Do you think it’s cruel that I don’t care about about over people’s problems but kind enough to give them space?

[Anonymous]

Like if a coworker is crying and two people are already talking to them, I’ll be concerned but I won’t go over there. I’m just going to leave them be because I don’t wanna pry into their business. I just stay away and give them space. If it’s my best friend, close friends or relatives of course I’ll ask what’s wrong but I don’t dig in. Unless I know you’re very well, your problem is not my concern and I don’t care. Why bring up a problem that I can’t fix? It’s not that I don’t care, I just don’t wanna interfere with your person life. Im kind but not nice. I’m not nice like I’m coming over, butting in and asking what’s wrong, but I’m kind enough to give you space and mind my own business. I’m not ignoring you or being cold. I’m not a nice person.

[Anonymous]

Unless they're your children, you shouldn't CARE for them. ﾠ

[Anonymous]

No I'm also this way. ﾠ

[provokeesmokee]

No, that's not cruel. If anything that's a kindness.

At work, most people would be mortified if a large group gathered and drew attention to them. You recognized two people were already there and you made the call adding yourself wouldn't necessarily help any more.

You minded your business, held space, and let them process.

That's not cruel at all.
It's also not cruel to have differing levels of care about folks. It's very normal and healthy to be more attached and invested with people you care for and know than strangers.

[RoseySarah]

Sometimes I'm like that especially if they have already vented to me and are being comforted by others.

Nothing I can do to help and usually never any time to talk unless I'm on break and I need my breaks to eat! No time

But also this is usually them just wanting sympathy going around venting getting comforted by everyone. So I stay away unless we are friends.

[Asker]

Oh okay. Yeah I lend a shoulder to cry on if it’s a friend of mine but if I don’t I’ll know that person, I’m staying away and minding my own business.

[Asker]

If they’re just doing it to get sympathy or attention then I am staying away from them. I don’t put up with sympathy.

[RoseySarah]

That is good then they won't whine to her about you shoving your nose into their business and getting you in trouble.