Polls: Break Up & Divorce

As a foreigner observing what I see in America from the large numbers of divorced female neighbours where I live it seems to be the case. As a Catholic naturally I don't believe in divorce but still in the majority of cases that I've seen the husband was an average enough fellow working to provide for his wife and kids when his wife decided she wasn't happy & blamed him for it.

Well apparently more women than men in America own their homes, there is a reason for this. When I look at the divorced wives in my neighbourhood financially they are doing quite well, even the ones who don't work with alimony payments, child support and divorce settlements. The only thing I would say about them is that even though most of them instigated the divorces usually for fickle reasons it's seems they are no happier in fact I would say they are miserable and also their kids suffer. And when their ex husbands find love again they get bitter about it. The men they date tend to treat them very badly using them for sex, money and a rent free place to stay. Now I try not to judge these divorced women but having spoken to them on occasion it quickly becomes apparent in most cases that they divorced their exs for no reason.

So you've been dating someone for a while, and your dog is not a fan. S/he barks at, bites, growls, etc at your partner every time they are near. Your partner has done nothing but try to get along with your dog but your dog isn't having it and now after months of this "abuse," your partner tosses you an ultimatum. It's either them or the dog?

Do you think getting dumped hurts more if you were having sex with the person in question? Or does it not make a difference?

Do you think you become more emotionally attached to a partner once sex is involved?

How did you deal/overcome it?

Im so confused about my ex boyfriend
Giving me mixed signals and all

Me and my former partner had a massive bad break up 6 months ago
This week he's been sending me love messages to get see me and get back together
But then I said no and he started sending me rude messages

He keeps calling me b*tch, sl*t, h*e.. etc
Keeps saying I left him for another guy (which is not true)
Blah blah...
He keeps blocking and then unblocking when he wants to say something

Then today (a week later) he tried to add me on social media
And messaged me saying:
- he's sorry
- he's just angry because i moved on so quick and he couldnt
- he knows we can't be together anymore and he doesn't want to
- he wants to be civil and mature
- he's doing his own thing
- he doesn't want to interfere with my life
- he doesn't need or want anyone
- he recognizes I've always been there for him
- he wants to move on
- he wants to have each other on social media

I replied “i dont understand u…”
Then he replied “i dont either but thanks for accepting my add”

Why would he want to have each other on social media if he wants to move on?
Why would he add me again?
It doesn't make sense

Even if they’re still single but the thought that this could happen

How do I get rid of these thoughts and feelings, it’s really eating me inside.

I live in a small town and i was just thinking on how i would react if i ran into my ex. I dont know if we ended on bad or good terms because he broke up with me but we still communicated everyday after it. Things were still good between the both of us until i made it clear we no longer needed to stay in contact with each other since we are broken up. He blocked me but he really didn't need to.

But im just curious how would you react if you saw an ex?

Its been over 6 months since our breakup
And recently my ex boyfriend popped up and said he still loves me and wants to meet me and talk
He wanted me back
But I said no

Then my ex boyfriend been messaging me everyday
Insulting me
"Ur a sl*t"
"Ur a b*tch"
"Ur ugly"
I just ignored those messages

Then he love bombed me again and saying sorry about everything he said above
And poured out his feelings from 12am to 3am

But i still said we can't be together anymore

Then now everyday he has been sending insulting rude messages again
And i tried to ignore them

He stopped the rude messages today though
didn't hear from him

Do you think he finally stopped? Or will message again?

Its been over 6 months since our breakup
And recently my ex boyfriend wanted me back
But I said no

Then my ex boyfriend been messaging me everyday
Insulting me
"Ur a sl*t"
"Ur a b*tch"
"Ur ugly"

Bla blah

Why is he doing this?

I’m 24 moving to another state to live with my fiancé and his grand mother…not by choice but for family reasons. She’s expecting me to ask her how she feels about me moving there. Now don’t get me wrong. I respect my elders and I actually planned to speak with her. But the vibe I’m getting is that I owe her that…and at the end of the day I told my fiancé I didn’t want to live with family all my life. I’m literally moving from my family home so it’s like I’m leaving one controlling family household to another. I don’t want to explain what I do, where I go, or if what I do makes them feel some type of way when I’m a damn adult.

I just don’t like the fact that I’m not given the same common courtesy as well. The phone works both ways and nobody was ever invested in our relationship until he proposed. One I feel horrible enough that I’m a grown ass woman about to go live with someone else’s family. Just makes me regret not saving for my own place and following through with that. I knew he was going to look out for his grandmother I’d do the same but how do we fit us both working full time, attempting to manage kids if we have any and then him taking care of his grandma…. any good man would but where’s the breaking point

He literally bugged out on me and told me to leave him alone because he’s already stressed & annoyed and I’m putting the nail in the coffin…

What should I do?