I walked in on my sister and her boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

I don’t know what to do. I’m so fucking angry I can’t even explain it. I just walked in and I saw her boyfriend laying in her bed and she was under the covers doing god knows what. (I’m guessing she was under the covers because she doesn’t have a lock so could just hide if anyone walked in) but they didn’t know I’d walked in and all I saw was him mouth “fuck” and widen his eyes and he had a massive grin on his face and his toes were curling and he looked under the covers just grinning and I’ve never wanted to kill a man so much than in that moment. How fucking dare he! I obviously left straight away and then I heard my LITTLE sister giggle and say “your so big baby” and then he giggled and then they said some other things but I just got away as fast as I could. I literally feel sick since I’ve heard her say that. I wanted to go in there and grab his grinning smug little face and shove it down the toilet. Im so fucking angry, what should I do about it?

[Moochii]

Honestly.. it’s your fault for walking in.. At least knock.. why exactly did you need to go into her room? She’s a consenting adult who’s having sex with her boyfriend. You expect her to not fool around with her boyfriend? Hell I have 3 brothers and they know how active I am in sex. Cause I’m 22 years old, and I have a boyfriend who loves me very much. As long as the relationship consensual, safe and loving... And if she’s on birth control and using condoms... who cares if she’s having sex? Unless you’re super religious and waiting till marriage to lose the V card... What’s wrong with having sex? Those kinds of things happen in relationships.. You ever have a girlfriend anon? You can’t tell me that you’ve never had sex with her.. I get what you’re saying.. just have a talk with her about the stuff you heard guys saying if it’s that concerning.. but seriously.. it’s her sex life and her choice what she does with her body.. Also learn to knock before you walk into a room that’s not yours..

[Daniela1982]

Maybe knock next time? Do you always just walk in a room with a closed door?

[Asker]

No not normally but I thought she’d still be asleep or something so didn’t bother

[Daniela1982]

So it's your own fault then.

[Asker]

How? She’s my LITTLE sister. How dare a guy touch her. You wouldn’t understand. She’s the little girl I’m meant to be holding hands with protecting at the park not listening to her talk about how big her boyfriends manhood is. She shouldn’t even know that! my friends didn’t help and just laughed and said “your sister makes mens toes curl” which has angered me even more

[Daniela1982]

Sounds like you need to have a good heart to heart with her, but at this stage I don't think she would listen. Your sis needs to grow up sooner or later, and I'm guessing she took the earlier option.

[Asker]

She’s 19, I’m 24 and her boyfriend is 23 and neither of them know I walked in so what shall I still mention it?

[Steve1071]

Dude, just chill out! Ok! She’s a grown woman and second learn to knock ✊🏽 on the door before entering. She’s your sister but she’s not your property.
Chill and have a beer or look at the pretty girl holding her phone.

boobies have multiple functions. Smartphone holder

[markscott]

How old are each of them?

[NxWxW]

She's 19

[markscott]

@NxWxW Then she is a consenting adult, and her sex life, despite you not liking it, is her business. Not yours to control. That doesn't mean you can't give her timely and good advice, but in a caring manner, not a controlling manner.

[Asker]

She’s 19, I’m 24 and he is 23

[Asker]

But she’s my little sister and I’m meant to look after her not let her smug pricky boyfriend look at her like she’s a piece of meat

[markscott]

Nx: Yes, you want to protect your sister. But she is a big girl now, and you don't have control over an adult. Again, you can give brotherly advice in a kind manner, but not so often that it become nagging. Just as she can't control you, you can't control her.

[NxWxW]

I'm providing information asker gave me. I'm not the asker

[markscott]

@NxWxW : OK

[MisterLyfeLessynz]

Thank you, sir... he sounds humiliated about the toes curling part and won't respect the boyfriend because of it.

[MisterLyfeLessynz]

There comes a point whrre you need to show respect where respect is due (to her by and staying in your lane). You are obviously humiliated by the toes curling, which is understandable, but your first mistake was sharing it with your buddies. Until you learn your lesson here, you will be miserable.

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

Talk to her about it.

[Asker]

But how? What should I say to her?

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

What do you want to say to her?
That she is to young for that? That she needs to find another place to do it? That they should have stopped when you walked in? What do you want to say?

[NxWxW]

To put this into context... She's 19

[Asker]

They didn’t know I’d walked in and the thing is she is an adult. She’s 19 and I’m 24 but I don’t see her as that and so I can’t tell her she’s “too young” even though in my eyes she is

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

@NxWxW She is old enough to have sex. She is your little sister, but she is not so little anymore.

[Asker]

But she’s still a kid to me. How dare he touch her she’s my little sister. To me she’s still the kid I had to look after when we went out and protect from bad people and now she’s in between the legs of her sumggy prick boyfriend

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

I have two younger sisters. Believe me I know how hard it is. My heart froze the first time one of them posted a more provocative pic on Instagram. But they are both over 18 now and I need to accept that they aren't kids anymore. They are still young, but it has to happen at some point. My job as big bro now is to make sure the guy they are with treats them right. As long as he does and they are happy I am good.

[Asker]

But say your saw what I saw and heard your little sister say what mine said don’t tell me you wouldn’t want to punch your sisters smug pricky boyfriend in his face. I’m trying to understand she’s growing up but this isn’t how I wanted to know that. I mean how dare a guy look at her like she’s a piece of meat. And my friends just laughed and said “you little sister makes mens toes curl” which angered me even more. What does that even mean?

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

She should had a different reaction. She consider herself a grown women and expects you to treat her like that. You really need to talk to her and tell her you are n ot trying to control her, it's was just unconfortable to watch her sister with her boyfriend. That she would also ffel unconfortable if she saw you with your girlfriend.
About your friends forget what they said. It's a thing you have to solve at home, not with them.

[Asker]

She doesn’t know I walked in or anything and I just thought my friends might actually give me solid advice but clearly not. One of them whispered “lucky” and they all laughed. Fucking lucky? Are you fucking serious? Imagine your friends said that about your sister

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

I don't think my friends would react that way. They would laugh yes, but feel sorry for me.
Anyway if she doesn't know you walked in then don't say anything to her! Just don't! If you want talk to her about her new boyfriend. Ask her how he is. If she is happy wih him. If he treats her well.
Ignore what your friends said.

[Asker]

I’ve said to her “I don’t like him” and things but she says “can’t you just be happy for me? We’ve been together for a year now. I genuinely love him and he treats me like a princess so can’t you just at least try and get to know him?” And I excepted that because she seemed sincere and him and I even got quite close and we’d hang out together and I thought he was really funny. But now I hate him again

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

They are happy together, you liked the guy, he treats her well so I don't see the issue. He didn't treated your sister like a piece of meat. They were having a sexual moment so that is how looks and talk during it goes. She is happy right? He treats her well and is a good guy right? Then perfect.

[Asker]

I guess your right. It’s just hard to realise she’s growing up and has got someone new to protect her now. Even though I’ll still always be there for her. Your right though, he’s a good guy and he makes her happy.

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

I know it is. Bu don't worry, his place as boyfriend will never fill your place as brother. You have your job, he has his. You are both important men in her life. You both can be her protectors, she has room in her heart for both.

[Asker]

Your right. I guess I just got so close to him I forgot that he’s not my mate he’s my sisters boyfriend and I had to be reminded in the most horrible way but now I’m not so pissed. But, yeah your right

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

Hope I helped. You just got shoked nothing more. Don't do anything that can hurt the relationship with your sister.

[Asker]

I won’t. I saw him just now and he was talking to me like he wasn’t banging my sister and it was hard to look at him the same way but I am happy for them because he does seem to really love her

[RCLJT]

If it’s not YOUR boyfriend, it’s none of your business

[Celtero]

People fuck, it's a fact of life, get over it.

[Asker]

I get that but how dare he touch my LITTLE sister

[Celtero]

What, is she supposed to stay a virgin her entire life?

[Asker]

No and I get that but I thought he was funny and we got on really well and become good friends. She’s 19, I’m 24 and he’s 23 so we are more similar in age and had a lot of things in common and I guess I just forgot that he’s not my mate he’s my sisters boyfriend. Obviously seeing your little sister like that and hearing her say them things is not ideal and made me feel physically sick but I’ve calmed down now and I’m not so angry

[Celtero]

That's good... It's a pretty shocking thing to see so I understand.

[NxWxW]

How old is she?

[Asker]

19 and I’m 24

[NxWxW]

See a therapist

[Asker]

I actually think I need to but I’m killing her boyfriend first. How fucking dare he touch her

[NxWxW]

You want to go to jail for life over this? Exactly what did he do wrong?

[Asker]

I tried to tell my friends and get advice from them but they just made it worse and laughed saying “your sister makes mens toes curl” wtf does that even mean? I’m so pissed

[Asker]

I’m not actually gonna kill him but I at least want to punch him in the face

[NxWxW]

You can't assault people who have done nothing wrong.

[Asker]

He has done something wrong. He touched my little sister while looking at her like she was a piece of meat

[NxWxW]

Sex is wrong?

[Asker]

No but it is when my LITTLE sister is involved. Her and sex shouldn’t even be in the same sentence. She’s still a kid to me

[NxWxW]

So when she's 32 and you're 37 is it OK then?

[Asker]

Maybe

[Asker]

I get what your saying but you just wouldn’t understand how I feel right now

[NxWxW]

Do you feel like punching him or are you planning on doing it? I understand feeling that way. I don't understand acting on it

[MisterLyfeLessynz]

It means it bothered you seeing his toes curl and you let them know it bothered you instead of handling it privately and respectfully... YES... with him, too.

[MisterLyfeLessynz]

That's the part he is truly bothered by... humiliating sight to see. But he has to learn his lesson from it instead of pouting and showing dude disrespect.

[Calgarydirty69]

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