My ex can't decide between me and his new girlfriend. what should I do?

[Anonymous]

me and my ex were in love and engaged for over a year. we broke up because I hurt him and then he got with another girl. I told him I was sorry and that I still loved him and he came over last night and and hung out with me for 3 hours and blew off his girlfriend to talk to me. he said he can't deny that he still loves me too, he's just confused because he's not sure if it will work out with me if it never worked out before. he says he can't decide if he should just dump her and get with me or keep his promise to his friends and family to never see me again because none of them like me. it's hard because I HAVE changed and I explained that to him. I said I love him and I'm sorry for all that I did.

i can't get mad if he doesn't choose me but I feel in my heart that we are right for each other. he said that his new girlfriend doesn't make him happy like I did and I was always special to him and still am. he says he needs a few days to think things over so I said "ok" and gave him time to think about it and clear his thoughts.

what should I do? ii have a feeling he's gonna end up choosing her and to save myself the pain and disappoint I feel like I should start moving on now before he replies me with his final decision. I know I messed up but it still hurts that I'm not his number one and only choice like I used to be. I feel bad for his girlfriend but I also need to think about myself. I don't want to get MY heart broken. advice please?

[NoOneListens21]

Just sounds like you're scared. Imo I don't believe that you should have tried doing that we he found someone else. =/ Maybe waiting so no one gets hurt and he would have broken up with her on his own instead of thinking about how he was happier before. It's not fair to her especially since you two had a long history and you were engaged. If you really cared for him then I believe you would have or should stick it out. He is taking a risk as well by thinking about leaving her and you leaving will make sure that there won't be anymore chances at least I'd think it would. You just said you thought you were right for one another..yet..you want to leave because you personally don't want to get hurt. If you really feel that way then you should let him know before he leaves her and move on if you're not seriously thinking about a future with him and thinking about your own protection. Yeah it's good to think about yourself in a sense but after telling someone what you have told them about how much you care and changed..then try to leave..doesn't seem right. =/

[lovely966]

Im kind of in your situation! I ended my engagement also and my ex-fiance is hurt and does not want to try and fix us but he still loves me. I know you must feel so heartbroken :( I have no idea what advice to give you because I need the same advice! I'm trying to just give it lots and lots of time and pray for a miracle ...i haven't tried dating other men because it hurts too much.

[XxlaenixX]

You should not move on while he's deciding. You might as well be making everything worse because hat if he does choose you.. Then you've just f***ed up once again. If you really love him like you say you do then wait for him to reply! Or all that was just a lie... Your choice

[SmoothOperator1980]

Bottom line. You do not need a man that's indecisive. You should have the attitude that if he doesn't think you're good enough then F him. That's nothing but a ton of drama waiting to pop.

[Girr13]

Why would you want to be with someone who's unsure he wants you? Find yourself someone better, who appreciates and knows what he wants, when she's in front of him.