True or false: if you don't have children, divorce isn't a big deal?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Kids or not a divorce can be devastating both financially, emotionally and spiritually. Sure there are times it’s the right course of action especially if there is infidelity, abuse or other fundamental problems.

However there is a recent statistic that women file for divorce 70% of the time as of 2022. Thats over twice as much as men. Most the articles I read about this statistic include opinions from sociology professors and women themselves which are obvious bias sources. They are always trying to justify female bs

Anyway I had a chance last year to marry not for love but for economic reasons (I’m not broke and it’s complicated)

I did consider it. I didn’t love the girl but i respected her. Also she agreed that it be a “paper marriage” where she wouldn’t mind if I was doing other stuff on the side with other women. But I have never been cheater with past gfs. Now I would be technically an adulterer even if she gave me permission. Spiritually it’s a clear violation even if she says it’s alright.

But what scared me the most about the idea is the western court systems. Legal systems are in no rush to change to be more fair to men.

Whenever you hear of someone getting alimony payments it’s almost always benefits women to the detriment of men. She might have a seemingly understanding attitude towards me prior to getting married. But if I end up sleeping with someone else she could easily use that against me in divorce court. I heard and seen how malicious and conceited women can be in these scenarios.

So yeah i am 40 and have never been married (almost all my siblings and friends are married now). Would it have been worth it just to say “I was married once” to look less “weird” or something among my family and peers. But I dunno. But the system is notoriously rigged against men. That is why I don’t want to take the risk.

D_Bone_Steak · Accepted Answer

Still a big deal... especially if you're male. She still might go for half of your shit and take the dog she doesn't even like. You can fight her in family court even though there is no kids, and enjoy having to pay for her lawyer that is there to fight against you. or... you let her take the dog and just get it over with. She'll have the dog put down and you'll find out through social media.

Anyways that I I think it's still a big deal... the state/government gives women so much power that it's hard to not be a big deal. You're a lucky man if you split with a woman that has no vindictive intentions and just lets you go.

Blackcupcake · Accepted Answer

I think divorce is a big deal regardless since it does take a lot of time and it’s also mentally and emotionally draining for both parties. however, divorcing while having kids could make it more difficult or complicated because then you have your kids feelings and well-being to take into consideration.

Poppymarie · Accepted Answer

I would say false. While it is easier than a divorce that involves children, divorce still comes with a lot of hurt and often a change of lifestyle due to the splitting up of assets. The only real advantage is that you can completely cut ties with your ex instead of having to coparent with them.

Pinay_ako · Answer

100% false. Kids shouldn’t be used as an excuse why you can’t divorce either. But marriages are sacred. So if childless marriages aren’t that sacred, why even marry? Just live together! Or stay single

OlderAndWiser · Answer

If you think divorce without children is not a big deal, then you shouldn't get married.

Avicenna · Answer

That's definitely false

Moose304 · Answer

Interesting question. I guess it depends on what "big deal" means. Let's forget about the children's angle for a minute. Sometimes a divorce corrects a mistake. Not long ago I was sitting in an outdoor restaurant in Europe enjoying some of the local cuisine. During the time I was there I started talking to a lady I would guess to be about 35. She had just recently gone through a divorce. I asked her if she was OK and she smiled and said she was making it. Then she giggled a bit and said she was impressed I was not asking who was at fault. I said I don't normally get into these kinds of topics. She said that it was 50 50. Our lives were going in opposite directions so we decided to go our own way. Then she went on to say that the best way to describe her feelings was one of relief. Then she said though at times when I get awakened in the wee hours of the morning I miss having my husband to get next to. Now bringing back children I think that children are a major complication, EVEN grown ones. So here is my take. The size of the deal depends 100% on how intertwined the couple are. Children can be a part of this. Let's face it, some couples are already divorced in every way possible but that piece of paper that says so! In some respects that is really sad, but as I said, Divorce sometimes corrects a mistake!

Lliam · Answer

It IS a big deal.
Marriage is a lifetime commitment; a vow; a pledge of honor. It's the most important decision you will ever make in your life. Therefore, you should be damned sure that you actually love each other and want to spend the rest of your lives together.

Once married, you have to work at keeping the relationship happy and healthy. You are a team, business partners, trusted companions, best friends. You respect each other and want each other happy, safe and secure. You work to build a life and a future together.

Too many people take marriage lightly and get married for selfish reasons.

molonski2 · Answer

Its not a black/ white answer like that , as it depends on the assets held , so if you are younger , its not too much of a big deal , the older the more complex , USA is big on pre nup , but this is not held in the same esteem in other parts of the world.

So , always difficult and stressful , but less of a big deal if you dont have children.

Anonymous · Answer

For me it is a big deal. You spend some beautiful moments of life with someone. You spend your days and your nights with that partner. You get attached to him. Is it so easy to walk away from someone? Is it easy to get divorced from someone after getting so close?

FreyaRed · Answer

Generally for a child is better a single parent than living in a toxic relationship. In countries with healthy laws is divorce not really a problem. Ironically statistics show the fairer divorce laws are the less divorces happen.

Nikki1989 · Answer

I know a guy whose divorce cost him half a million and said it was the best half million he could have ever spent, so is it a big deal, well obviously not to everyone.

exitseven · Answer

It is false. I had a friend who had just gotten divorced. She told me that having a divorce on her "record" was the worst thing imaginable.

Anemone978 · Answer

It isn't if you two aren't assholes and just want apart.. it is much easier without kids! You just sign the papers and you out lol

Friendlybro79 · Answer

It's a big deal to a person that doesn't see it coming and loves someone. Also they could lose half of everything they have so yeah it's a big deal no matter what. I'm sure it's way harder with kids involved that said.

najekim · Answer

It's always a big deal, especially in states that divorce laws are almost totally gear towards the woman.

IMHO, we should go with a marriage contract renewable every 5 years with everything spelled out if the contract isn't renewed.

Unit1 · Answer

Money (I know someone already said that but so what? I was gonna say the same thing anyway)

art84 · Answer

My neighbor is divorce from his wife and doesn't have children. But if he passes away then his wife gets the money.

AnusNdaPainus · Answer

Divorce is always terrible the rise in divorce shows me that people don’t take marriage seriously  “Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”

Rangers · Answer

No, you deal with the heartbreak of a lifetime and to add insult to injury, you'll at a minimum, lose half of all of your possessions and assets

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Absolutely FALSE!! Ripping someone's heart out and betraying them and abandoning them is BAD, period!!

LiamJHayden · Answer

If people vow "till death do we part" and then end it because of some trite reason, yes, it is a big deal.

Sparkie460 · Answer

It's always a big deal. You could have been with the person for many years and to have it flushed down the toilet is a big deal

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

False. The man will still pay. These "love contracts" aren't what ceremonies of past were meant to be.

msc545 · Answer

If you have no children AND you have no money or other assets AND you are female it is not a big deal.

dudeinohio · Answer

It's a big deal regardless. There can be financial consequences as well as emotional consequences.

Anonymous · Answer

False, because she can still take everything you own.

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

False. We still have our money and house to worry about

DashRiprock · Answer

All I know is that my heart is broken. So I guess the answer would be false……..

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

False. It is always going tonbe a big deal.

douride2 · Answer

It's still a big deal.

Iron_Man · Answer

Faults. It is a big deal

_Ashley__ · Answer

It IS a big deal even if you don't have children

BrookeS · Answer

It is a big deal no mader whay

Anonymous · Answer

Money

Sakuratanaka · Answer

It's a big deal either way

Jltakk · Answer

Money still plays a part, child or not.

strateguy632 · Answer

false

robocop666 · Answer

not if your wealthy then she's taking everything

Exterminatore · Answer

God says false.

Minahh · Answer

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