Why is my oldest sister always trying to put me down and talk me out of having cosmetic surgery?

[Puppystarfish23]

I have a mole on my nose and lately I've been really taking it more serious when it comes to having it removed as it been starting to bleed a lot lately. I've booked appointment with my doctor and I'm hoping he can get it removed for me but even if I can't because he might say it's cosmetic, I know a lady who can do it for me for a good price.

I told my stister about this and she told me I should just go to a walk in center on the hottest day of year. It's bad enough on a normal day going to a NHS walk in center let alone when it's 39 outside and probably full of dehydrated old people. She got angry and said I was just attention seeking and needed to put up or shut up. Yet she's always made fun of me for this mole and another thing that I want sorting that I will go into in a minute.

She was so rude to me so I left and now she thinks everything is completely back to normal with us now but I'm ignoring all her messages in the family group chat. She really annoys me at times yet she is my best friend. She thinks she knows better then everyone else and everything always has to be her way even when it's not her life or anything that involves her.

She sometimes thinks she's my mum or something and wants me to be her mini me. Only till I met my boyfriend I realised how brainwashed I was by her not but she deliberately did this just because I am her little sister and take everything she says as gospel. I always used to say "but my stister said" or "I'll have to ask my sister first" and it really annoyed my boyfriend to the point he told me I needed to start thinking for myself and let my stister not control my life as she's extremely over paranoid about everyone and everything and is super over protective of me.

I also really want a boob job too but she keeps telling me I'll look cheap and tacky and I shouldn't do it yet she's always made fun of me for my boobs.

[lightbulb27]

she is older and played the role of the older sister and maybe thought herself a mom. She hasn't learned to let go yet. she may be needy herself of control as being a parent is figuring out how to get the kids trained to be independent to make their own decisions.

she could be right about the augmentation and risks, don't know your area. check references for such surgeries.

[loveslongnails]

Actually, it's your SISTER who's seeking attention. It's obvious she envies you in some way, and the thought that you could be "more attractive" at some point doesn't sit well with her. She sounds like a real bitch, and not in a good way.

Get the surgery if you want it, but research the doctor THOROUGHLY and get patient referrals you can speak with. Look at before and after photos too, from other patients.

[elizamichale1]

Well first things first that she should not be manipulating u at all honey just coz u r her bestie it doesn't mean u hav to listen to her as if its an order..

And for the mole i think u shud get it removed as its getting messy..

But for the boobjob i wouldn't recommend u... n i m someone who is from glamorous world...

[Pyrofox]

I think it's cause nose jobs are complex when it comes to plastic surgery. Ya cut or damage the central vein. And the whole nose tissue dies. 🤮

[Pyrofox]

As to boob jobs it's relying on u having pectoral muscles and keeping a chest workout as well it takes cold showers for prosthetic boob jobs. Or they can end up sagging... I'm not gonna say don't get plastic surgery. Just realized the dangers. I got a close friend who does plastic surgery and he's super transparent about all the stuff that can go wrong.

[Guy13]

I don’t believe in making oneself plastic from cosmetic surgery but I’ve had mole remove below eyelid🤷🏻‍♂️🤷🏻‍♂️

[exitseven]

get the mole removed but don't let some butcher do it. . You don't need a boob job.

[Bklynbadboy12]

I don't know why she's doing that but don't listen to her you have to do what best for you

[Wise4myage]

She is obviously jealous.