Am I being unreasonable for dumping anyone who doesn’t prioritize me?

[Anonymous]

things like texting back really late, or not texting back at all, or canceling plans but not telling me

am I over doing it? or am i reasonable

[Static_In_The_Attic]

As for breaking up everyone has their reasons & nowadays some people breakup for selfish & stupid reasons & I love it. As for you in a way you are unreasonable & in a way you are reasonable as well. In today’s world unfortunately it’s about ME, ME, ME & in a relationship it shouldn’t be about ME so turn the M in ME upside down & do yourself a favor & make the relationship about WE instead.

As for texting back late it happens especially if your partner is working, sleeping, eating, driving or at a place where they are unable to text you back right away.

If someone broke up with me because I didn’t text them back right away they would be doing me a favor by breaking up with me & to be honest I would be better off without them.

As for the person that cancels plans without telling you, now that’s wrong & if they cancel on you all the time I don’t blame you for breaking up with them especially if they cancel without telling you.

You might want to invest in a cat if you don’t have one already.

[Cyfris]

Bit of both probably. Maybe your expectations are a bit to high... maybe it is a sign he's not that in to you... maybe he is not that in to you because your expectations are too high. the texting certainly doesn't mean anything. I haven't looked at my phone once today and won't till after work probably. The cancelling plans without telling you is a bad sign though.. Jumping right to dumping though is a sure way to end up single.. Change although uncommon is possible so perhaps you could try explaining how important that type of quick response communication is to you and seeing if you recieve a more favouable outcome before dumping next time..

[DishLady]

That's not a guy who is "not prioritizing" you, that's just a guy who's not interested. Texting back SO LATE that nothing else is going on for him so he "remembers" to get back to you before docking his phone is a red flag that he's not interested but trying to be polite. Not texting back is rude and shows he's not interested in making any sort of good impression on you. Cancelling without saying anything is like a sledgehammer to your face saying "I don't like or respect you."

A guy who doesn't "prioritize" you will perhaps put his mom and family in front of you... or work... but you're not at the bottom of his "I forgot" list.

[Simslover92]

Texting back really late yes that's a bit unreasonable but not texting back at all can be seen as a red flag as can canceling plans without telling you.

You deserve for someone to do what you need and want and if he's not doing that, then letting him go may be best.

[ohsheeT]

You can look at it anyway you want to but you have to do it honestly

If it was to happen day in and day out then you're justified in doing what you're doing


Or it can kind of be looked at as a me me me me type thing and if you dont fo what I want when I want to im dumping you

You could also be looking at it like this to. Look im having sex with you any time you want it. So since im doing that for you you have to follow through with me.

[dragoblack]

Dropping is a bit much. For those kinds of people, i downgrade them to 'acquaintance', instead of 'friend'. Acquaintances you see once in a while, mainly in passing; friends make an effort to at least talk with you and hang out every once in a while; and best friends hang out and make effort multiple times a week. I consider ditching to be a betrayal and abuse response.

[CriminallyInsane]

Relationships are completely voluntary and it doesn't matter if it's reasonable or if there is a reason at all. If it's not worth it for these things going on, then end it if you are not ok with being low on his list of priorities

[abc3643]

Yes, you are being unreasonable.
Nature does not care about you nor anyone else.
Therefore, sometimes people in your life will have to have higher priorities than you.

[abc3643]

That said, you DO deserve common decency like being told of cancelled plans...

[Agape93]

Yeap. People have lives and stuff going on more important than you. You are not the center of the world.

[Nikki1989]

I stopped reading at "texting".

[Anonymous]

Don’t know. Maybe it’s you that’s why he isn’t prioritizing you. I mean it could be him but it could also be you as far as why he isn’t really trying to make this relationship work.

[LuciusTheOdd]

OK, the texting thing is no big deal, But if somebody’s just flat out flaky? yeah ditch their ass.

[LC75LC71]

Actually that's reasonable. Why sign on to a long term deal if there's signs of wear and tear already?

[Rangers]

That's someone who doesn't even respect you, you made the most reasonable call ever

[msc545]

completely overdoing it. There are things in the world that are more important than you. Live with it.

[Staximus]

Who the hell cancels plans and doesn't tell somebody? That's unacceptable

[LiamS95]

Yiur have to prioritize eah other just like I would you.

[qwerty2469]

It's like the Fuck Around Find Out scale. It's only unreasonable as your tolerance for being alone is.

[MasterKS]

Its your choice your life.