6 Reasons Why I'll Probably Be Single Forever

[ikissedtheskyonce]

1. My standards are "too high"

Apparently, wanting a guy who respects me and who is honest and mature, is asking too much these days. So I am not going to settle for a guy just so that I can say that I am taken.

2. I do not have sex when I date

I thought this was a normal thing until I heard that some people have sex on the third date. I think dating is getting to know someone, so I am not going to have sex with a guy on the third date, and I think that some guys expect sex on the third date. Which leads me to my next point...

3. I am not quick to jump into relationships

I have only been in two relationships that lasted a short while (less than 4 months). I did not have sex with my exes because my instincts told me to wait, and for a good reason, too. I dodged a huge bullet.

4. I cannot date someone I am not physically attracted to

Been there done that and I can't do that anymore. Kudos to the women who do, but I can't, and I am not going to lie- I see women who most of society would consider beautiful with unattractive men. I refuse to do it!

5. I have a huge wall put up

In my head I am married to Henry Cavill and tacos.

So unless you are one of those I have a huge wall put up to guard my heart. I no longer wear my heart on my sleeve and I have learned some things the hard way so my filter is high until I really get to know you. I mean I have to really get to know you which takes a long time.

6. I do not go out as much: I do not go out as much as I use to except when I am going to college.

But in the end I am happy with being single. If I meet the right guy, I am open to being in a relationship but I would rather be in no relationship than a verbally abusive one. Been there done that and I am not doing it again.

#singleswithtacos

[JudgmentDay]

There's absolutely Nothing wrong with being single forever. Whether voluntarily or involuntarily, it all depends on what you plan or will do with your life, and not let it completely go to waste as the timer on it is always counting down. Don't let anyone else tell you otherwise. Once you get past 30 or later it really won't matter anymore any way. Matter of fact, the longer you are single then the less you'll focus or even really care about relationships, dating or even sex. Trust me on that, the less you will care the longer you remain single. Just have as much fun as possible, because we all only really just live once, so why not just enjoy it as much as possible while it lasts?

There's always, netflix, board games (wanna play conenct 4? how about hungry hungry hippos, or a game of sorry? maybe chess or checkers?), card games (poker, go fish, crazy eights, "Bullshit"?), video games, food, beverage, wine, beer, the internet, vacations and traveling; go explore the world it's a really big fucking place, and of course lots animals and/or pets you can make adopt or make friends with along the way, besides there's always all kinds of hilarious shit to keep ourselves entertain and help cope with the miseries that come with life and this reality. We Single Fo' Lifers will absolutely be alright as long as we BELIEVE that we will be alright.

And there will be many more. i think it's better to just have a companion to temporarily go out there and explore and try all kinds of things for a while and if it doesn't work out or click don't have any or develop any hard feelings or hold onto any overly and unnecessarily deep emotional attachments, and just be spontaneous.

It's like finding a way to write and develop your very own story and episodes of your own life as if it were a TV show or a movie with shit tons of sequels and spin-offs.

[Guy83]

Im calling b. s. I don't think anyone wants to be alone. And at 19, where does this 'wisdom' come from? You've planned your whole life as a teenager?

[Unit1]

JudgmentDay has nailed it again. Especially with this

"We Single Fo' Lifers will absolutely be alright as long as we BELIEVE that we will be alright."

Be single rather than in a dysfunctional relationship. Be happy.

[JudgmentDay]

@Guy83 U MAD BRUH?

And I'm not really 19, because my real birthday is Not August 29, 1997. It's a reference, shouldn't be too hard to figure out.

In reality, more often than not, everyone dies "alone", as more often than not , even if you're married or have a partner, one spouse or partner is likely going to pass away first before the other. The only situation that won't happen is unless somehow they died together "at the same time" such as in a car accident, a plane they were on had crashed, or some other disaster like an earthquake or something. One person will Always be left behind.

I was once more deluded with the optimism when I was younger, but now I seem to feel meh, just go out there and have fun, there's very little control you have on way too much shit going on in this world anyway. Relationship or no relationship, I think everyone should just go out there and have as much fun as possible without focusing, thinking, moping and sulking over their relationship "status".

[Unit1]

Of course he mad brah. Judging by low age number is a popular low life trend and one of the dickiest manners ever. It just shows, that people have nothing better to do than picking on the minors.

Such is our world and reality.

[JudgmentDay]

@Unit1 And I'm not even 19.

[Guy83]

First of all you're definitely not my "bruh". My boys are either married, in long term relationships, or are hard core players. Second, what would I be mad for again? I can don't have to be alone, I can pretty much get laid at will. If my life were a movie? My life IS a movie dude. You wouldn't even believe half the stuff that has happened in my life and I was definitely not lonely.

[Guy83]

And who is sulking? I'm just not completely pessimistic.

[JudgmentDay]

@Guy83 That's cause nothing really substantially "bad" has occurred yet in your lifetime to affect how you may see things differently, such as those that do have a half glass empty outlook.

But when and "if" it finally occurs then it can get to you, or it will get to you.

Also I laugh whenever someone blatantly claims that they "can pretty much get laid at will", as I think it's just to make themselves feel good. No concrete proof that it's legit.

But even if what you claim is for real, I don't give a fuck. If that is your goal, and if it really is what you want to do, nothing wrong with it either.

But Play it Smart, Get a Vasectomy, don't wanna knock some girl up by mistake, as sometimes even birth control may not be safe enough.

But that's alright, just have fun and keep doin' what cha doin', because that's all we can keep doin' while the clock is still ticking and counting down for all of us, regardless of whether we are in relationships or not, or been with anyone or not.

[Guy83]

Let me tell you something kid: you have NO idea the of the bs life has thrown my way. Every lost a child? And been thrown into a two year depression so deep you want to kill yourself? Ever had the woman you loved try to stab you in a coke fueled rage? Ever had to deal with a mind that works sooo differently from 95% of the world, most people have no idea what you're talking about? No dude, I've had plenty of life setbacks. I'm just not checking out completely.

[JudgmentDay]

@Guy83 Well, THAT'S THE SPIRIT THEN!

Don't call me kid, cause I'm not actually 19. 19 years ago would be August 29, 1997, but that's not my real birthday nor my true age.

See, that's the whole point, you keep going FORWARD no matter what. Keep having as much fun as possible regardless of any relationship status or sexual status and keep on going WITHOUT checking out anytime soon. That WAS My Point!

If you got a relationship, good, nothing wrong with that. For those that don't have one, I see them frequently either whine about it, or mope or sulk about it with either takes or questions like Why I'm still single, or while I'll be single for life. And I'm like, don't even worry about that shit, just go out there and just chill and explore the fucking world already, life is too fucking short to fret and dwell on all that shit anyway. And I see that you didn't dwell on the bad shit that had happened to you, and you had the will and strength to keep going forward no matter what.

[Whaaaaa]

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[Miss_Behave]

in my opinion, there's nothing wrong with that as long as you're happy.
Relationships have started out really nice and then end up being very painful for me (maybe cos they aren't right ones, etc. etc.), and then I have to go through the process of moving on and all that.

So yea, I guess I won't be giving into it anymore next time round. Single life for me too.

[davisgirl89]

Lol there is nothing wrong with being single. Definitely use to feel the same way except I wanted children no matter what. I was even looking into the possibility of getting a donor but now. I hope you find someone but if not I hope you still enjoy life and make the most of it!

[Library]

It's okay, single or not, I just want you to be happy.

[ikissedtheskyonce]

Thanks

[Borginborg]

I am glad you know what you want and are not willing to settle. I am sure that some of these will change as you get older and circumstances change but it is refreshing to know that you already have an idea what you want. to bad more women were not like that instead of taking a bite out of every cute guy that comes there way and see if it works for them.

[BigJake]

You sound like so many girls today who tell the universe of guys to fuck off and then lament that you're single in the same breath. Standards are great, but just be smart enough to not let them get in the way when you finally meet the right person. And Henry Cavill hasn't called because he's just not that into you.

[ikissedtheskyonce]

So you would rather I go around hating men then?

[NatashaJ]

But it's mostly how a girl and a guy interacting with each other. If a girl is telling a guy to fuck off there a reason for it. No normal (guy or girl) will start spazzing towards you to fuck off or this and that something had to trigger it. I personally think guys or girls whoever in the situation triggers people to act like that to them or unless your dealing with a crack head.

[BigJake]

@NatashaJ What? You clearly didn't understand what I wrote at all.

[BigJake]

What? When and where did I ever advocate that you hate men?

[NatashaJ]

I never said you said I hate men I said a reason why a woman would random spaz at your ass if you try to talk to her. Please read before you assume something ridiculous.

[BigJake]

@NatashaJ lol take your own advice, dear. You didn't read what I wrote, or you didn't understand it.

[NatashaJ]

Did you understand what you said? you basically said so many girl spaz at guys when they talk to girls please explain why you said that and then can't handle that someone counter claims your opinion?

[BigJake]

@NatashaJ LOL I wrote nothing of the sort. I don't know what you read.

[NatashaJ]

Whatever maybe you should remember what you wrote dumbass.

[BigJake]

@NatashaJ You're a special kind of stupid.

[NatashaJ]

Or you didn't think other people will perceive what you said differently and never bother to explain what you really meant instead you kept insisting I'm wrong which makes you a dumbass. You could I don't know explain if you meant something differently idiot.

[BigJake]

@NatashaJ Learn to read.

[NatashaJ]

Whatever asscake Bye Felicia. I'm done with your ass.

[MaLifeBeLikeOooAaah]

I'll be single for a while...
1. Too independent
2. Too cynical (not a good trait)
3. People annoy me, make me cringe when they're not enthusiastic and talkative
4. Don't party much
5. Too big of an ego
6. Too dry/sarcastic, I offend easily. (even though idgaf)

[Kirah]

Well if your standards are high, there's a good solution: start approaching guys. Ask a guy out.

[ikissedtheskyonce]

I already approach guys

[Unit1]

1. Fair enough - actually yes, that's a very solid reason. LMAO! A very good way to start this mytake I'd say :D I can't blame you at all ^^
2. True
3. True
4. Fair enough.
5. Syntax error.
6. OK, that makes sense.

Hmmm. That's ok. No need to be ashamed of being single.

[fueledbythc]

Exact reasons I would prefer staying single forever. Next time I would even consider dating a girl, I would have to be friends first for awhile to get to that point. I can only be sexually attracted to a girl who I have an emotional connection with already.

[19MK34]

I've only got one reason for it... I'm ugly. Women look at me and like you feel they would be better off alone than with someone like me. I wish I wasn't this way.

[JustWorthlessMe]

amen...

[davepetef]

Surprised to see that others think sex should be reserved for the right time, not when it's customary. Good post!

[serious]

Points #1,#2,#3, #4 are absolutely fine. Yes, I do agree that having high standards as well realistic standards can make it very difficult for the person to find someone.

Overall it's a good take.

[ikissedtheskyonce]

My point was i do not have high standards

[serious]

Yes, I understand as per your first point those are normal standards

[Blobb]

Yep forever alone for you oh well, tacos and celebrity crushes are fun too ^^

[ikissedtheskyonce]

Um ok

[Shorty1991]

Ditto, but the reason I don't get out much is due to lack of funds because I'm unemployed. Good take. :)

[ikissedtheskyonce]

Im unemployed too

[FatherJack]

I'm in your " club " as a FT working single dad , do not have the time , money & more importantly , the inclination to go dating , I am No 6 of your points , I don't have a real social life , prefer to be left alone , not a great need for people.

[bloodmountain1990]

Great take. Why settle for someone just for the sake of being in a relationship? It doesn't make you happier and it hurts the other person. You should date someone because you want to, not because it's expected by society.

[ObscuredBeyond]

Me trying to settle down is a little like Batman trying to settle down. It never works. The universe bends over backwards to keep it from happening.

[Puppylove94]

Haha I'm the same way except I don't have a large wall up. The only places I go are work, school, the store and the gym regularly.

[Guy83]

Well, at least you know why you're single. What happened to you that you are so closed off?

[ikissedtheskyonce]

Bad experiences

[Guy83]

I feel you. Let them make you wiser but not define you. You're letting your life be defined by things that happened in the past. Don't let the best years of your life pass you by.

[Zorax]

I have very similar reasons, except for number 5 of course :P