What’s the main thing that causes divorce?

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Hagar88 · Accepted Answer

Seemingly minor hurdles or hard times. Social media has made a lot of wives green with envy

Chazmatazz269 · Accepted Answer

People not properly vetting potential mates before committing.

AviatorTom · Answer

According to the classic joke... Marriage.

Realistically, having divorced myself, amicably, after 20 years of marriage, people find the reasons they got married no longer apply. In my case, a major reason we got married was to have kids and raise a family. Once the kids got older, that reason was no longer there.

Also, people do change over time, and drift apart.

ohsheeT · Answer

You have yo check the egos at the door. There is no place for egos in relationships. You have to treat the person your with the same way you want to be treated. And if either one has an ego. Then that person always thinks they are right. And it will never work

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Women. They initiate the majority of divorces.

RavVid · Answer

The leading cause of divorce is beyond dispute marrying.

The second leading cause of divorce is the expectation that marriage will end in divorce. As it is now the usual outcome, it doesn't seem justified in distinguishing between married relationships and non-married relationships.

Also the justifications of relationship termination can be just that... justifications not having anything to do with the actual why's. Catch cries that are societly acceptable.

Notice the %ages given don't add up to 100% which makes them highly sus.

What is also beyond dispute is that female involvement is the leading cause of relationship termination.

Lesbian relationships terminate at twice the rate of hetero relationships which themselves are far less stable than gay relationships which have no female involvement at all. So it is not the male side.

Since wives initiate 70-80% of divorces that just further emphasises that it is female involvement that is the cause.

The answer is found in female evolutionary psychology i. e. the ancient software that all women run. It has always been to female advantage to have the best male in terms of resource provision, peer status, stoicism in crises etc etc. Women consequently continually test their man to see if he is still up to stuff. A key area of testing is to see that he can protect himself from her.

If he can't protect himself from her, than he is not going to be able to protect her is the ancient girl logic. Eventually most women grind most men down then it is time for the female to terminate.

ritxi · Answer

In my opinion, the main cause of divorce is not just one single factor, but rather the combination of contempt, disdain, defensiveness, and stonewalling within the relationship. These behaviors create a toxic cycle that erodes trust and emotional connection over time.

Contempt and disdain are particularly damaging because they express disrespect and a lack of appreciation for the partner, which can deeply wound the relationship’s foundation. When one or both partners respond with defensiveness, it shuts down open communication and prevents resolving conflicts constructively. Stonewalling, or emotionally withdrawing and avoiding engagement, only makes things worse by creating distance and frustration.

Together, these four behaviors form what many psychologists call the “Four Horsemen” of relationship breakdown. If left unchecked, they lead to a breakdown of intimacy and partnership, making divorce much more likely. So, while many factors can contribute to divorce, this toxic pattern of interaction is often at the core.

Anonymous · Answer

Main thing that causes divorce these days. I have to be blunt - it’s women’s expectations.

- women and girls tend to have higher expectations

- listens to other females give bad advice about her own life which makes it seem like she’s indecisive herself and can’t think for herself. Getting advice from others isn’t wrong, but I’m old enough to know, not everyone has your best intentions. Others find your drama to be their delight, let that sink in.

- women initiate divorce 80+% of the time

I know some radical feminist is going to read this and think I’m some angry “incel”. The term incel is a deep hatred for women with a psycho mindset. I can’t speak on behalf of all guy or men. But if a woman gives me her number I don’t bombard her by harassing her, I’m too tired in life to approach women and ask them out on dates.

I like to see others achieve their success what they work hard towards whether man or woman. As I get older I care less about sex so I don’t hate women, but I will call out their BS, because I can say it in a constructive manner. A lot of women in the west seem to be depressed and can't even cope with their life from what I see in public on a daily basis. If women complain and argue that mothers failed as mothers not raising their sons right. I can say the same about fathers with their daughters. A lot of girls I’ve dated I’ve had daddy issues and it’s annoying now. I can’t be some psychologist to fix a girl in her life.

blueonblack22 · Answer

Usually economic. But I am no expert.

But there is statistical data that women file for divorce twice as often as men do.

This is usually because people got married for the wrong reasons to begin with. But also I really believe the older generations had more of a sense of duty in marriage, had less temptation and most of all didn’t have wild / unreasonable expectations of what marriage would be. Entertainment, movies, social media, etc. unfortunately gives people (especially women…. no offense ladies) ridiculous expectations on what they deserve in a partner.

The question people need to ask themselves is would you 1) date someone who is exactly like you and 2) would you marry them.

aceleon · Answer

people trying to led a symbiotic life style while they are separate individuals with their own individual life.

marriage is the one type of relationship that fails the most, because unlike marriages the other relationships you have like friendships and family bonds are not relying on you and the other party trying to merge your lives withtoo many expectations and responsibilities which no one has any actual interest to shoulder.

your friend wouldn't give a damn about you returning to home at the nick of dawn aside from perhaps worrying if something bad happened to you out there.

your wife or husband would flip even if they had absolute trust in you to not cheat on them.

your friend or family wouldn't care about you losing your job unlike your wife which should already be not reliant on you to have an income like every other adult you know.

aaron13547 · Answer

Life exists because of change. Marriage is trying to hold on to one idea like it's never going to change.

So I would say, growing apart rather then growing together.

People get married because they are in love with the idea of growing together. they dont want to ever separate, thats what the idea of Marriage is. Ironically, trying to hold onto that idea is what causes it to fail. Love works because no pressure, its what you both want most. Soon as that changes, Marriage doesn't feel so good anymore. It becomes its own trap.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

I think it's often communication problems..
What ends up happening often is one of the partners doesn't listen or care what their partner needs. So needs go unmet, they try to fix the problem to no avail of the partner so it makes them drift further apart until it just seems like a better idea to go your separate ways.

WhitneySnow · Answer

There’s no one thing. There are lots of different causes. Cheating is a big one, so are money problems.

genericname85 · Answer

i think the fact that men look for partners that are exactly as they want and women look for partners with potential to eventually become what they originally wanted. that leads to a disparity between expectation and realkity for women as they realize he's never gonna develop into what she hoped him to become and (who would have guessed it) stays exactly as he was when she met him. and that's consistend with the fact that 70% of divorces are initiated by women.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

Men wanting simple boring relationships and woman wanting quirky and challenging ones with emotional ups and downs

Katebfun · Answer

Cheating. Growing apart or one improves/evolves and the other stays the same. Stress of kids, life.

truthteller234 · Answer

the feeling like there is always someone better out there or the grass must be greener on the other side.  if you keep that mindset, your chances of a successful marriage is very low.

cherrytreeblossom · Answer

interesting. i will now pay attention to my future husband not cheating, not being incompatible with me and that he communicates right. lol what's the percentage of the two higher ones?

Kelley1 · Answer

The primary reason for divorce is that in our modern society, women are rewarded with the children, child support, alimony, and other resources for divorcing their husbands.

msc545 · Answer

The main thing that causes divorce is women. They cause divorce because a taller, better-looking, shinier, and most importantly wealthier man comes along.

Rangers · Answer

The most basic, foundational answer is people don't always keep the promises they make

Miristheiss · Answer

Feminsim. Mismatched values, life goals... by nothing choosing analytically but with emotions. Money. Infidelity.

Still-alive · Answer

im gonna go with money and communication issues mixed with a lack of respecting boundaries

OneViewpoint · Answer

Poor dental health combined with coffee drinking.

robocop666 · Answer

women. Lesbian divorce is the highest and gay is the lowest. Women initiate them.

Anonymous · Answer

Most studies show that lack of commitment is the #1 cause of divorce.

Anonymous · Answer

Sex with another person besides your partner

Vegasrunner · Answer

Finances are always the number one cause of divorce

888theGreat · Answer

Money problems , one working too much , lack of family activity

NessaEssa · Answer

Cheating and not enough sex.

DryGermanGuy · Answer

In summary, breakdown of communication.

ManOnFire · Answer

Women losing interest in their partner.

Persephone02 · Answer

I would say lack of communication and cheating.

slatyb · Answer

A lack of respect for the other person.

appitskaii · Answer

ill saying cheating I know I would cheat for BBC

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

C-H-E-A-T-I-N-G !!!

AngryCarl2 · Answer

cheating, boredom

Jamie05rhs · Answer

The #1 cause of divorce is lack of commitment.

beenherebefore · Answer

Financial issues, lack of commitment.

desidoll · Answer

Financial, losing spark or infidelity.

Flower7 · Answer

Infidelity, I would think.

blackeagle007 · Answer

$ in as most relationships

Pterodon · Answer

Married for wrong reasons

Bobby248 · Answer

Misunderstanding and affair

TheLovelyWoman · Answer

Sex and then money.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

Marriage, for certain

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

Female dissatisfaction

Celticwolf78 · Answer

Lack of trust and communication

queenofcardio · Answer

Cheating

Razp_Sorbet · Answer

Money and infidelity

MikeTheBartender · Answer

Options.

onecuriousguy2454 · Answer

I think trust issues

AgentG111 · Answer

Marriage

fish5505_87 · Answer

Talking!

In_Trance · Answer

Bad marriage

wkhan_87 · Answer

Disloyalty

DrPepper12 · Answer

Marriage. Duh!

Koochie_n420 · Answer

Mens behavior

MasterKS · Answer

Lack of sex.

butterly248 · Answer

Not communiting

DextroShade · Answer

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