I just read a comment (girl to girl advice) here and it sounds like:
"Hot and cold attitude. Be really really sweet and awesome when he is around but don't initiate contact. Let him do the calling and once in a while don't answer the phone and leave him wondering what you are up to. Then when you two are together be sweet, fun and loving." I hope the one who wrote it won't mind that I copy-pasted here.
Ok my question is: Why is the reason of doing this? How is a man/boy supposed to know if you are playing or you are simply not interested. It happened to me that I stepped back and she was into and with another girl I tried harder and pushed her away (and she told all her girl-friends that I was needy/pushy and so on - it was really not so - I got for a while a bad reputation).
Since than (5-6 years ago) I avoid all the girls who play hot-and-cold.
For example what happens to me and a girl that I know in the last weeks/months: we met accidentally in a club she came to me and she was all over me, next day text her once and got very positive (after 2-3min, smileys ) feedback and after second message no more answer. And this repeats every 2-3 weeks. At the beginning I liked her a lot. Now it's annoying and I like her every time less. And I mean it.
So please clear this up for me. What you think you achieve with this game?
"Hot and cold attitude. Be really really sweet and awesome when he is around but don't initiate contact. Let him do the calling and once in a while don't answer the phone and leave him wondering what you are up to. Then when you two are together be sweet, fun and loving." I hope the one who wrote it won't mind that I copy-pasted here.
Ok my question is: Why is the reason of doing this? How is a man/boy supposed to know if you are playing or you are simply not interested. It happened to me that I stepped back and she was into and with another girl I tried harder and pushed her away (and she told all her girl-friends that I was needy/pushy and so on - it was really not so - I got for a while a bad reputation).
Since than (5-6 years ago) I avoid all the girls who play hot-and-cold.
For example what happens to me and a girl that I know in the last weeks/months: we met accidentally in a club she came to me and she was all over me, next day text her once and got very positive (after 2-3min, smileys ) feedback and after second message no more answer. And this repeats every 2-3 weeks. At the beginning I liked her a lot. Now it's annoying and I like her every time less. And I mean it.
So please clear this up for me. What you think you achieve with this game?
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