How do you heal after your ex blocks you everywhere?

[Anonymous]

My ex had been uncertain about our relationship since April — he didn’t know whether he wanted to stay with me or not. It was a heavy and exhausting situation, because I kept waiting, and holding on for so long. But he was my first love, and I was his too.

I’ve now been in Canada since mid-August and I'm coming back at the end of the semester. Before I left, he still didn’t know if he wanted us to get back together when I returned. Yet, he kept texting me, even when I stopped replying.

About a month after my arrival, I reached out to check on him. The conversation eventually turned to the topic of “us,” and he still didn’t have an answer. It was too painful, I felt drained and broken. So, I decided to move on and removed him from social media. The next day, he texted me: “Nice of you to delete me when you’re the one not replying.” 2 days later, I replied: “I removed you because I refuse to keep suffering. You can’t make a decision, so I made one. I won’t justify myself any further. Take care.” He read the message right away.

Two weeks later, it was his birthday, but I chose not to message him to protect myself. The next morning, he sent this: “I wasn’t expecting anything, and yet I’m disappointed. Maybe you already planned on never talking to me again, but let me confirm that I never want to talk to you again. Never.” He then blocked me everywhere except WhatsApp. 3 days later, since I hadn’t replied (and never will), he blocked me there too. So now, I’m completely blocked.

It’s been 3 weeks since that message, and nothing has changed — total silence, total disconnection.

I honestly feel really sad and broken. I’m confused, disappointed, and even a bit shocked by how he reacted. I keep wondering what he’s feeling now, three weeks later. Is he relieved? Angry? Sad too? Do you think he’ll ever unblock me or reach out again? Or am I really going to stay blocked forever? What do you make of his reaction?

Thank you all in advance <3

[Abbycado]

You both blocked each other from what I can tell. Keep it that way and move on. Don’t let him back in your life. Be done.

[Asker]

I deleted him from social media but I didn't block him (that's really extreme, and it's not like him to do that either). I think I really hurt him by not wishing him a happy birthday, but his reaction is still excessive, isn't it? It was 3 weeks ago, so I wonder if he'll ever come back (at least just to apologize, because it's very hard...).

[slatyb]

You don't need their presence to heal. You are giving them way too much control over your life. Focus on your future, not the past.

[BruceWayne32123]

Move on. Plenty of fish in the sea. You’ll be okay on your own or you’ll meet someone new.

[Nikki1989]

Moving on is the easiest thing in the world to do.

Just do it. Simple.

[Anordinaryguy123]

She had done and I just said fuck you asshole

Now, I have a great girlfriend and we are planning to get married

[In_Trance]

You never check on exes ever.
Delete all contact information don't look them up on social media don't drive by their house either.

[Anonymous]

I don't have an ex.

[cavedweller1973]

It just takes time and patience