How do I act around my ex-situationship at family gatherings while healing?

[Anonymous]

Met him on a trip in July, and we instantly clicked. We started talking. he was the first to say he was “in love” with me, but I wasn't there yet. We mutually ended things after almost 2 months and were on good terms, but only for me to realise I might’ve actually loved him. So I told him but this man switched up in literally 2 DAYS. Now we’re not together, despite HIM wanting me first. + no contact nothing.

My question is: how do i deal or act around him at dinners or mutual family-friend gatherings? Because I want him to regret fumbling me so bad. even tho im also still healing from it all

[Melody90]

Honestly, the best way to make him regret losing you is to stop making that your goal. I know it's easier said than done, especially when he was the one who expressed his feelings first, only to switch up when you finally realized yours. At dinners and family-friend gatherings, be polite, confident, and composed. Greet him naturally, enjoy conversations with other people, dress in a way that makes you feel beautiful, and don't go out of your way to get his attention or deliberately make him jealous. If he talks to you, be friendly without acting as though you're still emotionally available to him. Most importantly, don't force yourself to pretend you're completely over him. Healing takes time, and you don't have to prove anything to him. You can still feel hurt and miss him while choosing not to chase someone who no longer wants to pursue you. Maybe he'll regret his decision, maybe he won't. But the real win is reaching a point where his regret no longer matters to you. Let him see you living your life, not performing for his reaction. You deserve someone whose feelings don't disappear the moment you finally reciprocate them.

[Asker]

thanku so much for this i really do see your point and i obv need time to understand that i have to live my life not to show him or anything but for me. and yea maybe he'll regret it more when he sees me actually enjoying and healed

[Melody90]

It is my pleasure! Remember, you're valuable!😍

[Pterodon]

You’re not going to make him regret anything. At his age he’s just looking for pussy not marriage and I don’t care what came out of his mouth. How do I know? Look at his actions. They never lie unlike his mouth

[Asker]

but do u think he'll EVER think about his actions and regret?

[Pterodon]

Tbh and I don’t like saying it probably not

[LotharioENERZY]

Just ignore him as much as possible.

[Asker]

oh yk this one concert happened where he too came w his sister. before it even started, he was in the crowd literally STARING at me while i was standing next to the stage. after concert his sis met me and took me to meet her czn while he was litr standing right THERE. and i acted like this man did not exist. the funniest part is my last message to him was litr saying i wanted to be able to face him and talk to him, jus for me to do the COMPLETE opposite but i felt so guilty doing that. ALSO his brother asked me twice about "how u holding up" even tho i told him once im ok but he again asked me which i think my ex made him ask me I don't know do u think i did right

[Anonymous]

But you didn’t want him

[Asker]

we ofcourse talked a lot and i liked him only to realize i started falling for him even more after mutually ending things

[Opinion Owner]

You didn’t like him when he liked u so he left

[Asker]

acc i liked him first but his feelings increased? i think. but he kept pressurizing me asking me about the rs even tho it had only been a month plus he's the first guy i srs talked to after 3 years of being single ofc i needed my time but he jus ig needed an easier option