the kid and another male with good morals spend time together and that child will be fine, as long as he has male figures in his life, not to mention when you find love again he can pick up where they left off.

[Anonymous]

Ask yourself do you really want to continue a relationship with a guy who may be and more than likely is cheating on you? Do you want that unhealthy dynamic in your child's life? At this point you have to start thinking in terms of what is going to be best for your child. Being in an environment where the man is cheating all the time is not a good one and will only lead to more heartache.

[Anonymous]

Your relationship is probably doomed long term but stick it out for at least 3 to 5 years until you are in a secure position to move on.

[Mangospacho]

Who is “he”? Is he your husband, fiancée, boyfriend, one night stand? It doesn’t sound like he is serious about raising the child anyway so focus on the child and not him. He is going to have to step up on his own, regardless. No amount of shaming or insulting him for being a deadbeat dad is going to make him want to be a good father.

[gorydetails]

It's time to cut your ties with him, and get assistance from family and friends to help you support your child. You fucked up royally by making poor choices in men. Now you're paying the consequences.

Focus on getting a stable income and a way to get decent child care.

[Anonymous]

Ok, I feel bad for you but YOU chose this loser to sleep with and get pregnant by. Best thing you can do is kick him out, tell him to fuck off, tell him he owes you 18 years of child support because he couldn't keep his dick wrapped.

[exitseven]

What are you thinking? Get a lawyer and make sure this guy takes responsibility for his child.

[NostalgiaSenpi]

You know what to do, dump his ass. Take him to court for child support and take care of the child with support from your family.

[TheFlak38]

Think about the thousands of guys you friend zoned in favour of the asshole who just fucks and leaves you.

[Anonymous]

Forgive him. Nobody is perfect and you owe it to your new family to give it another shot. Don’t be selfish.

[Agape93]

Break up, abort it and move on

[Danny_dan92]

Damn good luck honestly

[jimmy2]

He a player, he will run