Why would my fiancé block me everywhere but still keep me on Instagram and Snapchat?

[Anonymous]

Mind you this is the same person that proposed to me, gave me a ring and said he wanted to marry me but still walked out on me.

[HollyK21]

It could be the visual element, being able to watch your stories and see what’s going on from a distance, such as if you’re sad, mad, moving on, etc. It could also be more of an ego stroke, and seeing that you still watch his content gives him a since of validation or control, like you just can’t walk away or stop keeping tabs on him. In any case though, none of our answers can tell you exactly why he did that, it may not have been for any reason at all. I would just block him on those platforms instead and move on.

[Asker]

I just don't understand how someone can do that to someone else. I have been feeling so miserable this entire week, been doing this just to keep myself occupied. I don't understand how you can tell someone i love you and still act like this, if that makes any sense. I'm trying to move on but... it's hard for me to not think about him...

[HollyK21]

I think a good rule of thumb to adopt is judging your relationships men on their actions, not words. He can say the most beautiful things, but his actions are not matching all that love he claims to have. If you keep hanging onto both his words and the hopes you had for a future with him, then you’ll never move on. It’s impossible when you still reserve space for him in your head and heart, or when you focus more on everything he said as opposed to what he’s doing. A slap in the face is still a slap regardless of how the person justifies it.

[Asker]

That is really good advice , thank you, that means a lot. I have always been the type of person that likes to hold on to hope that things might change, but from the looks of it and how everything has already gone in our relationship is, I need to just move on, let him go and keep him blocked. Because you are right, his actions / behavior were not aligning with his words and that speaks volumes. If it were to ever, which is might not, for him to come back to me I don't think i would because i can't keep this back-and-forth cycle going anymore.

[Anonymous]

Only he knows but he probably wants at least one way to keep tabs on you

[Asker]

Why would he want to keep tabs on me though. I feel like that is so cruel to do that to someone.

[Nikki1989]

Why do you care?

Move on and forget about trivial social media nonsense.

[Anonymous]

He can’t keep track of the seven different places people follow people and forgot a couple

[Asker]

What do you mean?

[NewtoCalifornia]

That is weird.

[Anonymous]

Ask him

[Asker]

I have tried and he won't respond to me at all.

[Opinion Owner]

How long have you been trying?

[Asker]

Last night but gave up once he started not viewing my messages on Instagram and still being active. Last night was so hard that is when all the blocking and stuff started.

[Opinion Owner]

Just keep working at it, but go slow with it

[Asker]

How do I keep working at it when he doesn't want anything to do with me. I feel like it is clear or I could just be overthinking.

[Opinion Owner]

Time heals wounds, he might come back eventually don’t give up yet remember you were gonna get married. Something must’ve happened real bad.