Break Up & Divorce
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How do I cope when my ex is unsafe and stranded overseas?

We officially ended things almost 2 weeks ago. We have been dating for 2 years and we are both in our early 30s.

We had to transition to long distance for the past have year due to his job loss. He moved to a whole different country as an Expat. Then he lost that job too.

He’s still legally married from an arranged marriage, but I don’t have doubts his feelings were true to me. He’s always been available for me. In the middle of our relationship he gained a high debt from legal cases.

He now feels like a failure since he’s out of money, dealing with his debt, job loss, career, us, and promises of his divorce. Said I’m better off without him, that he can’t give me anything anymore now.

He said he may have to sell his phone to survive and that he would disconnect from the world. He also had some concerning health issues he’s never gotten checked.

I just realized yesterday I’m not able to call or get through to him anymore. He’s not on any of his socials anymore. I’ve been really worried.

He was just a fool that didn’t know what he was doing. I believe he runs from his problems and keeps trying to escape. I was also a fool for agreeing to be in a relationship with someone who hasn’t yet been divorced. I know better now.

It’s just …I’m concerned for his safety and mental health. He has talked about ending himself many times. He’s in a completely foreign country, his new job was a bit scammy and never gave him his work visa. So now considered in the country illegally.

I wish I had all the money in the world to help him to at least get him back on his feet…my mind is constantly thinking about the situation.

What are everyone’s thoughts about this? Anyone experienced something similar?

i know it’s complicated as this deals with arranged marriage/separated man/long-distance/ and mental health…

anything helps. Please. I have no one I can talk to.

How do I cope when my ex is unsafe and stranded overseas?
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