I walked in on my girlfriend.

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I was suppose to leave for the bar to catch a hockey game. But I'd left my wallet at home, so I turned around back home to grab it. As I pulled up I saw an unfamiliar car but nothing came to me as abnormal because my girlfriend's sister was in town and I though she came by to visit. I'd made my way to the driveway preparing to greet her sister when I heard a moan. I was super curious and opened the door quickly only to see some random guy I'd never seen before on top of MY girlfriend. I couldn't do anything but yank the TV off the wall mount and let it fall the the ground and left. I was infuriated, I could've set the entire house on fire no problem. But I just left. She's called 17 times since and I don't know what to do.

Phoenix52 · Accepted Answer

Well buddy,

I'm gonna say that you did something wrong. You got mad, and destroyed the TV and then left in a fit of rage.

What I would have done was - tell the guy that the party is over, put his clothes on, and get the f*ck out. Even if he had no idea that she was your girlfriend, it's of best interest to ensure the c0ckbl0ck because she really screwed up. No sex for her.

And it also shows that you're a dominant male, so she would get turned on.

What can you do now? Well, if she's paying her rent, she can stay with ya. But you're just 'roommates' now and there's no more feelings to share between you both. Then you can go out, approach new females, and bring them back to your place. Her jealousy will erupt, but that's too bad. She blew it, she's done for. And she should know this, for it's logical.

If she's NOT paying for rent, and it's all coming out of your paychecks, either find a new roommate or just pay the whole thing.

You could try giving her another chance, but honestly, most people don't change themselves. She may be loyal to you for the next few months. However, in due time, she'll probably cheat on you again.

snowboarder720 · Accepted Answer

oh snap. Apologies for this kind of sh*t happening to you, I can't imagine how it feels. I would have done the same to the t.v., I would want her to know that you found her cheating. Either busting the t.v. or punching a wall or something to get her attention. I think what you did there was perfect.

hmmm... what would I do... I would definitely give myself time to thoroughly think about how I should deal with it. Maybe a week. I wouldn't answer any of her calls either, give her time to think about what she's done too. So far your playing your cards right in my opinion.

When you finally made up your mind of what to say to her, either leaving her or giving her another chance is entirely up to you. She'd be damn lucky if you gave her another chance.

Personally I wouldn't have any tolerance for that kind of stuff. I'd be through and over with her if that happened to me. Again, it really depends on your relationship with her but I'd tell her to just forget all about me and wish her and her "guy friend" the best relationship. (with sarcasm of coarse)

ildskf2005 · Accepted Answer

That is so horrible! Sorry for that! Geez...some people really don't appreciate what they have. Being in a relationship is sacred...and it pisses me off so much when I hear that people cheat...Get rid of that bitch...like the other guy said...yeah...block her number...and yes...you need some times to cool down...cause you don't want to do something you will regret.

I do understand that there are people with sexual addictions that have a difficult time controlling their "urges"...and who knows...your girlfriend may be one of those people...however...you don't need to deal with it

jsm1966 · Accepted Answer

You did the right thing by walking away. Don't speak or listen to her lying excuses. There's no right explaination for what she did. I'm sorry for you.

FeatherStrong · Accepted Answer

Um...are you just venting or do you have an question? What you should do is, block that bitch out of your life. Don't wait for an explaination.

InAmberClad117 · Answer

Dang man... yeah, Seems like you need to have some time to cool off.. I don't know your whole situation, but Girls can be just as foul as guys.

Personally, I'd give her another chance, but make sure she knows how it hurt you and that you won't be able to trust her as much. Don't completely ignore her, but let her know you need time to cool off and think about what she did, and advise she does the same.

Then when you have a clear head, find a time to sit down and have her explain fully what happened. how it happened, why it happened. y'know?

Granted, She was cheating. plain and simple. But no relationship is perfect, and sometimes overcoming the hard parts makes it stronger. =j

Best of Luck man.

Brontosaurus · Answer

There's really nothing to talk about right now...it's over. She's forfeited the right to be upset about you not giving her the opportunity to offer some pathetic explanation or apology. You owe her nothing.

Give yourself some time and space and when the urge to yell and do physical damage to property or people has passed, THEN go ahead and take care of the necessary "closure" like making arrangement to retrieve belongings in the others' possession, etc.

Brando · Answer

"I was super curious and opened the door quickly only to see some random guy I'd never seen before on top of my EX-girlfriend" There, fixed it for ya :)

Anonymous · Answer

That's disgusting. I'm so sorry you had to go through that. Do you have a question -- about how to cope, etc. -- or are you just venting? Sending "mending hugs" and prayers your way.

Honeybaby · Answer

Consider her your Ex! That was a nasty thing that she did to you.

RedThread · Answer

Drop her like a sack of potatoes man.. find someone better.

sweet_18 · Answer

You might need a few days to calm down. There is no excuse for her behavior though. Tell her it's over and just block her #

mattygfromtheMD32 · Answer

I hope that was her tv. And don't give her a second chance. Cheaters tend to be repeaters.

cutebutevil · Answer

Thats horrible, I could imagine wht your going through mentally id just move on and forget.

amilleman · Answer

Once a cheater always a cheater. Best just to move on.

larry69 · Answer

Its over and she dumped you..block her number and no more chances

Anonymous · Answer

Cut her out of your life forever.

Anonymous · Answer

don't take her back there is no excuse.

Anonymous · Answer

i hope karma gets her and she gets herpes!

froggyboy51 · Answer

you shoulda whooped his ass...horrible..

Alpha93 · Answer

Dump her and don't talk to her on the phone.

NerdInDenial · Answer

Dump that Bitch!

I walked in on my girlfriend.

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